3 Essential Keys that will open a woman’s Mind, Heart, and, Yoni together.

Presence – Patience – Power

Presence:  For most women, arousal starts with the heart. She yearns to feel a connection that lets her know that she is seen and honored. Even when honoring the Queen within yourself, it’s essential to be fully present with your body so you can experience the more subtle and profound sensations.

When a man is in his head fantasizing he is not present. Nor is thinking about anything that distracts him from feeling, to avoid cuming too soon…  the key element of connection gets lost.

Without connection sex is reduced is mutual masturbation which reduces the experience to mere physical friction to get off;  instead of nurturing a loving connection.

The more beautiful and cherished a woman feels, in the eyes of her beloved, the more able she is to blossom fully in the warmth of love. I’ve experienced that when I’m fully present to being seen by my partner that awareness sends incredible tingling pleasure, like sparkling champagne bubbles up from my yoni to my crown.

The amazing thing is that this can occur sometimes even without physical touch because it blossoms from the emotion of feeling connection inside first. The excitement that stirs is so rich in its mysterious alluring depths, that it sparks energy even without touch.

From that state physical touch becomes supercharged and penetration pierces straight through to the heart like cupid’s arrow. Just knowing that she is valued and loved unconditionally helps her to relax and feel safe enough to open wide. Uneducated men often do what feels good to them which is a rapid thrusting of a woman’s vagina which can feel incredible at the right time and painful when she’s not open.

This has caused many women to shut down and resist sex because when she’s not receptive in order to protect that which she holds sacred. Like a flower, you can’t force her to open on demand. There’s an energetic opening that occurs when a woman receives her beloved into her heart.

Hard thrusting can be incredibly orgasmic, when she’s open she will naturally invite deep penetration to open completely and receive your wildest passions.

Deep to the core of her being to her os and beyond, where life literally comes from. Os is the opening of a woman’s womb. I call it the O-zone. O for opening, because whether or not she has still a womb, the opening to the source up the spine and through the kundalini channel remains energetically present.

An artist of loving touch can encourage a woman to open and discover places she never knew existed! With care, every stroke can build waves of arousal that slowly but steadily flood the body with bliss.

And to do that requires patience:

Patience.  I encourage my clients to explore themselves to find their own rhythm and pace that fuels luxuriously delicious to them so that when met with their partner, they can knowingly guide them to slow down enough so that she may tune in to her pleasurable depths.

This is especially important in the early stages of arousal when the desire is just beginning to stir.

Start slowly to awaken her desire by arousing all of her erogenous zones. Make an effort to explore more than the primaries because each erogenous zone holds its unique hidden pleasures. And they’re all delicious to discover which increases arousal and the desire for deep intimate bonding in total surrender

Delve deep enough to discover os pleasures that are possible yet dormant in every woman. Yearning to be awakened.

Women blossom best when they can relax d-e-e-p-l-y and let their bodies respond and open to the delicate sensations of opening all the layers of her desire, she then oozes the fragrant essence of the goddess.

Breathe deep together and feel the sensations grow from subtle to sublime!

If you don’t know what they need at the moment, as they’re always different… ASK! Don’t be afraid to explore. It’s fun to discover pleasure together and it empowers your partner to be your Sex-God!

A man who loves you is happiest when he can make you happy!   So don’t be shy or afraid to ask what your body needs. Learn to listen to your body and guide your partner so you can co-create a win.

She/He will thank you!

Make it an adventure to discover and transform numbness into pleasure. Pain and sadness when released and resolved can turn into clear light energy! That’s exciting! Healing and rejuvenating, it doesn’t have to be hard to let go of the past trauma when there is a love net that supports you. You can learn to create that love net so that you’re always protected from within. When you’re not the victim, you can reclaim your pleasure beyond your wildest dreams. And why wouldn’t you?

If you or someone you know yearns to feel more deeply, I am creating a course with coaching just for you. Because when you’re in a safe container supported but ones who know the way, you can grow exponentially feeling secure enough to break out of the patterns that block you repeatedly.

As we mirror each other, we are reminded of our divine essence seen in the eyes of clear ones who love you unconditionally. See you for your fullest potential and who you are meant to be who you can become and help you hold that space until you fully embody it. I take a stand for you evolving into all that you desire to be.

