Sacred Sex – The Bridge from You to Heaven

Here’s an enlightened view of sexuality that deeply honors the sacred. Barbara Marcinak, author of the, Bringers of the Dawn, claims that these teachings were channeled by extraterrestrials from Pleiades.

Whether you believe it’s source or not; it’s still true and vital information for our evolution!  To enlighten those whose consciousness is receptive and ready to expand, I eagerly share these teachings with you.

Perceive sexuality as the source of creation and honor it with reverence. Reunite with this power as purifying, like a reboot of your body and mind! Abolish the views of negativity that deny the beauty of your body, in all it’s lusciousness!

May the knowledge contained in this post provide you with fuller understanding of the powers of pleasure, love and connection through sacred sexual union. This wisdom is fundamental to all enlightening sexuality and healing life!

As you enjoy it and find it valuable, please pass it on. The more people who understand that sexuality is truly a bridge to consciousness, the more alive, awakened and conscious our world will be! 
Yummy!
Mare

From Bringers of the Dawn, ch 20  Please read and share what you learned from this discourse!

 

SEXUALITY – A BRIDGE TO HIGHER LEVELS OF CONSCIOUSNESS

When the library of yourselves was torn from the shelves and scattered, and the DNA was split so that there were only two strands left with very little data and very little memory, sexuality was left intact in the physical body. It was left as a form of reproduction, of course-as a form for the species to stay in touch with its own essence and bring itself into life. Very deep inside the mechanism of sexuality is a frequency that can be attained that has been sought after and misunderstood by many people. It is called orgasm.

The orgasm has been distorted from its original purpose. Your body has forgotten the cosmic orgasm of which it is capable because society has taught you for thousands and thousands of years that sexuality is bad. You have been taught this in order for you to be controlled and to keep you from seeking the freedom available through sexuality.

Sexuality connects you with a frequency of ecstasy, which connects you back to your divine source and to information.

Sexuality has been given a bad name upon this planet, and that bad name is stored in your cellular memory. This is not just from this lifetime; it is from thousands of years of misappropriation and misuse. It is necessary for you to clear the negativity surrounding sexuality from this lifetime, as well as to experience and examine how you utilize sexual energy and sexual expression in your multidimensional selves. Sexual Circuit

The sexual parts of the body are avenues to pleasure that create frequencies that heal and stimulate the body and potentially lead it to its higher spiritual self.

Sexuality is so misunderstood on this planet that, when it is exchanged between two persons, very seldom is there an intent to connect spirituality with it. Sexuality invokes a spirituality that is free and that looks at itself as a creator. However, very seldom is sexuality used as a bridge to take you to higher levels of consciousness.

We have spoken with a number of individuals who have been utilizing light. Since finding the proper partner in a monogamous situation, they have been able to achieve very high states of being. Monogamy tends to work for most of you very well because of where you are vibrationally. When you have many partners, you tend to be less than honest and to hide who you are: you share a little here, there, and everywhere in scattering your seed. It is best to be with one person, but this does not mean the same person forever. Be loyal, be open, and be sharing with the person you are working with, and go as far as you can with them. If it happens to be your whole life, wonderful. If it doesn’t, then when you come to a place where you are no longer communicating and serving one another, and you feel the relationship is not going to be able to make a leap, terminate the relationship and find another person who works with your vibration.

When you work one-on-one intimately, you develop trust. Most of you have difficulty trusting yourselves because you don’t have a role model for trust. You can learn about trust in a relationship because a relationship acts as a mirror for you, showing you what you cannot see from your own viewpoint. It shows you yourself outside of yourself when you have open communication within sexuality and deep intimacy, and when you are not using sexuality as a distraction for getting close. Many of you have used sexuality as a distraction and a way to avoid intimacy rather than to develop it. You begin to get energetic and to look into one another’s eyes and to feel all hot and excited. Then, instead of exploring each other intimately and spiritually, you shut down your feeling centers, put on your armor, and have shallow, genital sex because it is too frightening and too intense to go the deeper route of full body and full spiritual connection. Sometimes hot sex feels great and is wonderful. We are simply saying that there is more. There is much more, and no one is keeping it from you except yourselves and the beliefs and fear you have of letting down your boundaries and walls.

Many of the fears you have are based on what you have created for yourselves and what you have done to others in your sexual life. Your sexual history affects every other portion of your soul, so all of your soul’s issues are broadcast loud and clear throughout your body. You don’t want to look at this sometimes because it is too painful, and you judge it because you think it is bad. Stop judging, and get neutral about what you have done-no matter what you discover, no matter how heinous it seems, no matter how difficult it seems, and no matter how much violation it involves. Understand that your purpose has been to gather data and to understand your selves.

Sexuality is a frequency. It represents what was not taken away from you even though your history, your memories, and your identity were removed and scattered. The way you were left intact with the ability to discover who you were was through the sexual experience. Of course, you were never taught this. We are going to do some church bashing here. So sorry for anyone who is a member of the churches. The churches came about as organizations-businesses to control religion and spiritual development and to create jobs, to create a hierarchy, and to create a club. Very few churches came about with the idea of bringing information to people. You don’t usually think of religion as something that keeps you informed, do you? Any religion that brings information is a religion operating on the vibration of truth.

Spiritual realms are places of existence that the human body is locked away from. Because sexuality was an opportunity for human beings to regain their memory, or to connect with their spiritual selves and spiritual creator, or to find an avenue to the spiritual realm that you are sealed off from, the churches came about and promoted sexuality for procreation. They taught you that the only reason you had sexuality was to produce little humans.

