3 Essential Keys that will open a woman’s Mind, Heart, and, Yoni together.
Presence – Patience – Power
Presence: For most women, arousal starts with the heart. She yearns to feel a connection that lets her know that she is seen and honored. Even when honoring the Queen within yourself, it’s essential to be fully present with your body so you can experience the more subtle and profound sensations.
When a man is in his head fantasizing he is not present. Nor is thinking about anything that distracts him from feeling, to avoid cuming too soon… the key element of connection gets lost.
Without connection sex is reduced is mutual masturbation which reduces the experience to mere physical friction to get off; instead of nurturing a loving connection.
The more beautiful and cherished a woman feels, in the eyes of her beloved, the more able she is to blossom fully in the warmth of love. I’ve experienced that when I’m fully present to being seen by my partner that awareness sends incredible tingling pleasure, like sparkling champagne bubbles up from my yoni to my crown.
The amazing thing is that this can occur sometimes even without physical touch because it blossoms from the emotion of feeling connection inside first. The excitement that stirs is so rich in its mysterious alluring depths, that it sparks energy even without touch.
From that state physical touch becomes supercharged and penetration pierces straight through to the heart like cupid’s arrow. Just knowing that she is valued and loved unconditionally helps her to relax and feel safe enough to open wide. Uneducated men often do what feels good to them which is a rapid thrusting of a woman’s vagina which can feel incredible at the right time and painful when she’s not open.
This has caused many women to shut down and resist sex because when she’s not receptive in order to protect that which she holds sacred. Like a flower, you can’t force her to open on demand. There’s an energetic opening that occurs when a woman receives her beloved into her heart.
Hard thrusting can be incredibly orgasmic, when she’s open she will naturally invite deep penetration to open completely and receive your wildest passions.
Deep to the core of her being to her os and beyond, where life literally comes from. Os is the opening of a woman’s womb. I call it the O-zone. O for opening, because whether or not she has still a womb, the opening to the source up the spine and through the kundalini channel remains energetically present.
An artist of loving touch can encourage a woman to open and discover places she never knew existed! With care, every stroke can build waves of arousal that slowly but steadily flood the body with bliss.
And to do that requires patience:
Patience. I encourage my clients to explore themselves to find their own rhythm and pace that fuels luxuriously delicious to them so that when met with their partner, they can knowingly guide them to slow down enough so that she may tune in to her pleasurable depths.
This is especially important in the early stages of arousal when the desire is just beginning to stir.
Start slowly to awaken her desire by arousing all of her erogenous zones. Make an effort to explore more than the primaries because each erogenous zone holds its unique hidden pleasures. And they’re all delicious to discover which increases arousal and the desire for deep intimate bonding in total surrender
Delve deep enough to discover os pleasures that are possible yet dormant in every woman. Yearning to be awakened.
Women blossom best when they can relax d-e-e-p-l-y and let their bodies respond and open to the delicate sensations of opening all the layers of her desire, she then oozes the fragrant essence of the goddess.
Breathe deep together and feel the sensations grow from subtle to sublime!
If you don’t know what they need at the moment, as they’re always different… ASK! Don’t be afraid to explore. It’s fun to discover pleasure together and it empowers your partner to be your Sex-God!
A man who loves you is happiest when he can make you happy! So don’t be shy or afraid to ask what your body needs. Learn to listen to your body and guide your partner so you can co-create a win.
She/He will thank you!
Make it an adventure to discover and transform numbness into pleasure. Pain and sadness when released and resolved can turn into clear light energy! That’s exciting! Healing and rejuvenating, it doesn’t have to be hard to let go of the past trauma when there is a love net that supports you. You can learn to create that love net so that you’re always protected from within. When you’re not the victim, you can reclaim your pleasure beyond your wildest dreams. And why wouldn’t you?
If you or someone you know yearns to feel more deeply, I am creating a course with coaching just for you. Because when you’re in a safe container supported but ones who know the way, you can grow exponentially feeling secure enough to break out of the patterns that block you repeatedly.
As we mirror each other, we are reminded of our divine essence seen in the eyes of clear ones who love you unconditionally. See you for your fullest potential and who you are meant to be who you can become and help you hold that space until you fully embody it. I take a stand for you evolving into all that you desire to be.
You can learn techniques of sexual healing that you can use when trauma is activated. This is discussed in-depth in group programs. Private coaching, in-person or virtual seminars up to Certified Education at the Source School of Tantra. You can find many trained teachers here and lots of great content. So get support if it becomes overwhelming.
Women’s vaginas are like flowers! Before they blossom they need warmth and time to open naturally with desire!!
If there are glitches in her ability to feel fully responsive, which may be felt as pain or numbness instead of pleasure, know that those are wounds coming up from the past that can be healed in the power of the present.
Power: Imagine what life would be like if you were told when you were young, that you have a magic wand between your legs. This wand can light your path of illumination clarity and the desire to awaken your woman’s body and do amazing things to her; which will light you up even more. Also true for a man who loves to love men.
This wand of light and tremendous power can be a great teacher and healer. So listen, honor, and learn from it wisely.
Here’s a tip to help you spread potent pleasure throughout your whole body.
Imagine that your erection is connected from your base up your spine.
Orgasms can rise up to your crown when your spine when it’s flowing without obstructions. Practicing yoga, stretching and massage are all valuable to help you clear the blocks and transmute.
Many of us are heavy with muscle memories that cause tension and stress which prevent us from feeling full body pleasure. Through massage and active movement of the spine, you can begin to raise your orgasmic ability.
My client tells me that it’s like having a full body erection! 6 feet instead of 6 inches gives you a lot more room for pleasure to expand.
So hold the vision of pleasure rising up your spine and when you feel arousal breathe it up your spine… while moving your spine to invite the sensation of pleasure inward and upward!
The benefits of this are vast as it rises it nourishes the organs in your body. Ancient Taoists and Tantric and others have known this for ages. It’s time we all awaken and discover the power of pleasure within our whole bodies.
Your thoughts are your greatest erotic trigger. So instead of fantasizing to get off, try this out instead. Visualize your erotic energy as healing light. Let it fill your belly.
Breathe deeply inviting pleasure to rise inward, opening yourself to be filled with rejuvenating life forces!
Try connecting arousal throughout your body, or to any part that ails you for healing energy to be delivered there.
You will find that your wand starts to have a wider range of sensations which helps you last longer. And live longer with a whole lot more love and laughter!
If you’d like more guidance in this journey of awakening, I would love to support your quest!
I offer private coaching and forming a group this fall. Please inquire if you’re interested.