You can learn techniques of sexual healing that you can use when trauma is activated.  This is discussed in-depth in group programs. Private coaching, in-person or virtual seminars up to Certified Education at the Source School of Tantra. You can find many trained teachers here and lots of great content. So get support if it becomes overwhelming.

Women’s vaginas are like flowers! Before they blossom they need warmth and time to open naturally with desire!!

If there are glitches in her ability to feel fully responsive, which may be felt as pain or numbness instead of pleasure, know that those are wounds coming up from the past that can be healed in the power of the present.

Power: Imagine what life would be like if you were told when you were young, that you have a magic wand between your legs. This wand can light your path of illumination clarity and the desire to awaken your woman’s body and do amazing things to her; which will light you up even more. Also true for a man who loves to love men.

This wand of light and tremendous power can be a great teacher and healer.  So listen, honor, and learn from it wisely.

Here’s a tip to help you spread potent pleasure throughout your whole body.

Imagine that your erection is connected from your base up your spine.

Orgasms can rise up to your crown when your spine when it’s flowing without obstructions. Practicing yoga, stretching and massage are all valuable to help you clear the blocks and transmute.

Many of us are heavy with muscle memories that cause tension and stress which prevent us from feeling full body pleasure. Through massage and active movement of the spine, you can begin to raise your orgasmic ability.

My client tells me that it’s like having a full body erection!  6 feet instead of 6 inches gives you a lot more room for pleasure to expand.

So hold the vision of pleasure rising up your spine and when you feel arousal breathe it up your spine… while moving your spine to invite the sensation of pleasure inward and upward!

The benefits of this are vast as it rises it nourishes the organs in your body. Ancient Taoists and Tantric and others have known this for ages. It’s time we all awaken and discover the power of pleasure within our whole bodies.

Your thoughts are your greatest erotic trigger. So instead of fantasizing to get off, try this out instead. Visualize your erotic energy as healing light. Let it fill your belly.

Breathe deeply inviting pleasure to rise inward, opening yourself to be filled with rejuvenating life forces!

Try connecting arousal throughout your body, or to any part that ails you for healing energy to be delivered there.

You will find that your wand starts to have a wider range of sensations which helps you last longer.  And live longer with a whole lot more love and laughter!

If you’d like more guidance in this journey of awakening, I would love to support your quest!

I offer private coaching and forming a group this fall. Please inquire if you’re interested.

Women having orgasms while working out? Have you heard about that, yet?

I’ve experienced some rather intense pleasures “down there” while doing Yoga particularly when I place the soles of my feet together, knees open wide and then do cleansing breaths, bending forward. I wondered if others felt this tingling zing too… until I came across this term, “coregasm” in my research. Immediately I knew what they were referring to! And was excited to find others who knew too!!

When I furthered this research I found lots of blogs and online articles, with confirming responses and posts from female readers reaching orgasm or exercise-induced sexual pleasure, (EISP) while working out! Various surveys put out about this amazing phenomena are equally as revealing with as many as 45% of women who are asked if they have ever had an orgasm during exercise saying yes. Wow! That’s more than I would’ve thought or have heard of. Come on ladies fess up, who is having Coregasms? Please tell us more! Any guys having some EISP fun? I wanna hear from you too.

Is this one of the best-kept secrets? I think it’s time to be addressed as it holds the key to more desire and energy. It makes getting fit a lot more fun and it certainly puts a new spin on feeling pumped. I’m excited to find more ways to increase the joys of fitness. I would also love to hear from anyone reading this who would like to share your Coregasm stories. That we may all be inspired and learn from each other!

Many women also state that their first experience with an orgasm was during exercise and could not identify the feelings until their first real sexual experience due to sexual inexperience. Many women share that it was during gymnastics class or bike riding in their younger years that they had their first orgasms.

EIO is not a new, Kinsey mentioned in his book, Sexual Behavior in the Human Female, in 1953 but the topic pretty much stopped there and had not be studied since. In 2007, Men’s Health editor, Adam Campell, on his blog, The Fitness Insider, wrote a revealing article on the subject and since women and doctors have been very forth coming regarding their experiences with Coregasm.

