Sexual Healing : Why we Need it

I used to be oblivious to the orgasmic potential in my body. Unaware of any pleasure past my clitoris and even that sometimes took more effort than it was worth. For the fleeting few seconds of release. Is that all there is?

Relying on vibrators was addicting and the more I used them the more numb I became. I just didn’t know what I didn’t know, which is a silent epidemic among most women worldwide.

Historically, women have been taught that their bodies are owned by their partner in marriage, to give them satisfaction. It was just a chore. So to keep the marriage happy, women like my mom learned to just endure sex. She never really knew its power except as a way to manipulate men to get what she wanted and negotiate she did. Though eventually she turned bitter and stopped playing the game.

The hunger that doesn’t get met, as a result, leaves us starving for the nourishment that somewhere deep inside our body needs to be fed. As a Tantric love coach, I’ve worked with numerous women who cannot orgasm, or so they say. Especially with penetration sex with a partner if he is on his own rhythm woman gets left in the dust as he gallops along to the finishing line.

So why are we not feeling met and what’s missing I’ve asked myself this question so many ways this timely answer comes to me in the awakening of my own great sea of possibilities.  I think I speak for many women when I say that intercourse is not so exciting, kind of numb, or even painful when I allow myself to feel without a few drinks to numb out once more… I hear that story time after time and then I realize why women “fake it”. This short-circuits the experience and keeps it at a very low vibrational survival level which causes such a deep void between men and women.

If men only knew where women could take to they would bow on their knees and serve her as the Creatress of life. The womb of a woman is the creative power source that can activate into whirlwinds of swirls bursting through the body, in bubbles of light. Exhilarating absolutely! Uplifting and inspiring giving energy and receiving blessings as the gift of the exchange. Tantric orgasm is like tapping into the source of life itself.

We can meet in the middle. In a woman’s flow, slower is often more valuable and rewarding like the rich maturation of fine wine.

That’s where tantra comes in blending the masculine and feminine energies so we need to heal and understand each other inside and out. Your inner standing connects us to the center where we meet physically, consciously and emotionally as well as physically in the world.

Because when we meet in the middle we’re both nourished in a way that leaves us better than started like that quality of love is an elixir from the heavens.

So as we think so we experience. On some level I think all women at some point in their life feel these deep yearning desires that don’t get met.

Fleeting is the pleasure that stimulation of the clitoris can bring. As wonderful as it is for those few seconds, then there’s a quick decline in arousal overshadowed by hypersensitivity, where it’s too sensitive to touch for a while. This is much like a man feels after he’s climaxed before he zones out to sleep.

But for women it’s just the beginning of her sexual pleasure potential, even if she doesn’t know anything beyond her clitoris, her love tunnel will nudge her every now and again to remind her that there’s more pleasure inside even if it’s hard to find. That was my experience until I was shown how to discover my Om zone portal of pleasure as a cosmic, multidimensional, richly delicious portal where time stands still in the quivering pulses of life.

Since then I’ve found that a clitoral orgasm is like the doorbell that if you bring it right, it opens the sacred gates to her temple of love inside. To get a woman to fully expand and receive the fullest effects of your love, you have got to take your time and activate all her centers and erogenous zones. From the outside in, to all the internal sweet spots too. G-Spot and OMG-Spot [aka cervix] in particular.

Tantra says that women can be be multi-orgasmic! That brings up the question why do so many women feel numb, frustrated, and disinterested in sex?

Statistics show us that nearly 70% of women have difficulties achieving a deeply satisfying orgasm with penetration!  Many women are so attached to their clitoral vibrator stimulators that they don’t know what they’re missing on the inside.

Problem with the vibrator is that it creates a short-circuit to pleasure after it reaches a peak and eventually causes more numbness and hyper-sensitivity; unless it’s used very lightly like a hot spice. Many women that I work with tell me that orgasm during intercourse is hit and miss, at best. Often it’s either numb or in some degree of pain.

This can be devastating when we told it’s supposed to be a place of amazing pleasure. Why is it numb??  What’s wrong with this picture! What can we do about it?