Sexuality was promoted as something very bad. Women were told that sexuality was something they had to undergo to serve men and that they had no control over the birthing process. Women believed this; hence, to this day, you believe in general that you have no control over that portion of your body. You must realize that only you decide whether you are going to birth a child or not. This is not such a complicated thing as you have been told. Decision and intention are what bring the experience to your being. You can control whether you have a baby or not. If woman had had this ability for the last several thousand years, and if she had been able to explore her sexual self without fear of having a child, perhaps men and women would have discovered that they were much freer than they had been told they were.

The discovery of the highest frequency of sexuality arises from the love experience. It has nothing to do with relationships being either homosexual or heterosexual. It has to do with two human beings bringing pleasure to one another in a way that opens frequencies of consciousness. You have bought many ideas about what is proper and what is improper within sexual expression.

Love is the essence that is to be created in all relationships. If you love and honor someone, it doesn’t matter what your composition of density is. What matters is the love vibration and how you explore this love, which ideally is gifted and coupled with the integration of the male and the female counterparts that make the twin flame.

Ideally, sexuality is explored through feelings. The third and fourth nude yabyummychakras connect you to the emotional and compassionate selves, which connect you to the spiritual self. The spiritual self is the part of yourself that is multidimensional through which you exist in many forms simultaneously. It is your assignment and agreement and task to be aware of all these realities in the identity that you are. When you are aware, you can time into the different frequencies, remember who you are, and change the vibratory rate of this universe.

We love to talk about sexuality because it is so mysterious upon this planet. Certain mystery schools have held some of the knowledge about the potential uses of sexuality in secrecy. You are electromagnetic creatures, and when you come together physically with another human creature, you bond your electromagnetic frequencies together. When your frequencies are attuned and joined by a love frequency, incredible things can occur.

Thousands of years ago, when society had more of a matriarchal view in certain areas of the planet, Goddess energy was coming through and working with certain individuals. The female understood her power, her intuition, her feeling center, her connection, and her desire to create life. She also understood that she never had to conceive a child if it was not her intention to do so.

In order for the patriarchal society to come full circle and prepare Earth for this shift in consciousness, female energy needed to take a back seat. So female power, energy, and understanding of sexuality were suppressed. In modern times the past two thousand years-it came to be upon the planet that women believed they had no control over when they could have children, that sexuality was deemed bad and disgusting, and that sex was taught to be performed only within the rights of marriages and so on. All of this was a marketing program.

Some of the present-day marketing programs to create an even greater fear of sexuality and its expression are the new diseases: AIDS, herpes, and all the other things. You read about these things in your newspapers and become frightened of your own expression, frightened of your own intuition, and frightened of your own joy. Do you understand?

Before DNA was rearranged, the way many people reached the higher realms and were able to climb the ladders of themselves and reach into off-planet frequencies was by electromagnetically bonding through love. They created a rocketship-like experience to propel them out into other systems of reality. This has been one of the best-kept secrets upon the planet.

Many we have spoken to have had absolutely profound experiences with their sexuality. We would like to point out again that we are not making distinctions or judgments about who you happen to bond with in a relationship, and we suggest that you give up that judgment as well. It is old programming. It does not matter whether you bond with a member of the opposite sex or a member of your own sex. We are talking about two humans coming together by physically joining themselves in whatever ways are appropriate for them to join and create love, because they are sharing love. When integrity and love are missing from a joining of human bodies, that is when human beings do not think well of their experience. This can create all kinds of damaging results within the physical body.

You were left with the frequency of the orgasmic experience in sexuality so that you could remember your higher identity. When this energy or history of yourself is revealed and you discover who you are, you will unite many bodies of your personal multidimensional identity in your physical form. To receive the full impact of the gridwork of your identity, let the twelve helixes fit in your body and allow the light-encoded filaments to rearrange themselves. This process has to do with the mental body, which is of course connected to the physical body. The emotional body, which is connected to the spiritual body, is the body that everybody wants to skip. You say, “I want to evolve. I want a rapid acceleration, but I do not want to go through the feeling center to do it.”

You are connected to your multidimensional selves through your feelings, and it is in your feelings that you primarily get stuck. Accept that your “stuff” comes up for a reason. Many of you would like to bury your “stuff” and throw it out in the trash as if it is something ugly and not who you are. This “stuff” is the shadow portion of your identity that you don’t like to deal with or accept.

We understand that sometimes, when something comes up, you label it and say, “I hate this part of myself. I want to just finish it and sweep it under the rug and forget it. I’m finished with this stuff.” Guess what. Your “stuff”-your issues-are the treasures of your life. They are how you learn.

You have agreed to mutate, to pull light into your body, and to birth the Family of Light on this planet. Since light is information, you must deal with all of the things you have hidden from yourself. Sexuality is the primary issue because it is the secret self-the self you hide from. Society has said to you, “This is good. This is bad. You are to do this. You are not to do this.” Who gave you these laws? Who gave you any of your laws to begin with?

You have been stuck because you can’t read the symbols of the language you are speaking to yourselves. So you dwell upon it. Many of you love your stories because they get you attention. If you didn’t have a story, who would talk to you? Observe your body and see what it is teaching the self. Ideally, you will heal the sore and create a place of greater comfort and joy as you learn to dwell more completely in your physical body and have a new identity of your sexuality.