Exercise-Induced Orgasm (EIO), is a realty that is backed by doctors and scientific research. Coregasm seems to be induced by various exercises that involve the abdominal and pelvis such as leg lifts and crunches.

Take what Joy Davidson, Ph D, author of Fearless Sex says: “When that (Coregasm) happens, usually it’s women who already have very strong pelvic muscles, and when they’re doing certain exercises that are tapping into the deep core or into the quads and inner thighs, what they wind up doing is almost automatically squeezing pelvic muscles in addition.”

Victoria Zdrok, Ph.D., a sex therapist and author of The Anatomy of Pleasure, provides insight: “A lot of women require a buildup of tension in their legs before they can achieve the release of orgasm,” she said. “So, when a woman exercises, the release of endorphin’s and dopamine, which are necessary for orgasm, combined with the tension in the abs and lower extremities, can cause the clitoral stimulation.”

The fact Coregasm is becoming more accepted by doctors and experts, and is being talked about more online, is reassuring to women who have experienced EIO. Without this discussion, many women say they felt different, or that something was ‘wrong’ with them, and since reading that they are not alone, feel much better and relaxed about the whole thing; embracing what they see more as a blessing now and than a curse.

It seems that what is required is the squeezing of core muscles. Chin ups, hanging leg raises and crunches, floor crunches, and single leg planks are ideal for women to reach EIO. Rarely is Coregasm achieved with a single movement either; it seems to take several movements and pumping to create enough pulsing to achieve EIO.

Many women report that once they experience a Coregasm at the gym, they will take the experience home to bed with them. Women reveal that duplicating the exercises or exercise movements at the gym during intercourse intensifies their orgasms with their partners, as well as when they masturbate with or without a vibrator.

Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., a sex researcher and educator at Indiana University, and Men’s Healty Bedroom Confidential columnist says: “I’ve heard similar gym stories before with different machines. This may be happening due to a combination of women bearing down on pelvic muscles while at the same time squeezing her thighs together (which may stimulate her clitoris) as she brings them upward.”

Debby also gives this bit of advice for Coregasm safety: “I would emphasize, though, that as fun as these are, women should always maintain proper form during physical exercise so that they don’t hurt themselves and so that they get the best physical benefits from exercise. If an orgasm “just happens” to occur while using good form, that may be an added bonus, but I would advise women not to pursue an orgasm at the expense of proper form. After all, they can always enjoy orgasms later on at home or in the shower.”

From various posts and comments online, it is obvious many women do not take Ms. Herbenick’s advice and are actively trying to recreate EOI when they are working out. Many women state that a Coregasm is a great motivator for them to hit the gym and workout; the common feeling is that EIO is a very pleasant reward for their exercise efforts.

And what about trainers? Do they witness their clients having Coregasm duing training sessions? Terri Walsh, owner of ART Studio NYC, says: “I believe it totally, I never had anybody have an orgasm in my presence — as far as I know, but I definitely heard about it in my spinning classes. A lot of exercise, when it’s done properly, can get you in tune with your body. Sometimes you get in tune with it quicker than your mind can.”

Want to try to achieve EIO yourself? Try these tips:

• Concentrate on squeezing your abs when you do core exercises. When you do this you are also contracting your pelvic floor muscles which is an important component of achieving orgasm.

• Studies show that the best exercise for EIO are leg lifts, crunches, hanging chair lifts, chin ups. Some women have said they achieve Coregasm while running up hill – the key is the squeezing of the abs. Yoga has also been reported as the cause of an Coregasm, which makes sense given that most of yoga’s postures require squeezing and contracting of core muscles.

• Don’t worry about people looking at you weird in the gym; women say that no one ever notices when they have a Coregasm, and that it is very easy to control your reaction to the orgasm achieved during EIO. When you feel something happen just go with it and enjoy.

It seems from various studies that once you have experienced a Coregasm, you are more then likely to repeat the experience as a high percentage of women who responded to online surveys share that their experiences and not just one time; but an ongoing event, with 10% saying they had no control of EIO.

Coregasm is gaining recognition and popping up in many mainstream fitness blogs and articles. Coregasm is a natural event when certain factors are present; so if you are lucky enough to experience EOI, I say relax and enjoy!

And if you’re free enough to share this secret source of life force in an interview to publish your experiences anonymously of course… I will give you a free 45 min Discovery Session and others prizes! Or If you want to share your experience more profoundly, please send a video of your Coregasm fun!