It naturally takes women longer to reach their highest pleasure peaks and some may worry that their man won’t last long enough for her to be satisfied and reach her highest heaven inside.

Her concern fuels the problem and makes it all the more challenging, because stress, anxiety, and worry are orgasms enemies. They activate the fight or flight response which you don’t want in the bedroom.

Men are hard-wired to naturally come quick to insure that they sow their seeds and procreate the species. So when testosterone is high the urge to release is very difficult to control.

But Tantra has a solution for that to train a man to expand and become more multi-orgasmic too!

But to reach the most sublime states of intimacy, men need to learn how to at least slow down and enjoy the journey more, so his Queen can relax, open fully and receive more deeply.

I can identify with this as I was one of many women who couldn’t reliably climax with a partner. I felt broken with frustration, pressure and anxiety which exasperated the situation.

It burdens the relationship when women put this responsibility entirely their partner to be their healer and awakener. Yet it’s been a part of our cultural conditioning that men take the initiative in sex.  In this case learning to read her body language is essential as the body expressions and positions can say much more than words. Breath and sounds of her body are good cues to follow. When you breath in sync, you start to feel each other more.

Then enter the realm of sounds and see what unfolds…

Unless your partner is a trained sexual healer, it’s important for women know her own body enough that she can tap into her O-Zone within her body. Share it. Invest in it so it may grow.

Then she can educate her partner, if he’s willing to follow her lead.  I can assure you it’s worth the journey even if it feels vulnerable and scary. That’s when the deepest transformations can take place.

Here’s a massage tool that can help open the gates of Heaven by releasing and dearmoring numbness and pain, with conscious love.

Cervix wand-  Click on the image to see more….

Click on this link to see this tool and how to get it for yourself. Or for a friend...

Click on this link to see this tool and how to get it for yourself. Or for a friend…

Classes in Tantra Touch for Healing and Empowerment coming this Fall, 2022 

S£X Reimagined – What is Possible?

I discovered profoundly DEEP states within me along with new depths of expanding O’s. I’m delighted to say that I never stop learning. 

So, I’m super excited to announce that I’ll be sharing much more on that in this great gathering of Sexperts. I invite you to join us and learn from the best!

S£x Reimagined Summit — JULY 11th- 22nd, AND it’s FREE!!

I’m sharing my most recent and passionate discoveries around cervical orgasms, as part of it, Stay tuned to find out more. (Or just reply and I’ll tell you more, privately.)

So, if you are feeling stuck or at a loss for inspiration in your intimate life…

Have you been having routine s£x, unsatisfying s£x, or no s£x at all for far too long?

I’ve got a solution for you! It’s all about reimagining what’s possible when it comes to your s£xuality.

I was recently invited to speak on an interview series, on Cervical Orgasms as a Portal to Profound Pleasure! This interview series is one that I know is going to make a huge impact on the way we as human beings relate to our s£xuality.

And because this is my next level, I thought it was so perfect to share this publicly for the first time on the S£x Reimagined Summit.

Let me introduce you to the Hosts of the event: Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown

Collectively they bring over 40 years of experience, as they blend the ancient arts of Tantra Yoga and Taoist S£xology.

Dr. Willow and Leah are birthing the S£x Reimagined Summit (followed by ongoing Podcasts).

Our aim is to inspire, reignite and reimagine what it means for you to have a thriving love life, because they know it’s the fastest, most pleasurable path to healing your body and soul.

They’ve brought together over 20+ leading S£xsperts, so that you can hear a myriad of perspectives, ideas and possibilities when it comes to expanding your s£xual repetior!

I’m so excited to speak at THIS summit!

Myself along with the 20+ other speakers will be opening up a conversation about how we can reimagine our relationship to s£x, how we talk about it, how we think about it and how we approach it. Share this event with your friends!

The fun begins JULY 11th- 22nd, AND if you enroll now, it’s FREE!

You will get access to all the leading Sexperts in the field of health, sexuality and spirituality.

