3 Essential Keys that will open a woman’s Mind, Heart, and, Yoni together.

Presence – Patience – Power

Presence:  For most women, arousal starts with the heart. She yearns to feel a connection that lets her know that she is seen and honored. Even when honoring the Queen within yourself, it’s essential to be fully present with your body so you can experience the more subtle and profound sensations.

When a man is in his head fantasizing he is not present. Nor is thinking about anything that distracts him from feeling, to avoid cuming too soon…  the key element of connection gets lost.

Without connection sex is reduced is mutual masturbation which reduces the experience to mere physical friction to get off;  instead of nurturing a loving connection.

The more beautiful and cherished a woman feels, in the eyes of her beloved, the more able she is to blossom fully in the warmth of love. I’ve experienced that when I’m fully present to being seen by my partner that awareness sends incredible tingling pleasure, like sparkling champagne bubbles up from my yoni to my crown.

The amazing thing is that this can occur sometimes even without physical touch because it blossoms from the emotion of feeling connection inside first. The excitement that stirs is so rich in its mysterious alluring depths, that it sparks energy even without touch.

From that state physical touch becomes supercharged and penetration pierces straight through to the heart like cupid’s arrow. Just knowing that she is valued and loved unconditionally helps her to relax and feel safe enough to open wide. Uneducated men often do what feels good to them which is a rapid thrusting of a woman’s vagina which can feel incredible at the right time and painful when she’s not open.

This has caused many women to shut down and resist sex because when she’s not receptive in order to protect that which she holds sacred. Like a flower, you can’t force her to open on demand. There’s an energetic opening that occurs when a woman receives her beloved into her heart.

Hard thrusting can be incredibly orgasmic, when she’s open she will naturally invite deep penetration to open completely and receive your wildest passions.

Deep to the core of her being to her os and beyond, where life literally comes from. Os is the opening of a woman’s womb. I call it the O-zone. O for opening, because whether or not she has still a womb, the opening to the source up the spine and through the kundalini channel remains energetically present.

An artist of loving touch can encourage a woman to open and discover places she never knew existed! With care, every stroke can build waves of arousal that slowly but steadily flood the body with bliss.

And to do that requires patience:

Patience.  I encourage my clients to explore themselves to find their own rhythm and pace that fuels luxuriously delicious to them so that when met with their partner, they can knowingly guide them to slow down enough so that she may tune in to her pleasurable depths.

This is especially important in the early stages of arousal when the desire is just beginning to stir.

Start slowly to awaken her desire by arousing all of her erogenous zones. Make an effort to explore more than the primaries because each erogenous zone holds its unique hidden pleasures. And they’re all delicious to discover which increases arousal and the desire for deep intimate bonding in total surrender

Delve deep enough to discover os pleasures that are possible yet dormant in every woman. Yearning to be awakened.

Women blossom best when they can relax d-e-e-p-l-y and let their bodies respond and open to the delicate sensations of opening all the layers of her desire, she then oozes the fragrant essence of the goddess.

Breathe deep together and feel the sensations grow from subtle to sublime!

If you don’t know what they need at the moment, as they’re always different… ASK! Don’t be afraid to explore. It’s fun to discover pleasure together and it empowers your partner to be your Sex-God!

A man who loves you is happiest when he can make you happy!   So don’t be shy or afraid to ask what your body needs. Learn to listen to your body and guide your partner so you can co-create a win.

She/He will thank you!

Make it an adventure to discover and transform numbness into pleasure. Pain and sadness when released and resolved can turn into clear light energy! That’s exciting! Healing and rejuvenating, it doesn’t have to be hard to let go of the past trauma when there is a love net that supports you. You can learn to create that love net so that you’re always protected from within. When you’re not the victim, you can reclaim your pleasure beyond your wildest dreams. And why wouldn’t you?

If you or someone you know yearns to feel more deeply, I am creating a course with coaching just for you. Because when you’re in a safe container supported but ones who know the way, you can grow exponentially feeling secure enough to break out of the patterns that block you repeatedly.

As we mirror each other, we are reminded of our divine essence seen in the eyes of clear ones who love you unconditionally. See you for your fullest potential and who you are meant to be who you can become and help you hold that space until you fully embody it. I take a stand for you evolving into all that you desire to be.

You can learn techniques of sexual healing that you can use when trauma is activated.  This is discussed in-depth in group programs. Private coaching, in-person or virtual seminars up to Certified Education at the Source School of Tantra. You can find many trained teachers here and lots of great content. So get support if it becomes overwhelming.

Women’s vaginas are like flowers! Before they blossom they need warmth and time to open naturally with desire!!

If there are glitches in her ability to feel fully responsive, which may be felt as pain or numbness instead of pleasure, know that those are wounds coming up from the past that can be healed in the power of the present.

Power: Imagine what life would be like if you were told when you were young, that you have a magic wand between your legs. This wand can light your path of illumination clarity and the desire to awaken your woman’s body and do amazing things to her; which will light you up even more. Also true for a man who loves to love men.

This wand of light and tremendous power can be a great teacher and healer.  So listen, honor, and learn from it wisely.

Here’s a tip to help you spread potent pleasure throughout your whole body.

Imagine that your erection is connected from your base up your spine.

Orgasms can rise up to your crown when your spine when it’s flowing without obstructions. Practicing yoga, stretching and massage are all valuable to help you clear the blocks and transmute.

Many of us are heavy with muscle memories that cause tension and stress which prevent us from feeling full body pleasure. Through massage and active movement of the spine, you can begin to raise your orgasmic ability.

