3 Essential Keys that will open a woman’s Mind, Heart, and, Yoni together.

Presence – Patience – Power

Presence:  For most women, arousal starts with the heart. She yearns to feel a connection that lets her know that she is seen and honored. Even when honoring the Queen within yourself, it’s essential to be fully present with your body so you can experience the more subtle and profound sensations.

When a man is in his head fantasizing he is not present. Nor is thinking about anything that distracts him from feeling, to avoid cuming too soon…  the key element of connection gets lost.

Without connection sex is reduced is mutual masturbation which reduces the experience to mere physical friction to get off;  instead of nurturing a loving connection.

The more beautiful and cherished a woman feels, in the eyes of her beloved, the more able she is to blossom fully in the warmth of love. I’ve experienced that when I’m fully present to being seen by my partner that awareness sends incredible tingling pleasure, like sparkling champagne bubbles up from my yoni to my crown.

The amazing thing is that this can occur sometimes even without physical touch because it blossoms from the emotion of feeling connection inside first. The excitement that stirs is so rich in its mysterious alluring depths, that it sparks energy even without touch.

From that state physical touch becomes supercharged and penetration pierces straight through to the heart like cupid’s arrow. Just knowing that she is valued and loved unconditionally helps her to relax and feel safe enough to open wide. Uneducated men often do what feels good to them which is a rapid thrusting of a woman’s vagina which can feel incredible at the right time and painful when she’s not open.

This has caused many women to shut down and resist sex because when she’s not receptive in order to protect that which she holds sacred. Like a flower, you can’t force her to open on demand. There’s an energetic opening that occurs when a woman receives her beloved into her heart.

Hard thrusting can be incredibly orgasmic, when she’s open she will naturally invite deep penetration to open completely and receive your wildest passions.

Deep to the core of her being to her os and beyond, where life literally comes from. Os is the opening of a woman’s womb. I call it the O-zone. O for opening, because whether or not she has still a womb, the opening to the source up the spine and through the kundalini channel remains energetically present.

An artist of loving touch can encourage a woman to open and discover places she never knew existed! With care, every stroke can build waves of arousal that slowly but steadily flood the body with bliss.

And to do that requires patience:

Patience.  I encourage my clients to explore themselves to find their own rhythm and pace that fuels luxuriously delicious to them so that when met with their partner, they can knowingly guide them to slow down enough so that she may tune in to her pleasurable depths.

This is especially important in the early stages of arousal when the desire is just beginning to stir.

Start slowly to awaken her desire by arousing all of her erogenous zones. Make an effort to explore more than the primaries because each erogenous zone holds its unique hidden pleasures. And they’re all delicious to discover which increases arousal and the desire for deep intimate bonding in total surrender

Delve deep enough to discover os pleasures that are possible yet dormant in every woman. Yearning to be awakened.

Women blossom best when they can relax d-e-e-p-l-y and let their bodies respond and open to the delicate sensations of opening all the layers of her desire, she then oozes the fragrant essence of the goddess.

Breathe deep together and feel the sensations grow from subtle to sublime!

If you don’t know what they need at the moment, as they’re always different… ASK! Don’t be afraid to explore. It’s fun to discover pleasure together and it empowers your partner to be your Sex-God!

A man who loves you is happiest when he can make you happy!   So don’t be shy or afraid to ask what your body needs. Learn to listen to your body and guide your partner so you can co-create a win.

She/He will thank you!

Make it an adventure to discover and transform numbness into pleasure. Pain and sadness when released and resolved can turn into clear light energy! That’s exciting! Healing and rejuvenating, it doesn’t have to be hard to let go of the past trauma when there is a love net that supports you. You can learn to create that love net so that you’re always protected from within. When you’re not the victim, you can reclaim your pleasure beyond your wildest dreams. And why wouldn’t you?

If you or someone you know yearns to feel more deeply, I am creating a course with coaching just for you. Because when you’re in a safe container supported but ones who know the way, you can grow exponentially feeling secure enough to break out of the patterns that block you repeatedly.

As we mirror each other, we are reminded of our divine essence seen in the eyes of clear ones who love you unconditionally. See you for your fullest potential and who you are meant to be who you can become and help you hold that space until you fully embody it. I take a stand for you evolving into all that you desire to be.

You can learn techniques of sexual healing that you can use when trauma is activated.  This is discussed in-depth in group programs. Private coaching, in-person or virtual seminars up to Certified Education at the Source School of Tantra. You can find many trained teachers here and lots of great content. So get support if it becomes overwhelming.

Women’s vaginas are like flowers! Before they blossom they need warmth and time to open naturally with desire!!

