Sex surrogates: Would you sleep with a stranger to save your sex life?

Powerful piece on Sex Surrogate Partner Therapy made the cover Marie Claire UK! May 2016! It
addressed this tender topic with such empathy I was in tears while I was interviewed… Moved me again when I read the final piece.
Sex surrogates: Would you sleep with a stranger to save your sex life?
Though surrogates don’t exactly “sleep” with their clients, we more likely awaken them to a fuller experience of life. Nor are we “strangers” as the article implies, at the time of sharing sexual intimacy because we spend significant amounts of time developing a deep intimate rapport before physically touching.
In many ways were probably more intimate than many couples who don’t spend time getting to know one their significant other’s thoughts, feelings, desires and dislikes.

All things considered, I’m pleased with this article. I trust that it gets into the hands of people who are ready for it.
Marie ClaireUK

For most people it IS quite a vulnerable confession to openly admit that they receive any kind of sex coaching or guidance to improve their love life. Not to their friends let alone to the public who will read it online. Worse yet to do this live on TV!

I honor them for being willing to be transparent about their issues, so that they may be examples to help others who are afflicted with similar challenges.

Though he was reluctant at first, Nate eventually let go and trusted the process. Then he had some major breakthroughs that were edgy and raw, captured on camera. Documented and aired on Discovery TV. Thank you for being exactually as you are!

Click here to see a video clip of sessions they did with me that aired on TV
It’s time people come out their closets; so they can play and love more passionately! I am thrilled when an article like this hits the stands or TV because it helps transform crippling feelings of sexual shame, fear and ignorance into playful sexual ecstasy wrapped with love and intimacy!

If you are wondering who Surrogate Partner Therapy or SPT is helpful for? Or if it can help you or someone you love…

Surrogate Partner Therapy can be very effective in helping people with trauma recovery rapidly. Once the issue is cleared and no longer holding you back from saying yes, to what you want, there is so much energy and pleasure to be discovered. Wayyy beyond the shamed status quo into high stratospheres of sacred pleasure, passion and power!

So for those who want to explore more and deeper authentic intimacy, this is for you too!

You don’t have to be traumatized to seek assistance or improve your love life. Overcoming trauma and numbness are areas I specialize in, because I learned to transform my own numbness and fear through curiosity; discovering body sensations and the depths of my feminine sensuality which awakened deliciousness like melting chocolate.

Click here to view the article that I got from the journalist at the time of this writing, it hasn’t come out stands yet! And they wait till it is off the stand before making available online, as they want want you to buy it direct from Marie Claire UK!

Here’s a candid interview video I just posted on YouTube of The Darlings in an interview never before published They are quoted several times in the Marie Claire article as they were in a TV documentary with me as my clients.
In the afterglow Interview with Nate and Monique Darling.

If you value this post or like the video, please comment and pass it on…Thanks!

Libido Alive Diet – For a Luscious, Orgasmic Life-Style!

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Valentine’s Day is just around the corner ladies and gentlemen, and with this sweet and sexy holiday comes certain expectations. While most of us might look forward to spending the evening in with our lovers, some may feel unprepared and possibly even anxious about performing correctly on this most sensual holiday.

However, it may be easier than you think to enhance your libido, vamp up your sex-drive and get ready for a wild night with your lover. Interestingly, the foods we consume can directly affect our sex-drive, and either become aphrodisiacs or mood killers. For thousands of years human beings have known about the link between food and sex drive, but it wasn’t until science began researching these links that we’ve been able to prove that certain foods do hold power over our bodies. Now we know which foods boost or numb our reproductive organs. By paying attention to our diets and consuming the right nutrients, we can live a fabulous and orgasmic life-style.

To help you gain a better grasp on the right foods for your sex life, we have crafted a brief overview of libido improving aphrodisiacs that are guaranteed to make you ready for V-Day. Some of the items on our list might surprise you while others might not be so surprising, but come at each of them with an open mind and prepare yourself for a lustful experience with your lover after giving these scrumptious sex foods a go.


It doesn’t take a stretch of the imagination to realize that avocados look an awful lot like a pair of male testicles. The ancient Aztecs even named the avocado tree the “testicle tree”. Aside from there erotic shape, avocados also have been proven to vamp up the level of testosterone in those who consume them on a regular basis. This is excellent for both men and women as testosterone increases the libido and drives blood to the genitalia.

Ginger Root

This spicy root has a direct affect on the circulatory system. Although most people opt to consume ginger when they have a virus of some sort, it also has a powerful effect on blood flow to the vagina and the penis thereby directly increasing sex-drive.