My client tells me that it’s like having a full body erection!  6 feet instead of 6 inches gives you a lot more room for pleasure to expand.

So hold the vision of pleasure rising up your spine and when you feel arousal breathe it up your spine… while moving your spine to invite the sensation of pleasure inward and upward!

The benefits of this are vast as it rises it nourishes the organs in your body. Ancient Taoists and Tantric and others have known this for ages. It’s time we all awaken and discover the power of pleasure within our whole bodies.

Your thoughts are your greatest erotic trigger. So instead of fantasizing to get off, try this out instead. Visualize your erotic energy as healing light. Let it fill your belly.

Breathe deeply inviting pleasure to rise inward, opening yourself to be filled with rejuvenating life forces!

Try connecting arousal throughout your body, or to any part that ails you for healing energy to be delivered there.

You will find that your wand starts to have a wider range of sensations which helps you last longer.  And live longer with a whole lot more love and laughter!

If you’d like more guidance in this journey of awakening, I would love to support your quest!

I offer private coaching and forming a group this fall. Please inquire if you’re interested.

Many people experience decreased libido at various points in their lifetime. While this can be triggered by stress, health conditions, or age, it is something that affects both men and women. Although it can be frustrating, dwindling desire doesn’t mean the end of magic between the sheets. There’s good news— there are many natural resources for refueling your drive, keeping the flames burning and upping the ante from there.

Decreased libido can be a sign of hormone imbalance, meaning your body isn’t producing adequate levels of testosterone for stamina and performance. Other signals of this imbalance include an overall feeling of sluggishness, fatigue, hair loss, and lack of energy. This can lead to a cycle of depression and disappointment, further exacerbating the issue. It may sound surprising, but the secret to restoring your bedroom bliss begins in the kitchen. Even some of the most common vegetables and other foods contain powerful aphrodisiacs that can maximize momentum and push your libido back up into the stratosphere of sexual energy.

Natural supplements to revive your sex-drive is important to many, especially with the harmful and costly pharmaceutical alternatives which don’t really support heightened pleasure or revitalizing the organs involved in sensual pleasure. However, many people do not realize that they are actually able to improve their libido by simply eating certain types of foods. Below is an extensive and growing list of the foods and supplements that you can add to your regime in order to improve your overall health including your libido.

Nutrients to seek out:
• Ashwagandha – is available in health food stores or online. It is a fantastic product that reduces stress, which can lead to the body producing testosterone better.
• Bee Pollen – can be purchased through health food stores or online and helps to balance hormone levels and increase testosterone.
• Cholesterol – It is helpful because it is a building block for testosterone. Consume by eating small amounts of dairy, raw eggs in smoothies, beef, lobster, chicken with skin and liver.
• D-Aspartic Acid – helps increase testosterone production by 33%. You can add it to your diet by eating asparagus, tilapia, seaweed and halibut.
• Fenugreek – a powder form is available online and in food stores. You use it to make a tincture to increase testosterone production by up to 26%.
• Garlic – Garlic can be added to any food that you like, but it is also found in most Italian food options.
• Ginger – you can find this in many grocery stores and can be incorporated into many recipes. It helps to improve testosterone production by 17%.
• Iodine – can be gained from scallops, shrimp, seaweed, cod, salmon, cow’s milk, tuna, eggs and supplements. It helps your thyroid produce testosterone.
• L-Taurine – found in seafood, meat and through a supplement. Helps increase testosterone in the body.
• Magnesium – this can be found in dark leafy greens, bananas, avocado, fish, nuts and seed and dark chocolate.
• Mucuna Pruriens – this is a powder that you can purchase online and through health food stores. It also helps increase testosterone levels.
• Omega-3 – you can get this from the foods that you eat: cauliflower, flax seed, Brussel sprouts, walnuts, beef and sardines. It helps to trigger testosterone production.
• Pine Pollen – available online and through health food stores. It helps to boost the level of testosterone.
• Reservatrol – this is found in berries, red wine and grapes. It helps to increase testosterone levels by 50%.
• Royal Jelly – is found in health food stores and online. It is used to boost the testosterone by around 20%.
• Selenium – you can get this by consuming certain types of fish, nuts and seed, chicken, beef and mushrooms.
• Shilajit (Authentic) – can be difficult to find, but there is some available online. It increases testosterone by 23.5% and is administered through an injection.
• Suma Root – This is available through health food stores and online and is helpful with the production of hormones and in support of the endocrine system.
• Tongkat Ali – This herb is created from a flowering plant that is found in Indonesia and Malaysia. It helps to reduce stress and reduce testosterone. It is available through a supplement.
• Vitamin A – is found in greens, winter squash, kale, carrots, and sweet potatoes. It will help to decrease estrogen production in order to increase testosterone.
• Vitamin D – along with sunlight, foods like mackerel, salmon and low fat milk will increase the amount of vitamin D in your body. Vitamin D is an important part of being healthy and can play a role in testosterone levels, fertility and muscle growth.
• Vitamin E – Found in greens, asparagus, sunflower seed, almonds and Swiss chard. You should eat this to help lower estrogen levels.
• Vitamin K2 – This is a naturally occurring vitamin that is found in cheese, eggs, meat, poultry and butter. It is also one of the most important vitamins.
• Zinc – enters the body from chicken, beans, mushrooms, seafood, beef, spinach, chocolate, pumpkin seeds and cashews. It encourages estrogen production so that testosterone levels are raised.
These foods are all extremely helpful when it comes to increasing your libido, so make sure that you are getting plenty of them on a daily basis. You will find that by incorporating these types of foods into your normal diet, you will have a higher level of testosterone and therefore a stronger libido.