CatherineAndrewsCoalescenceSexuality is a key. It is a doorway to the higher realms of consciousness. As you redefine yourselves, and the light-encoded filaments give you a new definition of yourselves, you are going to change who you are sexually as well. Sexuality must come up for all of you, and, we will say from experience, it is the area that you are most frightened of at this time. We guarantee there will be more frightening areas later.

If you are stuck on the idea of love and cannot comprehend what is going on with it, your difficulty is that you are looking for love outside yourself. You are looking for somebody else to put meaning in your life and validate you. If you do not have that person, you become angry or feel you are worthless. This is a pattern you grew up with, which your parents and your society showed you. We have said over and over again that the most important thing you can do is love yourself and honor Earth. But you keep forgetting this and looking for the next relationship to make you whole or complete. You feel that without a relationship you are perhaps less than an acceptable citizen. Then you feel lonely. You must learn how to be alone. Loneliness is simply a state of mind. You are never, never alone. You have multitudes of entities around you. If you would stop feeling sorry for yourselves, you would find that there is so much data constantly being blasted at you that you may want to be alone so you can have a good time receiving the contact.

When you love yourself and stop getting convoluted about the need to have someone else love you, you are able to accept what someone offers. It is imperative that you value yourself so that you do not settle for a love disguised. If you decide to go for a partner or to vibrate with someone, and you do not receive what you want, do not whine or nag or pout about the person to make them change according to your needs. If you set a value for yourself and do not create it, then simply change your reality and continue onward alone until you meet someone who reflects your value. All the while, vibrate in the love of the self, honor the self, and understand that the journey here is about selfdiscovery in relationship to others. It is not just about husbands or wives. The journey here is about honoring your physical body and the uniqueness of the self as you touch the lives of many. Always allow yourself to work with the self and let the self evolve.

You are all afraid of being intimate with yourselves-of being alone with the self. Once you develop an intimacy, a silence, a self-love, and a containment of your energy, then you will want to make that aspect of intimacy your standard for intimacy with someone else.

Sexuality can be very confusing at this time because you are raising and studying your frequencies. When you join bodies, even when you hug one another, you exchange frequency. When you have a sexual experience, there is a hormonal release inside the body. The hormones awaken certain energies inside the cells, and there is a transference of one person’s essence onto the other person. That is why when vote have had sexual experiences with someone volt sometimes cannot get their energy off vote. Even though you don’t want to be with the person, the sexual experience stays with you because you have had an electromagnetic exchange.

You are going through this frequency modulation and learning how to raise your frequency to a place of consistent information, self-love, and self-intimacy. Therefore, it can seem very confusing and sometimes frightening to take this vulnerable thing you are learning about yourself and layer up and merge with another. The more you become aware, the more you take charge of how you use your body, where you plug it in, where you sit it down, and certainly who you mix it with sexually.

If expressing yourself sexually now encouraged your greatest growth, you would automatically create that experience for yourself because you would be ready for it. Understand that, during the process of evolving the self, very often a period of dormancy in sexual activity occurs. Within the sexual frequency, you exchange with one another. So if you are bonding yourself and chemically exchanging with a person who is not of your likeness, you are taking on their garbage because you are exchanging energy quite intimately.

Sometimes you will be led away from that kind of exchange. You may think, “Oh, my goodness, what is happening? Am I turning old? Am I drying up? What is going on?” That is not the case. You can learn to use the energy that would stimulate you sexually without giving it over to another person. Instead of getting chaotic and crazy, you may explore that energy by practicing the art of masturbation, knowing that it is perfectly legitimate and fine to do it. Or, you may want to simply observe that you feel a sexual arousal and decide what you are going to do with it. You may say, “Well, I’m not going to act on this now. Let’s see where this energy goes.” Take the energy, let it rise through your body, and use it in other areas.

You will get to a point when you must adore, sustain, and love yourself as if you are holding yourself like a newborn babe in your own arms, knowing you will do the best for yourself. Many of you distract yourselves. Find the place of serenity and silence in which you can find answers. You cannot find answers by dialing the telephone all day long and asking everyone else for them. If you attempt to, you are demonstrating that you are looking outside of yourself. When you learn how to turn within to find answers, the self will speak. Usually you cannot hear because you are locked in behavioral patterns that you know you have to change but that you don’t want to change because you don’t know who you will be.

In all honesty, you are afraid of yourselves. This is a very common thing. You are afraid you will not be complete, and you want to be complete very much. So you say, “I am complete. I am sovereign. I need someone else. I am attracted to someone. Oh, no, I cannot look. I am too frightened of that. I don’t need anyone. I do need someone.” You go back and forth. Learn to still your mind. Learn to become completely in charge of your energy. What does that mean? It means that wherever you are, you observe yourself-how your body is positioned, how you are using your hands, whether you are repeating yourself over and over again, whether you are speaking or silent. Learn to watch yourself with no judgment. Learn to watch and selfcorrect by determining how you would like to be versus how you are. Learn to quiet your mind.

Frequency is carried from you to another person particularly if there is a love bonding. A love bonding does not mean that you are going to cleave to one another forever. It simply means that you are in a relationship for however long you deem that relationship appropriate in that you honor one another and exchange energies and let the energies flow as if through open circuitry. When you do not love another and you are not bonded, there is no exchange; the circuitry does not open. It does not mean that you cannot have good sex; it simply means that the circuitry is not open.