If there are glitches in her ability to feel fully responsive, which may be felt as pain or numbness instead of pleasure, know that those are wounds coming up from the past that can be healed in the power of the present.

Power: Imagine what life would be like if you were told when you were young, that you have a magic wand between your legs. This wand can light your path of illumination clarity and the desire to awaken your woman’s body and do amazing things to her; which will light you up even more. Also true for a man who loves to love men.

This wand of light and tremendous power can be a great teacher and healer.  So listen, honor, and learn from it wisely.

Here’s a tip to help you spread potent pleasure throughout your whole body.

Imagine that your erection is connected from your base up your spine.

Orgasms can rise up to your crown when your spine when it’s flowing without obstructions. Practicing yoga, stretching and massage are all valuable to help you clear the blocks and transmute.

Many of us are heavy with muscle memories that cause tension and stress which prevent us from feeling full body pleasure. Through massage and active movement of the spine, you can begin to raise your orgasmic ability.

My client tells me that it’s like having a full body erection!  6 feet instead of 6 inches gives you a lot more room for pleasure to expand.

So hold the vision of pleasure rising up your spine and when you feel arousal breathe it up your spine… while moving your spine to invite the sensation of pleasure inward and upward!

The benefits of this are vast as it rises it nourishes the organs in your body. Ancient Taoists and Tantric and others have known this for ages. It’s time we all awaken and discover the power of pleasure within our whole bodies.

Your thoughts are your greatest erotic trigger. So instead of fantasizing to get off, try this out instead. Visualize your erotic energy as healing light. Let it fill your belly.

Breathe deeply inviting pleasure to rise inward, opening yourself to be filled with rejuvenating life forces!

Try connecting arousal throughout your body, or to any part that ails you for healing energy to be delivered there.

You will find that your wand starts to have a wider range of sensations which helps you last longer.  And live longer with a whole lot more love and laughter!

If you’d like more guidance in this journey of awakening, I would love to support your quest!

I offer private coaching and forming a group this fall. Please inquire if you’re interested.

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At a private historic estate home with other erotic explorer’s…

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Enjoy a libido lifting feast designed to arouse ALL your senses.

Along with deep discussions on the essence and awe of Tantra.

Explore Whole-Body-O Breath where every cell comes alive!

You will learn Tantric secrets to expand into Whole Body O’s

So you can make love last as long as you BOTH desire…

Live in bliss and bring it with you wherever you go!

This will be a safe, relaxed and intimate environment

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Relax and enjoy exploring with confidence and new skills…

Discover more energy, intimacy and pleasure; within.

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Arouse your senses.

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I had so much fun during this interview, I regret not recording it. Happy with the article Hannah wrote. Enter the #OMZone!

My first pop-culture encounter with tantric sex was—like so many other “edgy” sexual practices, from threesomes to fetishes—during a “SATC” episode. The women attend a tantric sex workshop in which a white-haired woman massages her elderly, blissed-out husband, who, after some buildup, ejaculates into the air and … onto Miranda. Educational? Sure. An accurate depiction of tantra? Not so much, according to my sources.

Tantra as a broader category refers to the ancient practices and customs of Hinduism. Tantric sex grew out of this larger religious umbrella as a form of ritualized sacred sex—one that may have inherited some of its tenets or inspiration from tantra, but which most proponents of Hinduism and Buddhism deny sharing much heritage with the religion. So everything you’ll learn here is in the context of tantric sex as it exists today, casually and unofficially—it has no affiliation with a religion, culture, or organization. It’s a practice that is shared and passed down, and followed with devotion by the people whose lives—and sex lives—it has changed for the better.
I spoke to California-based Advanced Certified Tantra Educator Mare Simone, ACTE a teacher at the Source School of Tantra, who gave me her own definition of tantric sex. “The first words that come to mind are a real, true coming together,” she says. “It’s when women learn to fully feel their body’s sexual needs and desires, allowing them to become much more orgasmic than they usually are. And men slow down and learn how to harness their sexual power so they can ride the orgasmic wave together, rather than coming quickly, which they’re hard-wired to do.” London-based tantric sex instructor Rebecca Lowrie is quick to point out that a tantric experience isn’t just sexual, either. “It’s really a spiritual path that embraces sexuality,” she says. “It’s a path of letting go of fear, shame, and conditioning so that you can be your full self. It provides a framework and set of resources for being utterly present and therefore intimate with life.”

