Charles Muir, the originator of “Sacred Spot Massage”, shares from his 35 years of practice and mastery what it takes to be a successful sexual healer. You will learn the 108 qualities that a Daka or Dakini (sexual high priest/priestess) must manifest within themselves to become a master.
At the Level 4 Associates Tantra Teacher Training in Santa Cruz, CA mountains, Charles Muir selected me to be a demo partner for an advanced level of healing that he has been researching and developing. It combines the powers of tantric, healing touch with stimulation of various neuro centers in the brain. He’s connecting the neuro-circuitry of the body to the brain to further accelerate the affects of what was already a profound practice into an ever greater expansion of healing through touch! I know that thought creates and attracts so I was preparing my mind and body to be activated to awaken to higher, unlimited version of myself. When asked do I believe in magic, I replied, ” Magic is a conscious application of the power of attraction in action. Thought combined with highly charged creative, sexual energy is the most magnetic and magical force of all!”
It was a sunny afternoon and we just finished a luscious gourmet lunch… I decided to walk to class to help digest and prepare myself for the demo that was about to blessed me and the classroom with profoundly intimate and awesome demonstration of the power of healing touch combined with intentions. Strolling downhill from house to the Boulder Creek conference room, I the first called in the spirit of all my ancestors to join me in this healing celebration. I could feel the lineage of my family beginning with my recently departed sister along with my mother and her mother; my father and his mother as well as my beloved Aunt Sadie, who was as adventurous as me. I even called in all my angels and guides. I was ready for a big shift to take place and felt I needed an army of support to guide me. I was willing and eager to invite profound magic into my body to help me become more fully empowered, heal and awakened priestess of pleasure and the sacred erotic arts!
Upon entering the room I could feel all their energies as well as the support of the crew, 25 of the most dedicated practitioners of the Source Tantra School sitting in a circle with a large bed in the center and beautiful flowers adorning pillows. Anticipation filled my veins and I began to tremble and here at the remarkable conscious preparation that went into making this space sacred. Charles gave a brief introduction to my physical situation – I’ve had fibroid tumors on my uterus for many years which have caused me some pain and discomfort as well as being an obstruction to pleasure.
Presence was palpable as I surrendered into the pillows and stated my intentions and my belief in magic and love combined with powerful intent, he worked on my back at first pointing out the imbalance in my sacral dimples. I moaned as I felt my body let go while he touched places that harbored pain, numbness and blocks of fear. I melted as he rocked me and pressed on the places that needed conscious contact to release the obstructions. Yes even we healers need healing.
When I rolled over my mind and body were over receptive to the wild ride that ensued. I felt rivers of love flow through me washing blocks of my past with blessed Amrita, the nectar of the Goddess! Like a volcano erupting, tears and laughter roared through my body uncontrollably as I affirmed that I am abundant and rich in the extraordinary ability call in radiant health, love and support on all levels.
What happened after that is too powerful for words but it rocked the room and everyone in it. Then Charles called in a team of supporters to hold my hands and points on my head which grounded and helped integrate the explosion of light that came through me. They adorned my body with flowers and I felt reborn… I never laughed and cried so much in my entire life! Tears well in my eyes and gratitude in my heart as I share these precious memories with you.
And What’s it’s Really Like To See a Sex Surrogate
I was certified and began my practice as a Sex Surrogate in 1987. It was a parting gift from my former husband to pay for my training. I now utilize a combination of traditional sex surrogate sensate focus type exercises with techniques which I draw from tantra which raises orgasmic energy to a full-body event.
While auditioning for a sequel to the documentary, The Virgin School, I was informed that “The Sessions“, formerly called “The Surrogate” was soon to be released. It was already getting rave reviews at the film festivals and I’m sure it will be nominated for Academy awards. I watched the trailers with eager anticipation, I couldn’t wait to see it. I was already in love with this movie before it hit the theaters!
At the first opportunity I saw it with 2 of my best girlfriends who also provide sex and relationship coaching via tantra and other tools.