As this electrical current is raised higher and higher, there are greater heights of orgasmic experience that the human body can receive because the nervous system is able to handle the higher ecstatic frequencies. The nervous system will determine how you express yourself and how you feel. If you have a poorly evolved nervous system, your sexual experience will be very limited because the nervous system conducts the electrical current. The orgasmic experience brings about a healing and realignment of the physical body.

Eventually, you will not be able to get close to or be with someone who is not operating at the same voltage you are. You simply will not fit. It would be like putting a size nine foot into a size two shoe. It won’t work or be comfortable. You won’t fit because you won’t be able to merge vibrationally.

You will eventually understand the importance of vibrational nourishment as you begin to link sexually. Linking sexually is only one way of merging with people who are moving at the same or a compatible voltage rate. Your reality is very interesting to us because you have so many clues in your waking world. When you go to a foreign country, your electrical appliances do not plug in. They don’t fit, so you need an adapter. It would be stressful if you had to continuously adapt to a vibration when you were involved intimately in a sexual relationship. It would be too much effort. You would spend all your energy creating the adaptive mechanisms. Then you would be in denial and not give yourself permission to go further because you would lower the ceiling.

Hippies 60s Sex Psychedelics Nudity FreedomThe sixties marked the opening of sexual exploration. In an instant, the paradigm shifted. Much of the energy that was on the planet at that time, coupled with the experimental ingestion of different mind-altering substances, immediately made a new paradigm and split you from previous generations. The boundaries were instantly changed. You were split from a generation that believed in war and did not feel-a generation whose sexual expression was done in the dark, perhaps with many clothes on. You broke the paradigm wide open in many ways, and you set new trends and created new ways of being. It was wonderful. “Oh, goodness, free sex and love and bodies showing!” you said.

Now it is time for a whole new revolution through which you will become vibrationally hooked to a person. There will be no more distractions of sexuality and no more pretending that you are without hang-ups-that you are sexually liberated because you can be in this position and that position and say this and do that. That is simply body aerobics in the area of sexuality. We want you to get into the aerobics and contortions of the soul-the vibration. The depth of two people coming together and linking in this capacity is what you all crave. If you are frightened of it, it is because you don’t have a framework or role model for it. You must design one. You must trust that somehow the energy in the design of the cosmic blueprint will instantly bring about a new movement based on the desire for this next step of understanding yourselves.

You will remember with great clarity your expressions of sexuality in your different manipulations through reality-when you have been both men and women and explored sexuality in every aspect. It takes courage to do this. If there is one area in which you really judge yourselves, and in which the planet does great judging, it is sex. You have had some definite ideas about what is sexually proper and improper. So, many of you may be shocked to remember what you have done with your sexuality.

Understand that, on this planet, sexuality has always been the body’s link to its higher frequency. Even though much of the data was scattered and disassembled in the body, this potential to create life remained for you to completely understand who you are at the base of your being and at the core of who you are. Sexual vibration has been your link with your cosmic identity, but this whole concept has been completely misunderstood and lost. We are simply saying that there is a bigger story and that it is much more exciting than anyone has dared to believe. There were those who did not want you to be in tune with these frequencies because the sexual frequencies could have taken you to areas of liberation where you would have begun to figure things out. Sexuality was left as a frequency for you to ride through the nervous system and connect with the higher mind by going out of your body. If you had been told that this was the rouCircuityte out, who could have controlled or manipulated you?

The population must clear the negative connotations and judgments that have colored your sexual experience for eons. You must make peace with sex in order to integrate the frequencies and identity. Things have been manipulated and given a boundary of limitation so that the truth of sexuality has been kept from you. You have been told that you can procreate with it and have orgasms, but you have not been told that you can open frequencies with it. You can come into contact and use it as a method of remembering who you are and altering the vibrational frequency of your body.

In the next few years, your expression of sexuality will have a whole new dimension. You will evolve and grow, provided that you have a partner who is willing to take the same route and to be that open. But if you are with someone who wants to play the avoidance game or the game of denial, you will not get there.

BARBARA  MARCINIAK : BRINGERS  OF  THE  DAWN – TEACHINGS FROM THE PLEIADIANS

 

 

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Being centered and fully present in your body heart and mind provides the greatest opportunities for enormous growth and profound intimacy. Feeling seen and seeing deeply into one another. From that state you will learn how to empower your partner with pleasure…

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3 Keys to Please a Woman – and a great tip for men to extend… !

The majority of women are unaware of their own mystique and sexual powers!  In fact most have barely experienced a glimpse of their orgasmic potential. We keep hearing that women are capable of being multi-orgasmic . Yet statistics show us that nearly 60% of women have difficulties achieving even one deeply satisfying orgasm!  Why is that?  What’s wrong with this picture!

It usually takes women longer to reach their pleasure peaks and so they often worry that their man won’t last long enough for them to be satisfied and reach a climax.  This compounds the problem and makes it all the more challenging, because stress and worry are orgasms worst enemy.  To make matters worse, men are hard-wired to come quickly to make sure that they sow their seeds in order to procreate the species.  They need to learn how to slow down and enjoy the journey more, so that women can too.

I can identify with this as I was one of the 60% of women who couldn’t reliably climax with a partner. I know the frustration, pressure and anxiety this can cause, which exasperates the situation. It burdens the relationship when women put this responsibility entirely on men. Yet it’s been a part of our cultural conditioning that men take the initiative in sex and when left to their own devices and instincts, men have not been very successful yet in finding the solution. Their sexual response comes rather spontaneously easy to rise and easy-to-fall into the abyss of bliss. This leaves a woman feeling unloved and incomplete.