When Mare described her idea of a successful tantric sexual experience, I was in awe. “I think a woman should have at least two, or even three orgasms before sexual penetration even begins.” Say what?! “When the roots of the clitoris are fully engorged after orgasm, penetration is so much more desirable for a woman and much more pleasurable for men. There’s more contact, the vagina is juicy, wet, and might even involve the female ejaculation that can send a man into seventh heaven.” OK, listening…

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How all of this actually goes down is both mysterious and intriguing as hell. “I call it the orgasmic magic zone—the OM zone,” says Simone. “It can happen with partners, but also on your own. It’s an erotic sexual meditation, a zone you can feel even before touch begins when you’re in tune with your orgasm energy, through breathing and muscles that pump through your whole pelvic region and make it engorge.” It works for both men and women, she says. When you come this way, especially with a partner through penetration, the orgasm has a deeper, whole-body quality, and lasts much longer, she explains.

“It’s so much more emotionally, spiritually, and physically satisfying,” she says. “You can even go into a deep, meditative healing state. Sometimes old emotional traumas or wounds come up and are cleared through that orgasmic energy. That’s when tantric sex becomes what I would call magical and distinct from just pump and grind, get it off and go to sleep.” Oh, and men don’t necessarily have to ejaculate—but that doesn’t mean they don’t come.
“Really, men should have fewer climaxes and more orgasms,” says Simone, “because if he ejaculates on the first orgasm, there’s nothing left.” But if a man internally ejaculates—yep, that’s a thing, it’s called injaculating—without releasing semen, “he’s reinvesting in his own erotic bank account. That serves him sexually, making his orgasms much more powerful, and even gives him more energy, rather than making him feel depleted and want to roll over.” So really, if that old couple had been properly tantra-ing in “SATC,” the man wouldn’t have shot his load all over Miranda.

After picking Simone’s brain as much as I could, I asked her for a couple of tantric rituals that can be tried at home—alone, or with a partner—for the curious newbies among us.

Beginner’s Tantra for One: Self-Love Initiation
On a day when you want to honor yourself, start a Jacuzzi or bath to wash away the day. Make your bed as you would for a lover—laid out beautifully with candles, towels, or toys. This sets the stage for a special ritual. After the cleansing bubble bath, begin to caress your inner thighs and up and around your genitals, without trying to come. “Just feel what your sexual body center needs,” says Simone. “Invoke self-loving communication.”

Make a yoni mudra (“sacred position of power”) with your hands, letting your index fingers touch right at the tip of your clitoris, and the tips of your thumbs touching over your pubic bone. It should look like a heart shape. “Meditate in that place,” she says. “This position creates a tremendous amount of power, so feel the circuitry connect over your vagina with your hands in the mudra, pumping thoughts of love and appreciation into that area while breathing deeply.”

The next stage might be a massage, but not with the goal of orgasm. “This is like the antithesis of masturbation,” says Simone. “Give yourself loving pleasure with your hands, rather than a vibrator. The beautify is that later, when a woman wants to guide a partner to find those sacred places in her, she’ll know how to teach him or her what her body needs because she listened to it.”

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Beginner’s Tantra for Two: Maximum Pleasure
Look into each other’s eyes. Breathe deeply. Take turns caressing each other’s hands one at a time, one finger at a time. Notice and talk about all the feelings in each hand. Then move on to the face. Touch, kiss, and learn about all of the feelings in different areas—the cheek, the forehead, the chin.

“There are so many parts of us represented in our hands and face—every organ and chakra,” says Simone. “For those who like feet, every toe can be an erogenous zone. It’s not about manually stimulating each other’s genitals; it’s about the tender places that need to be touched. These places are hidden some of the time, so they hold secrets and feelings, and can be so erotic when they’re touched the right way, with communication and a lot of attention.”

Pay attention to unlikely locations: The arches of feet, the soft spots between each finger and toe, the cracks of the elbows, the crease behind the knees. Use fingertips or whole hands or soft scratching of nails—use every nuance of touch to create maximum pleasure. Guide your partner to find the maximum amount of pleasure in every place that he or she goes, explaining what feels good and requesting the things you want them to try.
“The exercise is to say what feels good and ask for more of that until you get it right—even if it’s just saying, ‘It feels really good that you want to discover what feels good to me,’” says Simone. The goal of this ritual is to create a safe environment where you and your partner feel comfortable experiencing things you’ve never felt before and establishing vulnerability and intimacy. “When this happens, the depth of connection that can happen is really profound.”

by HANNAH HICKOK

Enjoy this powerfully vulnerable, personal review about Tantric Touch-Therapy and how it helped deepen Melissa’s Love-Life! Honored to be able to help! I celebrate transformations from NUMB to YUM!!   As I have been there too.