I’ll soon submit mine for you to view… Send me an email to tell me more and take this poll too:

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In ancient Tantric traditions, women revealed mysteries of female Shakti. Shakti is the creative, spiritual, and sexual life force energy that, when awakened in you, will bring forth harmony, balance, and the God Essence, which is your birthright.

During the weekend we will gently guide, educate, and initiate you into your Sacred Space, your genitals. You will be in a safe, private, and supportive environment for this awakening and healing, as we birth forth the Priestess within you and assist in the healing of your inner child. Discover for yourself how non-sexual hands-on work with women will assist you in finding your full, happy, healed, and empowered self.

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Tabloids exaggerate and tell crazy numbers about interesting stories, to get attention. Now that’s just fine with me as long as I get to tell the true side of the story, for those who look past the sensationalism and into what’s really true. 

So what inspired this blog post is that I want people to get to know the real me, beyond the tabloid that spread my name worldwide, overnight, in an a less than desirable way . At the time, I was outraged that my personal life had been so distorted and exposed to the world.  I was bombarded by the media with tons of requests for interviews, TV shows and documentaries. I declined many of them because the intimate nature of my work was personal and private. I couldn’t see it going public. But now I feel blessed and am grateful that I had the exposure.  It certainly opened up a lot of doors for me, however, I just wish it was better now, because it turned my life upside down.

When the the feature article came out in The Sun, I went undergrouond, in the desert, I wanted to make certain that I would be fairly represented because of what I really offer and how profoundly people’s lives are transformed spiritually,sexually, & emotionally because of it.

Inside Edition wanted to interview me, which I thought was great, but only if they got the right angle.  They wanted me to have a client on the show and I wanted to be sure that that would be a safe and respectable environment for her. I had a great female client in mind to show another view of my work and its importance for women.  I thought it would redirect attention towards providing women with profound sexual transformations,  a service that is much needed by many women who have had sexual abuse in their past. 

She was a victim of marital rape who eventually left her husband in spite of restrictions of her religion. It would’ve been a great example for other women.  For some reason,I never got called back after correcting the lies in the article below — which is astounding because is it not equally, if not, more important of a story? I hope to have the opportunity to present this meaningful and profound healing aspect of my work with both men and women.

Here’s what The Sun said — Along with my commentary:

The Sun:  This woman has had sex with more than a thousand men – and most of them are the husbands or boyfriends of other women.

My comment: In truth, I don’t have sex with clients unless it is the appropriate action to assist him in healing or learning and refining his sexual experience as part of a Sex Surrogate Partner package. If he’s married, it would be ideal to have his wife’s approval, but even better, her participation. I love helping couples love & please one another better.  Working with Tantra, there are many ways to exchange sexual energy.  Many of which do not involve any exchange of sexual fluids or intercourse.   When I was practicing as a sex surrogate, I worked as part of a therapy team, usually with a psychologist or psychiatrist on board.  We worked on his entire well-being including his  intimacy and sexual skills.  Occasionally intercourse was a part of their training to help them to hone their skills, become fully integrated and ready for their significant other.

On a few occasions I worked with virgins who came to me to learn and have their first experience.  In these cases,I would have intercourse with the client as their initiation. After several sessions,as the culmination of a series in the art of love and pleasure.

In some ancient cultures from India and several other countries, at the age of puberty, every young man and woman would have a private sexual educator to educate and assist them in their sexual development.  I think all men could benefit from such education and introduction to sex at any age. It’s never too late to start, as long as you’re willing to expand your points of view, tantra can work for anyone of any age. The more evolved you are when you begin, the higher you can soar!

The Sun : Mare Simone, calls herself a “sex surrogate” and has devoted her working life to helping men, women, and couples overcome problems in the bedroom.  As a qualified sex surrogate, she has given lessons in love to more than 10,000 clients over the past 23 years.

My comment: I said I have intimate relations with most of my clients sometimes intimacy is with touch and other times just in conversation. Your idea that sex surrogacy equals sexual penetration is based on ignorance that there is only one way to be truly intimate. And that’s not true.  Which is exactly what excites me about tantra– it’s a personal practice that builds a field of radiance so you come together at the highest level of your adult developed sexual being. And in the process healing wounds from any ghosts that may exist from their sexual past.