Tip: Make some ginger root tea on the morning of Valentine’s Day to get yourself and your lover in the mood.


While it may not taste like something that will get you ready for action, arugula has a powerful effect on the body. Not only is this super food excellent for nearly all of our vital organs, but it also has a way of ridding our bodies of toxins that prevent arousal. You can easily add this spicy leafy green into a salad to gain the orgasmic affects later on.

Chili Peppers

Noting says sex quite like spicy food, and with good reason. Chili peppers are notorious for stimulating a certain tingle between the legs, and thanks to their power to help the brain release endorphins these spicy herbs made their way onto our libido foods list. You and your lover can either dare each other to chow down a bite of a chili pepper or you can simply add it to your favorite dish to literally “spice-things-up.”

Tip: To increase the effect of chili peppers/powder, add some to a batch of libido-enhancing avocado based guacamole to take things up a notch.


You’re probably thinking—Basil? But, this tasty little herb packs some serious orgasmic power. In fact, this sensual gift from the earth even has the power to trigger sexual urges and desires in otherwise flat libidos. Soups like tomato basil have an incredible ability to heat things up from the inside out. Don’t judge an herb by its reputation, instead add a little basil to your meal and discover a powerful orgasm in the aftershocks.

StrawberriesChocolate covered strawberry

Erotic, sensual and passionate strawberries are the perfect food to feed your partner to get things going and are one of the most common foods during Valentines. Heart shaped and rich in zinc (a well-known aphrodisiac), strawberries are a must eat to boost your sex-drive and increase your desire to please your lover.

Tip: Nearly all berries contain high levels of zinc and manganese which is crucial for blood flow, energy, and sexual arousal. Other excellent choices include raspberries and blueberries.


How could we leave this natural aphrodisiac off of our list of libido enhancing foods? Chocolate, primarily dark chocolate, is jammed full of caffeine which stimulates the heart and jump starts your circulatory system. Additionally, theobromine (the chemical that powers-up the heart) is alive and well in dark chocolate and will also make you more sensitive to your lover’s touch, making sex even more pleasurable.

Tip: Opt for chocolate covered strawberries for a sensual treat you and your lover can share that is sure to increase your stamina and get your blood pumping.  

This year, discover the Libido Alive Diet and make this Valentine’s Day a day you and your lover won’t soon forget.

How Long Does a Session Last?

The first session is a minimum of two hours. This gives us enough time to establish a significant degree of trust, which then allows us to explore the deep levels of intimacy that are inherent in this practice.

Since Tantra prolongs pleasure and extends one’s orgasmic capacity, thus allowing you to experience the nourishing benefits of deep bliss; longer sessions also can be arranged. I recommend booking an extended session especially if it’s not likely that we can meet on a very regular basis.

Soulmate Mania Summit – Interview with Mare Simone

Here’s a private page of an interview I did with Dr. Rusty founder of the Soulmate Mania Summit. 

Not many have seen this video because it is not been released to the public. It’s only available privately. I think you may find it valuable whether or not you have found your soulmate as I speak more about discovering the inner god or goddess within you that awakens your passion.

I want to share this with you – my first readers. And if you find something of value in the interview or have questions/comments you’d like to share, please do so in the comments section. And I will respond to you personally!

If I can answer your question I’ll do it live on the webinar and give you a free ticket to the entire 5-week series – Whole Body O!

FREE GIFT : for those of you who comment on YouTube, I’d like to give you a special gift and get your input to create the most valuable gifts. I’d like you to be on my test market team and attend the first webinar for free in exchange for your feedback. I’m excited to share everything I know and ignite the world with pleasure on the World Wide Web!

We’ll talk about my favorite subjects the healing powers of orgasm, And tips on how to have a Whole Body O – something I think everyone ought to know! So write your questions down because we’ll A at the end.

If you’d like a private consultation, fill out a profile form and we’ll arrange for a free half-hour Ecstatic Discovery Session to help you as a couple or individual to tap into your source of peace, pleasure and personal empowerment.


Tantra -The Main Event in Chicago! Sept. 26-28, 2014

September 26-28, 2014

The Beginners Weekend Seminar is a wonderful introduction to the transformative powers of Tantra Yoga. In a safe (no nudity) environment you will learn how to use sexual energy for increased intimacy, spiritual connection, and pleasure beyond your imagination.

You will begin to master the many methods of regeneration so you can make love well into your old age, keeping you young for many years to come. Open to Singles and Couples!