Guest S£xperts Include:

Charles Muir (Originator of Sacred Spot Massage)

Alison Armstrong (Author & originator of Celebrating Men Understanding Women)

Ian Ferguson (Master Trainer of Erotic Blueprint)

Emiliya Zhivotovskaya (founder of the flourishing Institute of NY)

Sheri Winston (Author of Anatomy of Arousal)

Mare Simone, (Sex Coach & Initiatress of the Sacred Tantric Arts)

Plus 15 others!

For a full list of all the Powerful S£xperts click here.

Join us in this juicy conversation

ENROLL HERE, Free to Join!

So you can enjoy it from the privacy of your own home.

See you there!! Mare

S£X Reimagined Summit — JULY 11th- 22nd

Got lot’s of TLC to share, let’s re-connect and reimagine…

I retreated from the outer world so I could discover ways to recreate myself to adjust to the “new normal.” I found a sanctuary of inner peace and balance that energizes me [and my clients]. It uplifts me and keeps me sane even in the midst of chaos.

I took a course on cervical orgasms as gateways to access my high self! It was so fun and I learned things about my body that I didn’t know.

After all these years I’m still discovering hidden treasures of pleasure. Amazing right!?

Beyond anything I ever felt from Sacred spot [aka: G-spot] and clitoral O’s combined.

I discovered profoundly DEEP states within me along with new depths of expanding O’s. I’m delighted to say that I never stop learning. 

So, I’m super excited to announce that I’ll be sharing much more on that in this great gathering of Sexperts. I invite you to join us and learn from the best!

S£X Reimagined Summit — JULY 11th- 22nd, AND it’s FREE!!

I’m sharing my most recent and passionate discoveries around cervical orgasms, as part of it, Stay tuned to find out more. (Or just reply and I’ll tell you more, privately.)

So, if you are feeling stuck or at a loss for inspiration in your intimate life…

Have you been having routine s£x, unsatisfying s£x, or no s£x at all for far too long?

I’ve got a solution for you! It’s all about reimagining what’s possible when it comes to your s£xuality.

I was recently invited to speak on an interview series, on Cervical Orgasms as a Portal to Profound Pleasure! This interview series is one that I know is going to make a huge impact on the way we as human beings relate to our s£xuality.

And because this is my next level, I thought it was so perfect to share this publicly for the first time on the S£x Reimagined Summit.

Let me introduce you to the Hosts of the event: Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown

Collectively they bring over 40 years of experience, as they blend the ancient arts of Tantra Yoga and Taoist S£xology.

Dr. Willow and Leah are birthing the S£x Reimagined Summit (followed by ongoing Podcasts).

Our aim is to inspire, reignite and reimagine what it means for you to have a thriving love life, because they know it’s the fastest, most pleasurable path to healing your body and soul.

They’ve brought together over 20+ leading S£xsperts, so that you can hear a myriad of perspectives, ideas and possibilities when it comes to expanding your s£xual repetior!

I’m so excited to speak at THIS summit!

Myself along with the 20+ other speakers will be opening up a conversation about how we can reimagine our relationship to s£x, how we talk about it, how we think about it and how we approach it. Share this event with your friends!

The fun begins JULY 11th- 22nd, AND if you enroll now, it’s FREE!

You will get access to all the leading Sexperts in the field of health, sexuality and spirituality.

Guest S£xperts Include:

Charles Muir (Originator of Sacred Spot Massage)

Alison Armstrong (Author & originator of Celebrating Men Understanding Women)

Ian Ferguson (Master Trainer of Erotic Blueprint)

Emiliya Zhivotovskaya (founder of the flourishing Institute of NY)

Sheri Winston (Author of Anatomy of Arousal)

Mare Simone, (Sex Coach & Initiatress of the Sacred Tantric Arts)

Plus 15 others!

For a full list of all the Powerful S£xperts click here.

Join us in this juicy conversation

ENROLL HERE, Free to Join!

So you can enjoy it from the privacy of your own home.

See you there!! Mare

Hiring a VA with Web / Graphic Skills

I need helpers who love left brain technology to help me so I can broadcast live events on multiple platforms simultaneously while staying in my juicy genius zone of teaching and delivering with turned on creative fire.

Passion and desire to learn Tantra and sacred sexuality is a definite plus!