The Sun:  And while she estimates she has had penetrative sex some of them, she insists there is nothing illegal about what she does.  Mare says, “I earn my living by sleeping with other women’s husbands or boyfriends.

My comment: For the record I don’t sleep with my clients.  I actually awaken them to become better lovers.  And then send them home to love  and sleep with their wives.  In fact if I’m working with a married man who is not with his wife in session, I have him visualize his wife while we are doing practices that this might stimulate and focus his sexual energy home, towards her! I am in no way a prostitute as sex surrogacy is legal, as long as it is done in a therapeutic and healing atmosphere.  A clear distinction between a sex surrogate from prostitution is how beneficial the session was for the days and weeks afterwards. That’s what really counts.  I hope to leave them better than I found them.  What did they gain from my teachings and services? Did they heal or learn something meaningful? And will it transform their lives for good in the most joyful and important ways?  That is my aim and intention with each client I see.

“People are paying for counseling and to cure their problems – not sex.  I am helping improve and change the sex lives of thousands of men, which means I am also helping improve the sex lives of their wives and girlfriends.  Some women become baby surrogates because they want to help women who can’t have children. In the same way, I feel drawn to helping others have an intimate sex life.  My job is so fulfilling and enjoyable. Seeing my customers leave with a new-found sexual confidence is a wonderful sight.”

Single Mare, world traveler, based in Southern California and sees clients internationally conducts around 5-10 sessions online and in person. She sees people from all walks of life. She says: “My clients are all ages, shapes, sizes and professions. They have either been recommended to see me by a sex therapist or former client, they find me online, or they seek me out through tantra and sexual surrogate organizations.

“The men generally need help with erection and premature ejaculation problems or have been sent by their wives because they weren’t pleasing them in bed.  Before they see me, they all have an STD test, and must always use a condom with me.  I also have some women come to me. Their problems are usually that they can’t orgasm and have often had some sort of sexual trauma. I show them how to pleasure themselves and make them love their bodies.  Some visit me for a few sessions, while others have a series of 12, depending on the extent of their problems. Or the extent of their desires.  All of my sessions start by chatting, I sometimes touch their hands or rub their feet to help them feel relaxed and comfortable with me.  During the next few sessions I move to giving them back and shoulder massages, so the client relaxes further while talking about their problems. Following that, we do a mirror exercise. This is where the client and I will both take off our clothes and look at our bodies in the mirror.  Usually, they feel very timid about their bodies and find it difficult to look at themselves. But when they realise I am not judging them, they begin to open up and feel confident.  At that stage I move on to front body massages. I take over ‘down below’, showing them how they should be touching themselves.  Finally, it’s time to put everything into practice. This is the stage of lovemaking, so they can learn how to control themselves and solve their sexual problems.  My job is basically to make people realize their problems are not just physical. They are in the mind and have a lot to do with self-confidence.”

Mare has not always been so sexually open. At the age of 19, she was raped by a male friend after accepting a late-night lift home from a party.  Too afraid to report the attack, she lost her confidence in men and sex. When she married her first husband, Victor, ten years later, she still could orgasm with him.  She recalls:

“My fear of sex put a huge strain on my husband and I knew deep down it was due to the rape.  I needed sexual healing but didn’t know where to find it. Overnight I went from being outgoing to being introverted. When I did date, I found making love brought back unhealed memories.  When I married Victor, our sex life was never great and after four years we divorced but we have remained friends.  It was then that a friend recommended I start reading about tantric sex and sexual surrogacy.  Learning about this unknown world of sexual healing made me feel that there was hope for me to get my sexual confidence back.”

Mare took a weekend course in Tantra Yoga where she learnt about tantric sex, an ancient Hindu practice that concentrates on a slower form of sex. She says, “It was fascinating and during the course I also realised, for the first time, that the rape I had endured a decade before was not my fault. I could enjoy sex without feeling dirty, ashamed or guilty.”

She continued studying tantra and was certified in two lineages one being The Source School of Tantra Yoga where she studied with Charles and Caroline Muir for several years; and the other Ipsalu-Tantra Kriya Yoga.