Here are a few of the weekend Goodies…

♥ Breathing in lovemaking ~ key to ecstasy
♥ Touching ~ 6 kinds of healing and erotic touch
♥ Tired of dating? Discover the skills to attract the Beloved
♥ Learn how your eyes, words, emotions, and vulnerability can bring you to intimacy bliss!
Freeing the female orgasm~ it’s easy!
♥ 1,001 methods of exquisite pelvic movement
♥ Sexual awakening for men ~ the Secret that can Quadruple the length and power of your orgasm
♥ Advanced lovemaking techniques you will use forever
♥ Female sacred spot massage ritual ~ step-by-step instructions to heal, awaken, and release unlimited energy
♥ Internal muscular exercises for increased energy and pleasure, and so much more…

Cost: $495

Click here to register


Lakshmi Devi Luster:
888.682.6872, Ext. 119

Seven Magical Benefits Associated With Sex

young couple in bedA long run, a bar of dark chocolate, a hard laugh and sex. What do they all have in common? They are all great for our bodies, inside and out. Each has the ability to elicit feel good body chemicals and reduce stress.

But one of those can help improve your body, mind and soul in seven additional ways. Seven. Which one is it? Sex, naturally.

Having good, meaningful, earth shattering sex can do more for you than just making you feel good. Working towards having a healthy sexual life can ultimately transform the rest of your life. Check out these 7 additional health benefits associated with sex and then hit the sheets and see how you can improve your life

1. Promotes healthy and younger looking skin:
Sex can make you look younger. Forget about all of the expensive facial creams. Thirty minutes of sex here and there can help you look seven years younger due to the growth hormone that is released during sex.

2. Helps you sleep better:
Ever wonder why you pass out immediately after an especially long bedroom session? Your overwhelming sleepiness is due to the oxytocin your body releases post sex. Also known as the love hormone, this chemical is released during child birth, breast feeding and orgasms causing the two involved to feel more connected and simultaneously get sleepy. So consider knocking boots on those nights you suffer from insomnia.

3. Not only reduces stress, but helps you deal with new stressors better:
In the moment, sex can help you reduce stress, but it also can help you deal with stress better in the long term. When you have sex, your body actively decreases its levels of cortisol, a chemical that builds up due to caffeine, sleep deprivation and most of all stress. High levels of cortisol actually make it harder to deal with stress when it comes, thus having lower levels can make you accept stressors more easily and think clearer through them.

4. It can help you lose weight:
Naturally, any type of physical activity is going to help you lose weight, but how many work outs do you really enjoy? Sex can appease both sides of you, the enjoyment side and the side of you that wants to lose weight. So hit the sheets the next time you don’t feel like going to the gym. Check out the caloric sex math and get inspired.

5. Boosts your self-esteem:
Sex can boost your self esteem and confidence in two ways. In one way, sex makes you feel attractive. Here is someone who can’t keep their hands off of you and wants you. That’s a great feeling and can make you feel sexy inside and out. Watching someone else enjoy themselves because of what you’re doing and being able to show someone what you like can also boost your self-esteem. If you aren’t sure what you like, take the time to find out on your own first. Spend some time alone with your hand or a toy from a sex store like Adam and Eve. Then take your new found knowledge to your partner and watch as they light up.

6. Can help you deal with pain:
That same love chemical that helps you sleep better also helps boost your body’s level of endorphins. This happy surge of chemicals works as a natural painkiller, which can help temporarily alleviate the pain associated with headaches, arthritis and PMS. So don’t skip out on getting busy the next time because you don’t feel good!

7. Builds a better connection to your partner:
Low and behold, that same little hormone that’s already done so much is going to help you again. Like I said before, oxytocin is released during orgasm (breastfeeding, hugging, and child birth). It’s your body’s way of connecting with others and creating bonds. When you orgasm during sex, your body releases oxytocin so you can feel bonded to the person who did it. Consider heading to the bedroom if your relationship is feeling a little dull and in need of a pick me up.

PE to PIE! – Tantra PIE!

Passion Immersion Experience is a deep, fully immersed experience of private coaching and guidance into your personal realms of inner-peace, pleasure and passionate empowerment.

We are all motivated to either move towards pleasure or away from pain. Living in your passion means focusing on what you want, instead of what you don’t want. Passion brings desire and juice that fuels your journey. With passion you can be recharged with exhilarating energy, from your core.

We have all been taught to constrict and limit our pleasure potential. Here you will learn to expand your horizons by releasing whatever holds you back so that you can embrace pleasure and bathe in its sweetness.

This journey will focus on immersing you in all total presence with passion and pleasure we can arouse with an intense focus on your receiving until you are fully immersed in bliss! It’s a renewal experience, like a total cleaning of your body and mind. Creating more space for pleasure is like a full-body reboot which awakens and aligns you with your center.