  • I am trying to Rebuild my website on a new platform called Groove.cm and I would love to have someone help me build a site there. They have 16 different apps in addition to page building and hosting, ecommerce, membership pages, and a variety of features which are on the Groove platform. Check it out.

Their affiliate program is super generous, two-tiered win-wins.

Groove has a free version of every feature so you can test drive it.

You can even host up to 3 websites on their server for free!

Use my affiliate link and we will both benefit, if you or someone you know joins the paid version, [we will both get paid, sharing the wealth]. You can still earn commissions, even if you just have a free version of the program.

SO If you [or someone you know] find this kind of technology fun and easy; let’s connect. ASAP!!

I’m able to pay and I willing to offer Tantra sessions in exchange. Arrangements personalized, based on your skill sets, needs and desires.

Please reply with what you feel your best at doing; and what you need / desire, in exchange for your services. We’ll arrange to speak accordingly.

If you got questions respond here, or email me: Mare@MareSimone.com

 

Tantra for Women – Awaken the Beauty Within

“Deflowering” and “losing” your virginity are common terms that negatively describe the awakening of a woman’s sacred chambers of creation, love, and pleasure.

“Re-Flowering” empowers Your Yoni as a Sacred Temple of Love, to reclaim its original state of purity; free of trauma, shame, pain, or fear.

I feel called to gather a core group of women who wish to grow, heal and explore the sacred spaces within, in a safe container of woman only. I am also called to give couples events and coaching, as needed.

  • We’ll discuss love, desire, pleasure, orgasms, and sexual issues.
  • Yoni Talk – Women Healing Women by exploring our depths together.
  • Learn Tantra and Tao Healing techniques that recharge you and fill you with light energy!
  • Learn and explore with practices to help you access your deepest O.
  • Take-away luscious discoveries while awakening your sexuality
  • Tantric pleasures heal and awaken you. Meet new friends too!

Join our woman’s group and get private invitations to:

CLASSES and PRIVATE SESSIONS for women.
Bring your friends, lovers and others who would enjoy this community.

If you desire more personal support:
Apply here: TantraMare@Gmail.com.
Women. Men. Couples and Groups

Virtually & in Los Angeles, CA.

Travel options are road trips.

Ecstatic Gardening

I’ve been silent lately. Cocooning deep within, taking an unannounced sabbatical, while seeking answers to better navigate this world in major transition.

During this time of introspection, I’m finding great pleasure in becoming more self-sufficient by prepping for the unknown, so I feel secure.

I’m ecstatic planting seeds in the garden I’ve found in my parking lot. Paradise is everywhere, if you look deeply enough.

I pulled up weeds and discovered soil that I can grow food on. Running my fingers through the soil I felt her rich and fragrant wetness, ripe with potential life. My hands were ecstatic.

So I taught myself to grow zucs, cucs, and an amazing collection of lettuces and greens galore. Gardening puts me in close contact with the soil in all her living richness, bugs and all, it’s like a family.

Growing food has become my meditation and connection to the magic of creation. It’s so rewarding to pull fresh organic veggies from my garden and bring them in to eat or dehydrate and store for uncertain times ahead. It gives me comfort to know that I can grow food.

It’s such an intimate experience to start with tiny seeds that nurtured and loved, become part of a savory dish, delish!

I now grow micro greens, baby greens and sprouts that are loaded with concentrated nutrition. Even more than full grown greens, and they can be ready-to-eat in just a few days.

With the unpredictability of our future economy, it’s a good idea to be prepared and know how to grow fresh food; so that if we have shortages, we will have what we need to be well nourished.

I want us all to be prepared so we can weather any storm, hurricanes, earthquakes, food shortages due to truck delays, or other catastrophes to come…

It feels to me like a time of great transformation. Put your seatbelts on and ride this together!

What are you feeling? What you think is happening?

I trust that every ending provides a new beginning.

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Be involved in a growing company of Tantric Self-Love Team, Marketing, and More.

Leave a comment below and we’ll be in touch.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Yoni Wisdom: Healing Touch

When it’s time to blossom…
TRANSFORM Numbness and Pain, to AWAKEN Sacred Pleasure
Some women feel pain with sex inside especially with deep, hard penetration all the way to the cervix. This is especially true if thrusting is rigorous and she’s not fully open and receptive. Potential pleasure is not accessible, rather retreated like a turtle in a shell.
 
