I find that most man who experience difficulties with premature ejaculation are really gifted with a tremendous degree of sensitivity in their ability to feel pleasurable sensations.

The problem lies in their fear of coming too soon and so they often try to remedy this by resisting “feeling too good”. When this is the action that is taken it is something like, trying to hold back a tidal wave with your bare hands. the more a man tries to hold back, the more frustrating and defeating it becomes. Therefore premature ejaculation turns into a downward spiral, the more you try to control it, the less you are able to enjoy the pleasure.

For many men the solution is to desensitize in order to not feel too much. Numbing the sensations of pleasure by thinking about baseball scores or taxes or some other distracting mind game, does not solve the problem. It simply diminishes the power and magnitude of the experience. You both deserve better than that. I can tell you from being on the receiving end of a man caught up in this battle, it is not inspiring or romantic.

In the practices of higher sex, one learns not to try and control this force, but rather how to relax and fully enjoy it, by making more space for it. Not limiting it, but rather expanding one’s capacity to enjoy the pleasures of sensual and sexual excitement.

Tantra instills a nurturing environment in which you can feel confident that you won’t be judged for becoming extremely excited to the degree of losing control.

In fact, it encourages you to create a safe atmosphere that will support you in feeling comfortable enough to completely surrender to pleasure.

In Tantra, there’s nothing to be nervous about, no one is judged. There is no goal. All that truly matters is that you experience the loving exchange of pleasurable feelings with your partner.

Many of my clients who have had problems in this area found that Tantra enabled them to sustain aroused states of pleasure, without ejaculation, indefinitely.

In the West, sex is a rush to completion. That is probably because most of us learned from an early age to “do it” quickly so as not to get caught.

According to this model, sex for a man is at best, an excitement of feelings that builds into a single, explosive, ejaculatory orgasm. Even the most virile man can experience only a limited number of them, without feeling spent after the afterglow.

Tantra, on the other hand, teaches that ejaculation and orgasm are functions that are controlled by the sympathetic and the parasympathetic nervous system, respectively.

When you are functioning in the sympathetic or “the fight or flight” side of your nervous system, you’re in an anxious, rigid mode where pleasure is fleeting at best and in this mode, ejaculation often comes sooner then you’d like. If you win through control, you end up being on the other side of the pendulum, where your sensitivity has diminished and then it becomes difficult to maintain arousal or erection.

So when you’re trying to control the orgasm, you lose, even when you win. The way out is to break the pattern by focusing on a different thought pattern. Everything is as you perceive it and you can change your perception if you don’t like what you see. Quantum physics tells us that multiple realities coexist.

Our perceptions, thoughts and actions, create our reality. The law of attraction tells us that what we resist persists and that our experiences are generated by where we place our attention, so if you focus on what you want, rather than getting lost in fears of what you do not want, then you will win!

Engage your thoughts in fully enjoying the beauty in the pleasures of your body and of life all around you. Give yourself permission, to enjoy to the richest extent that would allow you to feel aliveness and ecstasy, in a caress, a sunset or a rainbow.

When you’re functioning from this sensual, poetic side of your nervous system, it’s often difficult to ejaculate. And you don’t want to because every movement produces great pleasure. On the scale of one to 10, it’s somewhere between seven and eight. a heavenly state. that which I call Tantra Heaven!

Focusing your mind on the beautiful pleasures your body is feeling through breathing. receiving. expressing your joy, your body naturally and spontaneously dances in bliss. And you become a magnet, attracting others who relate to these high frequencies.

When the parasympathetic nervous system is stimulated Tantrickly, during sex, it awakens a continuous stream of pleasurable feelings. The body is in a deep state of relaxation with little to no anxiety or pressure. Instead, you feel continuous connectedness to the divine source within you. And when you are filled with love for the divine, your love is divine.

Here you feel a liberating state of continue bliss that can last for as long as you can relax and receive. this may seem a bit difficult to comprehend with your mind – it is really meant to be experienced. That is why working with a trained Tantric consort can be very beneficial to help you experience yourself and your sexuality in a whole new way!

Your passion becomes powered from your own center, you come from fullness [pun intended]. Once you are connected and filled from within, then you learn to drive the power of your passions, instead of being driven by them. You are able to balance your passions by consciously steering orgasms; seductively in slow, sensual movements.

Speaking from experience, the type of movements that many women often find to be most gratifying during sex is slow, deep and sensual.

As a perfect complement, a man who tends to cum too quickly will find this same quality of connection enables him the luxury of taking time to completely relax and receive.

Thus, “slow and deep” is a key ingredient in prolonging pleasure for both men and women.

The best part about this way of making love is that it allows plenty of time and opportunities for sharing true intimacy and exquisite pleasures that deepen the attraction as well as the passion.

In unhurried sex, the powerful energy that surges through you as you approach orgasms is directed back into your body, and you can feel the delights of orgasm reach down to your toes, up to your crown and everywhere in-between.

The quantity and quality of these orgasms you can experience, is limited only by your own ability to simply allow them. And because both man and woman are satisfied and getting what they need, the benefits can last for days in a harmonious, joyful multitude of ways.