It’s important for women to take matters into their own hands enough so that they can fully understand the pleasure potential that’s within her and how to access it.

Then she can educate her man, if he’s willing to take the adventure with her lead.  I can assure you it’s worth the journey even when it feels vulnerable and especially when it’s scary. That’s the greatest healing takes place.

I’d like to give you 3P’s to give a woman profound pleasure:  – Presence – Patience & Potency

Presence:  For most women erotic interest starts with the heart. She yearns to feel a connection that lets you know that she is loved, desired, seen  and really valued for all her wonderful characteristics. The more beautiful and cherished a woman feels with her man, the more likely she is to blossom fully in the warmth of his love. I’ve  experienced within myself that when I’m fully present and seen by my partner that intense excitement and incredible sensations can send a flood of warm tingling pleasure; sometimes without even touching!

The connection begins in the brain with the feeling of knowing that she is valued and loved completely which then allows her to easily surrender and let go totally. Total surrender allows her to open herself completely and receive your wildest passion. An artist of love can allure a woman to open and discover places neither she nor he knew existed!

When a man is off in his head fantasizing a scene he saw in a porn film somewhere… or thinking baseball scores to try and last long enough to satisfy her, the key element of connection is missing. Without connection it’s more like mutual masturbation which then reduces the experience to just trying to get off instead of celebrating a loving connection. When a woman feels like she’s just an object rather than a partner, she withholds her greatest treasures of pleasure.

Patience.  I encourage women to explore themselves and find their own rhythm and pace so that when met with their man, they can knowingly guide him to slow down enough so that she may tune-in to her pleasurable possibilities. This is especially important in the early stages of arousal when the desire is just beginning to stir and well before she begins to feel defeated. Frustration is toxic to an erotic environment. It comes off as needy, greedy and all about me.  A surefire passion killer.  I know I’ve been there too.

Start out slowly with the intention to build her desire arousing all of her erogenous zones and make an effort to explore more than the primaries. Delve deeply to discover exquisite pleasures that are possible yet dormant in her, yearning to be awakened. Women need to relax d-e-e-p-l-y and let their bodies feel and respond naturally to arousal. Breathe deep together and feel the sensations grow from subtle to sublime!

For women who don’t know what they like, want or need in the moment, as they’re always different… Don’t be afraid to explore. It’s fun to discover pleasure together and it empowers your man to be your Sex-God! A man who loves you is happiest when he can make you happy!   So don’t be shy or afraid to ask what your body needs. Learn to listen to your body and guide your partner to create a win-win.  He will thank you!   Men absolutely love to serve and please  their lovers… Right GUYS?

Making it an adventure to discover and explore and to numbness in the pleasure pain and sadness into joy together! And here’s how you can do it and make fun!  You’ll both enjoy it!

Important caveat: being with women who’ve been psychologically or physically abused sexually most likely requires some healing. This could be overwhelming for a partner to provide a container safe enough for her, without getting triggered. In those cases it’s helpful to find a coach or therapist who is qualified to guide the journey safely home.

You can learn techniques of sexual healing that you can use when trauma is activated.  This is discussed in-depth in another programs. Private coaching, Skype, Seminars all the way up to Certified Education at the Source School of Tantra.

2/10 women reportedly have been raped or sexually violated in ways it caused her to shut down. I believe many more than reported cases exists and that many women don’t report it because of shame and fear.

The emotional healing take some time and occurs in stages. For some it’s a  a short term glitch. Yet other times it a much deeper trauma that stirs up and unravels her family history of sexual abuse down to the cellular level…  as was the case in my experience.

I know, this is deep stuff! And it can get pretty scary sometimes. I caution you to get support when it’s overwhelming. But think of it as taking out the garbage. Or healing the wound of the past, with present, patient, prolonged pleasure.  No agenda but to help her blossom.

Women’s vaginas are like flowers! Before they blossom they need warmth and time to open naturally with desire !!

If there are glitches in her ability to feel fully responsive, which may be felt as pain or numbness instead of pleasure, know that those are wounds coming up from the past that can be healed in the power of the present.

In extremes or if she’s just been raped, read helpful guide: A Man’s Guide To Helping a Woman Who’s Been Raped by Matthew Atkinson, LCSW
Potency:  Here’s some powerful, wisdom about potency. You have a magic wand pulsing between your legs. It’s a wand that can light up your woman’s body and do amazing things to her which can make you light up even more. Also true for or a man if you happen to love men.

Men! Your penis is a wand of light and awesome power. Think of it as your teacher.  So study and learn from it well.

Here’s a tip to help you spread pleasure throughout your whole body.

Imagine that your erection is connected all the way down the base of your body to your tailbone and up your spine. Your body is designed so that it’s you can feel pleasure rise all the way up your spine. Orgasms can rise up your spine when your spine is properly awakened. This takes the practice of yoga and stretching, using your spine more fluidly to keep it open to receive this much pleasure. Most men/women have muscle memories that cause tension and stresses which prevent us from feeling full body pleasure. Through massage and active movement of the spine you can begins to raise your orgasmic ability.

My clients tell me that like having a full body erection! I like that image a lot because it gives you 6 feet instead of 6 inches to feel intensely aroused.  That gives you a lot more room for pleasure to expand.