Be patient and allow the release to unfold. If sadness or anger occurs, pour love into her eyes and kiss her gentle and loving. Don’t tell her to stop crying. Rather give her space to feel and release the past pain so she can be free to be fully present in the joy of authentic intimacy.
 
Making love is a profound medicine for our hearts and sex organs. Especially when we can stay conscious with our eyes open so we can see, here and feel to fully absorb the love that we’re making.
 
But often love brings up everything unlike itself, in order to be healed.
That’s part of the process, and why it’s so important to stay present, and understand as a giver you are there to hold space.  Give her room to rage if she needs, until she gets it out of her system and then that rage turns into liberated passion. 
 
Beware of the lure of dark patterns that can get lodged rather than released. If it seems to go on longer than necessary, remind her and yourself, to breathe in the love in the present moment.
Conscious breaths where there is love presence can have a deep and impactful healing effect when the heart holds stagnant moments and memories.
Recognize its value in the here and now, let her know you and there for her. Holding space for her to let go.
 
Even if you don’t fully understand what’s coming up, you don’t have to. Just ground yourself in your breath and encourage her to believe 3 breathe deeply and release whatever is blocking her with a sound . Sound is a magical component because it expresses the very energy that a person is feeling without the words to analyze it or judge.
Vocalizing will help to empower her to express and release stuck energy. Try to mimic her sounds so you can feel her vibration which aligns you onto the same frequency of feeling. It’s very primal body talk powerful healing and super sexy at the same time.
Pour love into painful places and be patient. The deepest spot is also a place where we harbor emotions of trauma and shame, buried in the darkest parts of our love-tunnel. That includes the base chakra anal massage as well.
 
With tender words of love and eye contact, intend to replace phantom pains and fears with conscious present love. It’s a healing that no doctor can provide. A beloved or Tantric healer can touch these places in the ways that can transform past pains with positive, orgasmic and even ecstatic best ever transformational feelings.
 
You can also bless and awaken these dark painful places with a  wand-like tool. This could be any type of wand. Even a peeled cucumber will do. I like to use a phallus of rose quartz, for love.
 
Massage the painful areas gently and slowly with stillness… pause with pressure whenever there is tension to soften tight tissue and release old memories of fear and pain.
Forgive your body for holding those memories for so long. Release them in the exhale and breathe in love.
 
Is it time to say so long to old armored past and related phantom pain, which no longer serves you? Choose to let love in starting with forgiveness and acceptance of yourself.
 
Healing through self-love is an extremely important and powerful part of the process.
You most likely will find it helpful to have a guide to support you through the darkest shadows of harbored emotions.  Sometimes it’s hard to see our light in the shadows.
I used to have that issue wreck havoc in my love-life until I learned to trust enough to relax completely. This requires an immense amount of willingness and the desire to open,  breathe, and allow feelings to flow. Move through the pain and numbness of the past by opening to present love.
 
Letting go makes room to feel who you really when you release the past. Pain often transforms hidden pleasures unveiled.
The release of tension becomes energy freed up to expand and exhilarate! Pulsing pleasure is pure and sacred medicine.
 
I find the most profound soulful orgasms occur when I can fully relax and able to open and be filled with full penetration without any resistance. 
 
So I’ve learned and love to teach…
To feel inside of a woman’s sex, first meet her with your breath, your lips, tones, and then touch. If you’re a good fit for her lock, she may open the very depths of her being to you. Open to her core, as deep as she can expand to receive your love fully!
Such wondrous mysteries women can awaken within! When we feel safe enough to be free… to open fully and let a conscious partner into our deepest most vulnerable parts, we can be in hours of bliss within. Then sex becomes a luscious meditation on the energy of ecstasy.

Cervical Orgasms: Why MOST Women don’t have them, yet

Mysteries of the OM-Zone:  Orgasmic Magic Os

As a pleasure explorer, yearning to feel pleasure. Post-rape and numbness from years of premature penetration, I’ve experienced a wide range from numb to pain to ultimately reclaim my body as a sacred space of pleasure and love.