Being centered and fully present in your body heart and mind provides the greatest opportunities for enormous growth and profound intimacy. Feeling seen and seeing deeply into one another. From that state you will learn how to empower your partner with pleasure…

Women have a vast capacity to dive deep into the realms of unlimited pleasure and multiple O’s. Trained men have this ability too. Most of us never learned how to enjoy intimate and erotic pleasures. And most men need training to be able to ride high waves for a long time!

Explore the inner/outer game of sexual-self-mastery and be filled with powerful rejuvenating energies!

Passion Immersion Experience Menu:
Half day Passion Immersion Experience – 3 hr session & snacks $700

Full-day Passion Immersion Experience- 6 hr session & meal $1197

3-day PIE Passion Immersion Experience & some meals $2997

Healthy meals prepared by my loving hands. Some co-created meals to promote the value of getting rich nutrition for a radiant high libido lifestyle.

**Sexy Super Foods** – Nourishment is an important part of the practice. We will prepare food and eat consciously with highly nutritional, yet yummy super foods that nourish our bodies and give us potent fuel that will enable us to sustain prolonged and heightened states of pleasure-filled energy.

All sessions include a followup phone or Skype session.
Contact me for a complementary consultation and to reserve your space at


Mare Simone A,CTE is a Personal Passion Coach certified in advanced levels of Tantra and Sexual Healing. She is an Advanced Certified Tantra Educator and also certified as a Sex-Surrogate Partner. For full bio click here.

3 Keys to Please a Woman – and a great tip for men to extend… !

The majority of women are unaware of their own mystique and sexual powers!  In fact most have barely experienced a glimpse of their orgasmic potential. We keep hearing that women are capable of being multi-orgasmic . Yet statistics show us that nearly 60% of women have difficulties achieving even one deeply satisfying orgasm!  Why is that?  What’s wrong with this picture!

It usually takes women longer to reach their pleasure peaks and so they often worry that their man won’t last long enough for them to be satisfied and reach a climax.  This compounds the problem and makes it all the more challenging, because stress and worry are orgasms worst enemy.  To make matters worse, men are hard-wired to come quickly to make sure that they sow their seeds in order to procreate the species.  They need to learn how to slow down and enjoy the journey more, so that women can too.

I can identify with this as I was one of the 60% of women who couldn’t reliably climax with a partner. I know the frustration, pressure and anxiety this can cause, which exasperates the situation. It burdens the relationship when women put this responsibility entirely on men. Yet it’s been a part of our cultural conditioning that men take the initiative in sex and when left to their own devices and instincts, men have not been very successful yet in finding the solution. Their sexual response comes rather spontaneously easy to rise and easy-to-fall into the abyss of bliss. This leaves a woman feeling unloved and incomplete.

It’s important for women to take matters into their own hands enough so that they can fully understand the pleasure potential that’s within her and how to access it.

Then she can educate her man, if he’s willing to take the adventure with her lead.  I can assure you it’s worth the journey even when it feels vulnerable and especially when it’s scary. That’s the greatest healing takes place.

I’d like to give you 3P’s to give a woman profound pleasure:  – Presence – Patience & Potency

Presence:  For most women erotic interest starts with the heart. She yearns to feel a connection that lets you know that she is loved, desired, seen  and really valued for all her wonderful characteristics. The more beautiful and cherished a woman feels with her man, the more likely she is to blossom fully in the warmth of his love. I’ve  experienced within myself that when I’m fully present and seen by my partner that intense excitement and incredible sensations can send a flood of warm tingling pleasure; sometimes without even touching!

The connection begins in the brain with the feeling of knowing that she is valued and loved completely which then allows her to easily surrender and let go totally. Total surrender allows her to open herself completely and receive your wildest passion. An artist of love can allure a woman to open and discover places neither she nor he knew existed!

When a man is off in his head fantasizing a scene he saw in a porn film somewhere… or thinking baseball scores to try and last long enough to satisfy her, the key element of connection is missing. Without connection it’s more like mutual masturbation which then reduces the experience to just trying to get off instead of celebrating a loving connection. When a woman feels like she’s just an object rather than a partner, she withholds her greatest treasures of pleasure.

Patience.  I encourage women to explore themselves and find their own rhythm and pace so that when met with their man, they can knowingly guide him to slow down enough so that she may tune-in to her pleasurable possibilities. This is especially important in the early stages of arousal when the desire is just beginning to stir and well before she begins to feel defeated. Frustration is toxic to an erotic environment. It comes off as needy, greedy and all about me.  A surefire passion killer.  I know I’ve been there too.