So hold the vision of pleasure rising up your spine and when you feel arousal breathe it up your spine… while moving your spine so as to invite the sensation of pleasure inward and upward! The benefits of this are vast as it rises it nourishes the organs in your body. Ancient Taoists and Tantric’s and others have known this for ages.

It’s time we all awaken and discover the power of pleasure within our whole body.

See it in your minds eye rising up through your belly as you breathe deeply into your belly… expand it!  Allow pleasure to enter your belly and grow through you.… it starts in your brain. As your thoughts are your greatest erotic trigger. So if you’re good with fantasizing to get off, try this out instead. Visualize your erotic energy as healing light. Let it fill your belly.

Breathe deeply inviting pleasure’s to rise inward, opening yourself to be filled with rejuvenating life forces!

Try connecting arousal throughout your body [or to any part that ails you for healing energy can be delivered there.]You will find that your wand NOW has a wider range of sensations which helps you last longer.  And live longer with a whole lotta love and laughter!

So that’s my gift to you and I hope you find it valuable. I’d love to hear your thoughts about this in the comments section. If you’d like more guidance in this journey of awakening, I can be your orgasmic awakener and would love to support your quest!

 

 

 

Tantra Goddess’s Memoirs Revealed

Soon after Caroline published her memoirs, I was stoked to find a copy on the bed-side table of an apartment in Hong Kong where I was invited to stay while working abroad.   I remember clearly the impact she had on me upon meeting her at a tantra workshop that she and Charles led in LA 18 years before.  Her sparkling azure eyes and her deep belly laugh captivated me.  This was a woman who beautifully embodied love in ways I wanted to model.  I couldn’t wait to devour her book and recall some of my most cherished memories with her.

 

Witnessing her exuberant affection with Charles and others she fancied, helped me to realize the possibilities of unbridled passion in my life as well.   Reading her book made me appreciate the wisdom she taught by example. Her commitment to nurture others into wholeness as she did with Paul and Eric is a sacred statement of dakini mastery.  I learned to value the profound powers of sexual healing through her.  I feel honored to have dotted the pages near the end of her book and couldn’t put it down until I relived the times where she marked my mind with her colorful radiance.

 

Even though she struggled with sharing her beloveds,the times that she allowed her wild spirit to love freely empowers me to courageously open my heart with trust.

 

True to her title the Tantra Goddess reminds us to awaken joyful pleasure in our own lives.  Her feminine wisdom continues to guide others through her book!  I felt while reading it as though I was taken under her wing and shown the light and the darkness, the joy and the sorrow of opening to boundless love.  In the end by being honest about her true nature she ultimately chose her happiness in a monogamous relationship. While reading her story I was reminded of the challenges in polyamory and it caused me to question my own views and values about monogamy versus the experience of limitless love.

 

 

 

Seven-Day Honeymoon-Style Vacation Workshops

Join Charles Muir and staff for a seminar you will treasure for a lifetime. This relaxed seven-day honeymoon-style Vacation Workshop is for new students, people who have taken the weekend course and graduates who want to immerse themselves again in this extraordinary energy field of healing and awakening.

We cover all of our beginner weekend course information in greater depth, with many more experiential exercises and homeplay assignments. We also cover some profound new intermediate techniques. The Vacation Workshop schedule also incorporates plenty of time for sightseeing.

We will have highly trained and experienced associates available to assist you throughout the seminar with optional professional massages and private tantra healing sessions. Registration is limited to only 15 couples so sign up now to ensure your place and get the style of accommodation you wish. No explicit sexual activity takes place in class.

Come relax and regenerate in the best vacation of your life!

Calendar of Events

7 Steps to Scorching Intimacy

In the first year of my tantra training

I shared an intensive week with 30 others at a tantra boot camp in the magnetic red rocks of Sedona, Arizona.     We transformed  a former Chinese restaurant with crimson dragons that greet you, waterfalls and gardens to delight your senses… , into a luscious Tantra temple.    Together we did some life transforming work that week.

We were guided in many ‘clearing and reclaiming power’ exercises over the course of 7 days and nights.  Men were encouraged to exercise and nourish their libido by getting aroused and sustaining it for longer and longer periods of time; without ejaculating for the entire week.

Playing at the edge without going over, allowed men to expand their capacity and range for pleasure.  The sexual tension created so much testosterone I was dripping with excitement.

The Big O was an intense prolonged peak which filled me was so much energy it electrified me.

It not only gave us amazing, expanded orgasms together but it instilled an exuberance the continued on days later.  This kind of orgasm leaves a lasting impact of being recharged and reborn!  (more…)

The Truth Beyond The Sun

Tabloids exaggerate and tell crazy numbers about interesting stories, to get attention. Now that’s just fine with me as long as I get to tell the true side of the story, for those who look past the sensationalism and into what’s really true. 

So what inspired this blog post is that I want people to get to know the real me, beyond the tabloid that spread my name worldwide, overnight, in an a less than desirable way . At the time, I was outraged that my personal life had been so distorted and exposed to the world.  I was bombarded by the media with tons of requests for interviews, TV shows and documentaries. I declined many of them because the intimate nature of my work was personal and private. I couldn’t see it going public. But now I feel blessed and am grateful that I had the exposure.  It certainly opened up a lot of doors for me, however, I just wish it was better now, because it turned my life upside down.