Can you relate to Numbness or Pain where there should be pleasure?  If so or for someone you love, can benefit from reading this story.

… Last fall, I traveled to Los Angeles, California. While I was there, I decided it would be a great place to search out the elusive yoni massage.

I expected LA to be the mecca of yoni services, and to a certain extent, it was. That is, if you’re looking for vaginal steaming, reconstructive surgery or other “plastic” services related to the appearance of one’s yoni. But a true, healing, tantric yoni massage was difficult to find.

I searched the internet, Yelp, Facebook nearby places, Trip Advisor and other social media sites to find a reputable place. Finally, after a few hours searching, I connected with Mare.

Mare’s website was professional. She had a long history of tantric experience and had been a sex surrogate for couples. She had a number of outstanding testimonials on her website as well. We chatted on the phone for an hour or so, and she had me complete some paperwork, which included thoughtful questions about my background and current relationship. (I was in a committed relationship at the time. My boyfriend was aware of and supportive of my quest for yoni healing.)

A couple days later, I drove two hours up the Pacific Coast Highway to Mare’s bungalow in the mountains. It was a beautiful sunny day, and I was excited about the prospect of things to come. When I arrived, she greeted me with a cheerful hug and lots of compliments. We sat at her kitchen table and talked for an hour or more. In all, I spent more than four hours at her bungalow, mostly in her bed.

Her bed had fairy lights strung about and beautiful scarves strewn across the four posts. After our conversation, she asked me to remove my clothes and lie down.

She began with an actual massage

Because I’ve had pain in my body for a long time, I regularly get massages. They are therapeutic for me, not sexy. I rarely get turned on by a massage, regardless of who performs them.

On this day, however, that was not the case. Mare’s massage was extremely sensual, and I felt aroused. This surprised me, because I’d never been touched by a woman in a sensual way. It wasn’t long before she teased my yoni and slipped her fingers inside.

She knew what she was doing. She searched for hotspots, numbness and areas where I held pain. Almost immediately, she sensed trauma in a specific area and asked me what I was feeling and thinking about.

Ugh. My mother. What the hell? Why in the world would I be thinking about my mother when a woman had her fingers in my vagina?

Sadly, I knew exactly why: because sex was always shameful in my family. In that moment, I was ready to release the shame that plagued my sex life. Mare massaged my yoni, and I let go of the shame that had been locked there throughout my life.

Next up, my ex-husband.

Another ugh.

But not a surprise at all. Sex with him was routine; I wanted to return to the mindset where sex was something I enjoyed—not something I did out of obligation. Once again, Mare pleasured my yoni and I cleared the sense of duty that had lain hidden in my yoni for the last 22 years.

Once those two major energetic blocks were cleared, it was onto pleasure from there. I wanted desperately to have an orgasm, as I had only had a few in my 44 years.

The session ended in a major climax—better than the orgasm I had hoped for. A deep love for myself and my lover overcame me, and I broke down in a tearful release.

It was another week before I returned to my boyfriend. After he picked me up from the airport, we made love for the first time in more than two weeks, and it was the most heart-connected sex either of us had ever had.

Part of the connection was the absence from one another, I’m sure, but there was obviously something different with me as well. I’m not certain I can explain it; however, I can tell you I felt extremely liberated.

I’m now free from the beliefs I carried within my yoni. These expectations consciously or unconsciously clouded every relationship and sexual encounter I had had. It’s no wonder the doctrine of shame, obligation and distress blocked my ability to have an orgasm.

Since working with Mare, I’ve had little trouble having an orgasm with a partner or alone. My time with Mare is one of the best gifts I could have given myself. I’m thankful to be able to share this new sense of connection versus the disconnection I previously had with my future partner.

My gifted healer, Mare Simone refers to this revolutionary treatment as one that “releases tension and blocked memories and invites a natural state of pleasure to return to the yoni.”

If you’ve not heard of or researched this treatment, I highly recommend it.

May it be of benefit.

Here you will find a selection of tools designed to access and de-armor the tight, tender, numb and even painful places inside that don’t get enough loving attention.

Beneath every tension in the body is blocked energy just waiting to be released into a surge of renewed energy, perhaps even an orgasm just waiting to happen! Click to image to see more. And get some for your own Self-Sexplorations.

Explore your Delicious Depths! Discover your hidden mysteries and awaken ecstasy sleeping within. You can thank me later ;~)

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Author: Melissa Drake

Image: Darla Hueske/Flickr

Editor: Toby Israel

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How my Yoni Massage brought Unexpected Healing & Orgasm

Courtesy of The Elephant Journal: by Melissa Drake

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