Start out slowly with the intention to build her desire arousing all of her erogenous zones and make an effort to explore more than the primaries. Delve deeply to discover exquisite pleasures that are possible yet dormant in her, yearning to be awakened. Women need to relax d-e-e-p-l-y and let their bodies feel and respond naturally to arousal. Breathe deep together and feel the sensations grow from subtle to sublime!

For women who don’t know what they like, want or need in the moment, as they’re always different… Don’t be afraid to explore. It’s fun to discover pleasure together and it empowers your man to be your Sex-God! A man who loves you is happiest when he can make you happy!   So don’t be shy or afraid to ask what your body needs. Learn to listen to your body and guide your partner to create a win-win.  He will thank you!   Men absolutely love to serve and please  their lovers… Right GUYS?

Making it an adventure to discover and explore and to numbness in the pleasure pain and sadness into joy together! And here’s how you can do it and make fun!  You’ll both enjoy it!

Important caveat: being with women who’ve been psychologically or physically abused sexually most likely requires some healing. This could be overwhelming for a partner to provide a container safe enough for her, without getting triggered. In those cases it’s helpful to find a coach or therapist who is qualified to guide the journey safely home.

You can learn techniques of sexual healing that you can use when trauma is activated.  This is discussed in-depth in another programs. Private coaching, Skype, Seminars all the way up to Certified Education at the Source School of Tantra.

2/10 women reportedly have been raped or sexually violated in ways it caused her to shut down. I believe many more than reported cases exists and that many women don’t report it because of shame and fear.

The emotional healing take some time and occurs in stages. For some it’s a  a short term glitch. Yet other times it a much deeper trauma that stirs up and unravels her family history of sexual abuse down to the cellular level…  as was the case in my experience.

I know, this is deep stuff! And it can get pretty scary sometimes. I caution you to get support when it’s overwhelming. But think of it as taking out the garbage. Or healing the wound of the past, with present, patient, prolonged pleasure.  No agenda but to help her blossom.

Women’s vaginas are like flowers! Before they blossom they need warmth and time to open naturally with desire !!

If there are glitches in her ability to feel fully responsive, which may be felt as pain or numbness instead of pleasure, know that those are wounds coming up from the past that can be healed in the power of the present.

In extremes or if she’s just been raped, read helpful guide: A Man’s Guide To Helping a Woman Who’s Been Raped by Matthew Atkinson, LCSW
Potency:  Here’s some powerful, wisdom about potency. You have a magic wand pulsing between your legs. It’s a wand that can light up your woman’s body and do amazing things to her which can make you light up even more. Also true for or a man if you happen to love men.

Men! Your penis is a wand of light and awesome power. Think of it as your teacher.  So study and learn from it well.

Here’s a tip to help you spread pleasure throughout your whole body.

Imagine that your erection is connected all the way down the base of your body to your tailbone and up your spine. Your body is designed so that it’s you can feel pleasure rise all the way up your spine. Orgasms can rise up your spine when your spine is properly awakened. This takes the practice of yoga and stretching, using your spine more fluidly to keep it open to receive this much pleasure. Most men/women have muscle memories that cause tension and stresses which prevent us from feeling full body pleasure. Through massage and active movement of the spine you can begins to raise your orgasmic ability.

My clients tell me that like having a full body erection! I like that image a lot because it gives you 6 feet instead of 6 inches to feel intensely aroused.  That gives you a lot more room for pleasure to expand.

So hold the vision of pleasure rising up your spine and when you feel arousal breathe it up your spine… while moving your spine so as to invite the sensation of pleasure inward and upward! The benefits of this are vast as it rises it nourishes the organs in your body. Ancient Taoists and Tantric’s and others have known this for ages.

It’s time we all awaken and discover the power of pleasure within our whole body.

See it in your minds eye rising up through your belly as you breathe deeply into your belly… expand it!  Allow pleasure to enter your belly and grow through you.… it starts in your brain. As your thoughts are your greatest erotic trigger. So if you’re good with fantasizing to get off, try this out instead. Visualize your erotic energy as healing light. Let it fill your belly.

Breathe deeply inviting pleasure’s to rise inward, opening yourself to be filled with rejuvenating life forces!

Try connecting arousal throughout your body [or to any part that ails you for healing energy can be delivered there.]You will find that your wand NOW has a wider range of sensations which helps you last longer.  And live longer with a whole lotta love and laughter!

So that’s my gift to you and I hope you find it valuable. I’d love to hear your thoughts about this in the comments section. If you’d like more guidance in this journey of awakening, I can be your orgasmic awakener and would love to support your quest!