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Sexual Healing : Why we Need it

I was oblivious to the orgasmic potential in my body. Unaware of any pleasure past my clitoris and even that sometimes took more effort than it was worth. For the fleeting few seconds of release. Is that all there is?

Relying on vibrators was addicting and the more I used them the more numb I became. I just didn’t know what I didn’t know, which is a silent epidemic among most women worldwide.

Historically, women have been taught that their bodies are owned by their partner in marriage, to give them satisfaction. It was just a chore. So to keep the marriage happy, women like my mom learned to just endure sex. She never really knew its power except as a way to manipulate men to get what she wanted and negotiate she did. Though eventually she turned bitter and stopped playing the game.

The hunger that doesn’t get met, as a result, leaves us starving for the nourishment that somewhere deep inside our body needs to be fed. As a Tantric love coach, I’ve worked with numerous women who cannot orgasm, or so they say. Especially with penetration sex with a partner if he is on his own rhythm woman gets left in the dust as he gallops along to the finishing line.

So why are we not feeling met and what’s missing I’ve asked myself this question so many ways this timely answer comes to me in the awakening of my own great sea of possibilities.  I think I speak for many women when I say that intercourse is not so exciting, kind of numb, or even painful when I allow myself to feel without a few drinks to numb out once more… I hear that story time after time and then I realize why women “fake it”. This short-circuits the experience and keeps it at a very low vibrational survival level which causes such a deep void between men and women.

If men only knew where women could take to they would bow on their knees and serve her as the Creatress of life. The womb of a woman is the creative power source that can activate into whirlwinds of swirls bursting through the body, in bubbles of light. Exhilarating absolutely! Uplifting and inspiring giving energy and receiving blessings as the gift of the exchange. Tantric orgasm is like tapping into the source of life itself.

We can meet in the middle. In a woman’s flow, slower is often more valuable and rewarding like the rich maturation of fine wine.

That’s where tantra comes in blending the masculine and feminine energies so we need to heal and understand each other inside and out. Your inner standing connects us to the center where we meet physically, consciously and emotionally as well as physically in the world.

Because when we meet in the middle we’re both nourished in a way that leaves us better than started like that quality of love is an elixir from the heavens.

So as we think so we experience. On some level I think all women at some point in their life feel these deep yearning desires that don’t get met.

Fleeting is the pleasure that stimulation of the clitoris can bring. As wonderful as it is for those few seconds, then there’s a quick decline in arousal overshadowed by hypersensitivity, where it’s too sensitive to touch for a while. This is much like a man feels after he’s climaxed before he zones out to sleep.

But for women it’s just the beginning of her sexual pleasure potential, even if she doesn’t know anything beyond her clitoris, her love tunnel will nudge her every now and again to remind her that there’s more pleasure inside even if it’s hard to find. That was my experience until I was shown how to discover my Om zone portal of pleasure as a cosmic, multidimensional, richly delicious portal where time stands still in the quivering pulses of life.

Since then I’ve found that a clitoral orgasm is like the doorbell that if you bring it right, it opens the sacred gates to her temple of love inside. To get a woman to fully expand and receive the fullest effects of your love, you have got to take your time and activate all her centers and erogenous zones. From the outside in, to all the internal sweet spots too. G-Spot and OMG-Spot [aka cervix] in particular.

Tantra says that women can be be multi-orgasmic! That brings up the question why do so many women feel numb, frustrated, and disinterested in sex?

Statistics show us that nearly 70% of women have difficulties achieving a deeply satisfying orgasm with penetration!  Many women are so attached to their clitoral vibrator stimulators that they don’t know what they’re missing on the inside.

Problem with the vibrator is that it creates a short-circuit to pleasure after it reaches a peak and eventually causes more numbness and hyper-sensitivity; unless it’s used very lightly like a hot spice. Many women that I work with tell me that orgasm during intercourse is hit and miss, at best. Often it’s either numb or in some degree of pain.

This can be devastating when we told it’s supposed to be a place of amazing pleasure. Why is it numb??  What’s wrong with this picture! What can we do about it?

It naturally takes women longer to reach their highest pleasure peaks and some may worry that their man won’t last long enough for her to be satisfied and reach her highest heaven inside.

Her concern fuels the problem and makes it all the more challenging, because stress, anxiety, and worry are orgasms enemies. They activate the fight or flight response which you don’t want in the bedroom.

Men are hard-wired to naturally come quick to insure that they sow their seeds and procreate the species. So when testosterone is high the urge to release is very difficult to control.

But Tantra has a solution for that to train a man to expand and become more multi-orgasmic too!

But to reach the most sublime states of intimacy, men need to learn how to at least slow down and enjoy the journey more, so his Queen can relax, open fully and receive more deeply.

I can identify with this as I was one of many women who couldn’t reliably climax with a partner. I felt broken with frustration, pressure and anxiety which exasperated the situation.

It burdens the relationship when women put this responsibility entirely their partner to be their healer and awakener. Yet it’s been a part of our cultural conditioning that men take the initiative in sex.  In this case learning to read her body language is essential as the body expressions and positions can say much more than words. Breath and sounds of her body are good cues to follow. When you breath in sync, you start to feel each other more.

Then enter the realm of sounds and see what unfolds…

Unless your partner is a trained sexual healer, it’s important for women know her own body enough that she can tap into her O-Zone within her body. Share it. Invest in it so it may grow.

Then she can educate her partner, if he’s willing to follow her lead.  I can assure you it’s worth the journey even if it feels vulnerable and scary. That’s when the deepest transformations can take place.

Here’s a massage tool that can help open the gates of Heaven by releasing and dearmoring numbness and pain, with conscious love.

Cervix wand-  Click on the image to see more….

Click on this link to see this tool and how to get it for yourself. Or for a friend...

Click on this link to see this tool and how to get it for yourself. Or for a friend…

Classes in Tantra Touch for Healing and Empowerment coming this Fall, 2022 

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