When the the feature article came out in The Sun, I went undergrouond, in the desert, I wanted to make certain that I would be fairly represented because of what I really offer and how profoundly people’s lives are transformed spiritually,sexually, & emotionally because of it.

Inside Edition wanted to interview me, which I thought was great, but only if they got the right angle.  They wanted me to have a client on the show and I wanted to be sure that that would be a safe and respectable environment for her. I had a great female client in mind to show another view of my work and its importance for women.  I thought it would redirect attention towards providing women with profound sexual transformations,  a service that is much needed by many women who have had sexual abuse in their past. 

She was a victim of marital rape who eventually left her husband in spite of restrictions of her religion. It would’ve been a great example for other women.  For some reason,I never got called back after correcting the lies in the article below — which is astounding because is it not equally, if not, more important of a story? I hope to have the opportunity to present this meaningful and profound healing aspect of my work with both men and women.

 

Here’s what The Sun said — Along with my commentary:

The Sun:  This woman has had sex with more than a thousand men – and most of them are the husbands or boyfriends of other women.

My comment: In truth, I don’t have sex with clients unless it is the appropriate action to assist him in healing or learning and refining his sexual experience as part of a Sex Surrogate Partner package. If he’s married, it would be ideal to have his wife’s approval, but even better, her participation. I love helping couples love & please one another better.  Working with Tantra, there are many ways to exchange sexual energy.  Many of which do not involve any exchange of sexual fluids or intercourse.   When I was practicing as a sex surrogate, I worked as part of a therapy team, usually with a psychologist or psychiatrist on board.  We worked on his entire well-being including his  intimacy and sexual skills.  Occasionally intercourse was a part of their training to help them to hone their skills, become fully integrated and ready for their significant other.

On a few occasions I worked with virgins who came to me to learn and have their first experience.  In these cases,I would have intercourse with the client as their initiation. After several sessions,as the culmination of a series in the art of love and pleasure.

In some ancient cultures from India and several other countries, at the age of puberty, every young man and woman would have a private sexual educator to educate and assist them in their sexual development.  I think all men could benefit from such education and introduction to sex at any age. It’s never too late to start, as long as you’re willing to expand your points of view, tantra can work for anyone of any age. The more evolved you are when you begin, the higher you can soar!

 

The Sun : Mare Simone, calls herself a “sex surrogate” and has devoted her working life to helping men, women, and couples overcome problems in the bedroom.  As a qualified sex surrogate, she has given lessons in love to more than 10,000 clients over the past 23 years.

 

My comment: I said I have intimate relations with most of my clients sometimes intimacy is with touch and other times just in conversation. Your idea that sex surrogacy equals sexual penetration is based on ignorance that there is only one way to be truly intimate. And that’s not true.  Which is exactly what excites me about tantra– it’s a personal practice that builds a field of radiance so you come together at the highest level of your adult developed sexual being. And in the process healing wounds from any ghosts that may exist from their sexual past.

 

 

The Sun:  And while she estimates she has had penetrative sex some of them, she insists there is nothing illegal about what she does.  Mare says, “I earn my living by sleeping with other women’s husbands or boyfriends.

 

My comment: For the record I don’t sleep with my clients.  I actually awaken them to become better lovers.  And then send them home to love  and sleep with their wives.  In fact if I’m working with a married man who is not with his wife in session, I have him visualize his wife while we are doing practices that this might stimulate and focus his sexual energy home, towards her! I am in no way a prostitute as sex surrogacy is legal, as long as it is done in a therapeutic and healing atmosphere.  A clear distinction between a sex surrogate from prostitution is how beneficial the session was for the days and weeks afterwards. That’s what really counts.  I hope to leave them better than I found them.  What did they gain from my teachings and services? Did they heal or learn something meaningful? And will it transform their lives for good in the most joyful and important ways?  That is my aim and intention with each client I see.

 

“People are paying for counseling and to cure their problems – not sex.  I am helping improve and change the sex lives of thousands of men, which means I am also helping improve the sex lives of their wives and girlfriends.  Some women become baby surrogates because they want to help women who can’t have children. In the same way, I feel drawn to helping others have an intimate sex life.  My job is so fulfilling and enjoyable. Seeing my customers leave with a new-found sexual confidence is a wonderful sight.”

 

Single Mare, world traveler, based in Southern California and sees clients internationally conducts around 5-10 sessions online and in person. She sees people from all walks of life. She says: “My clients are all ages, shapes, sizes and professions. They have either been recommended to see me by a sex therapist or former client, they find me online, or they seek me out through tantra and sexual surrogate organizations.

 

“The men generally need help with erection and premature ejaculation problems or have been sent by their wives because they weren’t pleasing them in bed.  Before they see me, they all have an STD test, and must always use a condom with me.  I also have some women come to me. Their problems are usually that they can’t orgasm and have often had some sort of sexual trauma. I show them how to pleasure themselves and make them love their bodies.  Some visit me for a few sessions, while others have a series of 12, depending on the extent of their problems. Or the extent of their desires.  All of my sessions start by chatting, I sometimes touch their hands or rub their feet to help them feel relaxed and comfortable with me.  During the next few sessions I move to giving them back and shoulder massages, so the client relaxes further while talking about their problems. Following that, we do a mirror exercise. This is where the client and I will both take off our clothes and look at our bodies in the mirror.  Usually, they feel very timid about their bodies and find it difficult to look at themselves. But when they realise I am not judging them, they begin to open up and feel confident.  At that stage I move on to front body massages. I take over ‘down below’, showing them how they should be touching themselves.  Finally, it’s time to put everything into practice. This is the stage of lovemaking, so they can learn how to control themselves and solve their sexual problems.  My job is basically to make people realize their problems are not just physical. They are in the mind and have a lot to do with self-confidence.”