 Orgasms felt close and then they’d would slip away. I was afraid to let go, it seemed the harder I tried, the more elusive vaginal orgasm became.  Frustrating to feel pleasure for an instant and then it disappears before I can fully immerse myself in it
I had fleeting clitoral peaks, but they are not very satisfying alone, in the long run.
I was shown how to find my G spot. It continues to come alive over the years.
Penetration sex was my edge. I was usually guarded because of unreleased traumas that inhibited me from being present to pleasure.
My partner would constantly command me to me, be present. Being present to me, often meant feeling pain with penetration. So I disassociated from the scene in order to avoid the emotions buried there.
I’ve had some numerous traumas surrounding my sexuality and my sex organs. Including medical procedures, so my cervix was an unfriendly place for me. But I’d heard of the magical orgasms there so I was willing to plow through the muck to get to the good stuff.
I touched my cervix with my fingers the first time and was in awe at the smooth silky texture and the consciousness that lured me in.
Surprised I didn’t know my fingers were even long enough to reach the depths of my vagina.
My uterus moves and adjusts downward to meet a point of penetration which intensifies sensations. I’ve heard it called the cervical kiss.
Certain positions can help provide the most satisfying contact sometimes with a woman squatting on top so she can find the right depth of contact and angle…
It was exciting to meet it directly and to be so intimate with this part of me I rarely ever see.
So delicate and pink.  Touch in a squatting position. Cupping so it’s easy to reach.
Hmmm just speaking of it makes me feel electrified it’s like an engine inside it gets flipped on when attention is brought to it in honoring inviting ways. Memories of pleasure lie deep within my yoni walls, to the core. Calling in explorers to dive deep with me, in Tantric seas!
What hides in your love tunnel that needs to be cleared? Clear it. Make room for love and pleasure there and everywhere.
To get real, vulnerable, and intimate with you I gotta tell you something that I have experienced lately with some really deep orgasms that I feel have transformed my mind and body relationship.
There were a few rare, mind-blowing experiences where I learned to really open up and relax inside. It was then when I noticed that I had been contracted, chronically. Protecting what was violated.  My history of rape and numbing sex molded my relationship with my body and with men as well.

Sexual trauma can shut us down from knowing and enjoying our bodies to their fullest potential. 

In women, our deepest longest and strongest orgasms come from opening and being touched to the core.
  This pleasure fills my pelvic bowl and overflows right up into my crown and down again.
The Orgasmic Magic Zone
I went through the layers over years of sexual healing, clearing shame until my yoni was fully open and orgasmic.
It was amazing like something inside me woke up and I was filled with waves and tingles of energy
with even the slightest movements with full penetration.
The most remarkable thing was he could feel what I was feeling which increased my feelings a lot.
We were bonded in this unified field of energy tingles! He called it “Tai Chi sex”. Deep slow and sensual with a timeless sense of relaxed arousal.

I’m exploring the back of my womb with crystal wands to awaken the deepest parts of my cave.

I just got a Cervix waand with a long handle that I love to play with. It reaches deep so easily that I can truly relax and receive the healing waves of pleasure it brings

To massage away scars of sad memories and any phantom pain that may be stuck there.

The last time I did this self-love massage to myself, I felt some tender areas so I moved very slowly.
Allowing stillness to soften the tension and ease the pain. Then I found that with breath
every tight muscle is an orgasm waiting to happen, to release relax and free-up new energy!
It’s like a field rich with possibilities. I never know what I’m gonna find inside.
It’s still new to me to feel this extraordinary pleasure deep inside near and on my cervix.
Having been more clitoral and G spot focused, this is opening up a new world.
I wanna shout it from the rooftops so everyone knows about it too!

“At the back of the womb there lay flesh that demanded to be penetrated. It curved inwards, opening to suck. The flesh walls moved like sea anemones, seeking by suction to draw his sex in… She opened her mouth as if to reveal the openness of the womb, its hunger, and only then did he plunge to the very bottom and felt her contractions…”

Anais Nin, Delta of Venus

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