She also did a two year long training program with Dr. Michael Perry MFCC in Southern California where she developed the skills of sex surrogacy practices and worked with his patients.  She even produced a video with him called ‘Sexual Secrets, A Sex Surrogates Guide to Great Sex’.

Now, Mare spends most of her time writing and developing content to offer on-line to her growing clientele.  She also offers phone consultations and teleseminars and sometimes webinars to people worldwide. She says, “I see about one or two people a day and charge around $200 per hour. Sometimes I will massage a husband in front of his wife or vice versa, to show them both how to be more sensitive lovers. Then I invite them to join me in massaging the other so the receiver is getting four-hands… and the other partner is learning a great deal.  Often, couples find just talking openly to a third person about the problems in their love life helps in the bedroom.”

Although she is proud of her job, she still finds it difficult to tell strangers and family about her work.  She also does not discuss it with any potential boyfriends until we know each other well.  She says,”I usually tell them I am a yoga teacher, until I trust them enough to tell them the form of yoga I teach.  Some can’t cope with it and run a mile, while others simply find it fascinating and are impressed.  Well tantra is a yoga and so there was no lie in that and sacred sex is just a part of the total Tantra experience. Ultimately it is a path of enlightenment.  A few trusted friends know what I do and my family knows but they rarely ask or want to know much about it. As part of my work, I regularly do sexual surrogacy tours, traveling the world, helping people with their most intimate problems.  The last time I was in London I saw 30 clients, some who had booked me months in advance.  It’s amazing how many people in the UK desperately want help with their sex lives, but have no idea where to turn.  There are many sex surrogates in the US but they are extremely rare in the UK.  People have to understand that intimate sex sometimes has to be learned. It does not come naturally to some people. The stress of modern life can cause problems and it’s my job to fix that.  Since I started surrogacy work, I have seen more than 8,000 clients and estimate that I have had penetrative sex with around 20. And most of them became lovers!  Witnessing the men and women I help make huge improvements and feel confident about their bodies is wonderful.  In the 20 years I have been doing this job, I have never felt miserable about going to work. I love what I do and have no plans to retire within the next ten years.  I am a sexual healer and so proud and happy that I found my dream job.”

End of The Sun article.

Looking back on that article now from 5 years ago, I see how much more I’ve grown to appreciate and value the power of sexual healing. When this article 1st came out I went in hiding feeling as though it had disgraced me and my profession. Cosmic going much deeper to understand the work of sexual healing. When you come to understand is that often times the wounds that occur and linger like a shield are often brought up when we try to love another and find ourselves blocked and unable to trust enough to be fully present.

Because of my sexual assault experiences from my past I feel strongly called to support others through that personal trauma and I know that often the most challenging times arise when you’re with a partner touching those places that have been charged with fear. What can you do in the moment to find comfort in present time? If you can recall that experience in an environment where you are loved, the experience can transform from fearful and dark to light filled love that be this you in a new light.  Sexual wounds get washed away in the overlay being in the delights of pleasure. It’s like rewiring the brain to associate pleasure with positive joyful love! And overlaying a new association thereby discharging negative imprints and memories with love. Eventually the negative cesspool of shame that’s been hiding in the body gets a new light and transforms. This is the alchemy of sexual energy which I will continue in another post…

Tantra does more than simply enhance one’s lovemaking skills. It teaches us to be more aware of the life force that is always flowing through us, and how to guide that flow consciously. The more you flow with it, the more it flows to you and through you to energize your life. The high energy flowing through our body and brain is very nourishing, balancing and rejuvenating. And couples who practice Tantra together give each other the gift of life through pleasure and joy. the greatest gift we can give one another, and it’s priceless!  (more…)

Originally carried in Penthouse Magazine (Mare is quoted near the end of the article)

by Russ Farrell

A cop recently asked me a question. No, it wasn’t what did I think I was doing driving 65 in a school zone. That was a different cop. This one, aware of my connection to this informative publication, wanted to know whether female ejaculation was fact or fiction. The thing is, I wasn’t able to answer his question based on personal experience. None of my sexual partners has ever ejaculated, at least not with me. Some have gotten Wonder-bread moist. A few, I dare say, have even gotten wet. But not a one has emitted that radiant geyser of jism that I’ve seen featured in porn videos. (more…)