 

Mare has not always been so sexually open. At the age of 19, she was raped by a male friend after accepting a late-night lift home from a party.  Too afraid to report the attack, she lost her confidence in men and sex. When she married her first husband, Victor, ten years later, she still could orgasm with him.  She recalls:

“My fear of sex put a huge strain on my husband and I knew deep down it was due to the rape.  I needed sexual healing but didn’t know where to find it. Overnight I went from being outgoing to being introverted. When I did date, I found making love brought back unhealed memories.  When I married Victor, our sex life was never great and after four years we divorced but we have remained friends.  It was then that a friend recommended I start reading about tantric sex and sexual surrogacy.  Learning about this unknown world of sexual healing made me feel that there was hope for me to get my sexual confidence back.”

 

Mare took a weekend course in Tantra Yoga where she learnt about tantric sex, an ancient Hindu practice that concentrates on a slower form of sex. She says, “It was fascinating and during the course I also realised, for the first time, that the rape I had endured a decade before was not my fault. I could enjoy sex without feeling dirty, ashamed or guilty.”

 

She continued studying tantra and was certified in two lineages one being The Source School of Tantra Yoga where she studied with Charles and Caroline Muir for several years; and the other Ipsalu-Tantra Kriya Yoga.

 

She also did a two year long training program with Dr. Michael Perry MFCC in Southern California where she developed the skills of sex surrogacy practices and worked with his patients.  She even produced a video with him called ‘Sexual Secrets, A Sex Surrogates Guide to Great Sex’.

 

Now, Mare spends most of her time writing and developing content to offer on-line to her growing clientele.  She also offers phone consultations and teleseminars and sometimes webinars to people worldwide. She says, “I see about one or two people a day and charge around $200 per hour. Sometimes I will massage a husband in front of his wife or vice versa, to show them both how to be more sensitive lovers. Then I invite them to join me in massaging the other so the receiver is getting four-hands… and the other partner is learning a great deal.  Often, couples find just talking openly to a third person about the problems in their love life helps in the bedroom.”

 

Although she is proud of her job, she still finds it difficult to tell strangers and family about her work.  She also does not discuss it with any potential boyfriends until we know each other well.  She says,”I usually tell them I am a yoga teacher, until I trust them enough to tell them the form of yoga I teach.  Some can’t cope with it and run a mile, while others simply find it fascinating and are impressed.  Well tantra is a yoga and so there was no lie in that and sacred sex is just a part of the total Tantra experience. Ultimately it is a path of enlightenment.  A few trusted friends know what I do and my family knows but they rarely ask or want to know much about it. As part of my work, I regularly do sexual surrogacy tours, traveling the world, helping people with their most intimate problems.  The last time I was in London I saw 30 clients, some who had booked me months in advance.  It’s amazing how many people in the UK desperately want help with their sex lives, but have no idea where to turn.  There are many sex surrogates in the US but they are extremely rare in the UK.  People have to understand that intimate sex sometimes has to be learned. It does not come naturally to some people. The stress of modern life can cause problems and it’s my job to fix that.  Since I started surrogacy work, I have seen more than 8,000 clients and estimate that I have had penetrative sex with around 20. And most of them became lovers!  Witnessing the men and women I help make huge improvements and feel confident about their bodies is wonderful.  In the 20 years I have been doing this job, I have never felt miserable about going to work. I love what I do and have no plans to retire within the next ten years.  I am a sexual healer and so proud and happy that I found my dream job.”

End of The Sun article.

 

Looking back on that article now from 5 years ago, I see how much more I’ve grown to appreciate and value the power of sexual healing. When this article 1st came out I went in hiding feeling as though it had disgraced me and my profession. Cosmic going much deeper to understand the work of sexual healing. When you come to understand is that often times the wounds that occur and linger like a shield are often brought up when we try to love another and find ourselves blocked and unable to trust enough to be fully present.

 

Because of my sexual assault experiences from my past I feel strongly called to support others through that personal trauma and I know that often the most challenging times arise when you’re with a partner touching those places that have been charged with fear. What can you do in the moment to find comfort in present time? If you can recall that experience in an environment where you are loved, the experience can transform from fearful and dark to light filled love that be this you in a new light.  Sexual wounds get washed away in the overlay being in the delights of pleasure. It’s like rewiring the brain to associate pleasure with positive joyful love! And overlaying a new association thereby discharging negative imprints and memories with love. Eventually the negative cesspool of shame that’s been hiding in the body gets a new light and transforms. This is the alchemy of sexual energy which I will continue in another post…

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What is the Tantric Approach to Premature Ejaculation?

I find that most man who experience difficulties with premature ejaculation are really gifted with a tremendous degree of sensitivity in their ability to feel pleasurable sensations.

The problem lies in their fear of coming too soon and so they often try to remedy this by resisting “feeling too good”. When this is the action that is taken it is something like, trying to hold back a tidal wave with your bare hands. the more a man tries to hold back, the more frustrating and defeating it becomes. Therefore premature ejaculation turns into a downward spiral, the more you try to control it, the less you are able to enjoy the pleasure. (more…)

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