We were all moved to tears throughout watching this documentary especially knowing that it’s based on a true and heartwarming story from the autobiographical writings of California-based journalist and poet, Mark O’Brien, who was disabled from polio when he was a child. In his 30’s he yearned to experience sex with a woman. The involuntary emissions he experienced when bathed by his caretaker; did nothing more than humiliate him due to his lack of control. He couldn’t even physically masturbate to satisfy himself. Can you imagine the frustration of being unable to touch your self to relieve an itch let alone a sexual desire! Upon asking his priest for advice he saw a sex therapist who referred him to see a Sex Surrogate.
The movie revealed deep sentiments, emotions, challenges and the complications that come with being physically handicapped. Plus it
gave us an exhilarating glimpse of the triumphs that can occur with such a powerful therapeutic support system as in a Sex Surrogate therapy model. This profession was developed by Masters and Johnson – sex therapists and researchers, to help their patients develop sexual confidence and skills as well as transform sexual trauma; by practicing with a skilled, compassionate and supportive partner. Traditionally there are 12 or more sessions needed, or an intensive weekend depending upon the needs of the client. The first half is about building a safe foundation with good communication and intimacy skills. The second half are more focused on sexual practices and explorations which sometimes though not always, culminate in sexual intercourse.
The final session is traditionally a completion ceremony which is a celebration with gift-giving, acknowledgments and appreciation.
In the film only 6 sessions were allowed, I suppose It’s to avoid emotional attachments to one another, but they did become rather fond of one another that she suggested that they end it abruptly after just 4 sessions.
Mission accomplished. He was no longer a virgin. And he did come to know a women in “the biblical sense” and he was certainly better equipped to experience love with another woman, which apparently happened for the last years of his life. I’d like to read his journals which he typed holding a stick with his teeth to press upon the keys. Amazing, determination to be self expressed!
What I learned from being a sex surrogate is invaluable and I would recommend this service [and profession] to anyone who wants to learn and practice love and intimacy skills in order to become a better lover with greater confidence and knowledge. I have seen many men and women transform their lives for the better by learning how to express their love physically and emotionally. Being their partner in this process and to hold and support them while they heal and awaken is such an honor for me; and a blessing for all. The process naturally creates a deep intimate and safe foundation for powerful shifts and growth opportunities. And although it can get messy in the midst of emotional release and rebirthing, I believe it’s the quickest and most effective way to heal the emotional and sexual wounding caused by abuse, rape, incest, shame and other violations that interfere developing a healthy sexual life.
Knowing the profession as I do, I wish they portrayed a more conscious model of ending the relationship rather than the drama of the surrogate running away to hide her emotions.To me that’s the most pinnacle part of the relationship is learning to and while maintaining conscious love connection. But that’s Hollywood’s version of the story.
In my surrogate practice our last session was a celebration of gratitude for the intimate times we shared. Our last meeting would be often dinner together to close the ties gracefully and wish each other well. Parting tears was a natural side of a healthy process of breaking up. Working so intimately with a sex surrogate, opens many doors and in some cases wounds from the past much like in a real love relationship will surface in order to be healed.
I am often asked the question about what happens if a client falls in love with me or in the event that a mutual love connection occurs between myself and clients. Traditional therapy refers to this as transference and to be avoided. But from my experience it’s part of the process of learning to love and practicing with someone who’s willing to open their heart as well as their body and soul to access the transformational power of intimate love. As long as they don’t ‘fall’ too deep, it can be a valuable part of the process of opening to love. This process which can trigger mutual feelings of vulnerability so it must be treated with extra sensitivity. I have tasted the bitter sweetness of bonding deeply with someone who’s life transformed before my eyes. And have been on both side of the journey so I know how important it is to be treated with care and grounded, supportive love so that profound growth is the outcome.
“Leave them better than you found them…” is a quote my mentor Charles Muir has often said to me and others he trains to be love coaches in his Source School of Tantra. which I am also an advocate of is very similar in many ways to the practice of Sex Surrogacy. They both deal with improving one’s intimate and sexual skills and help people better express their love. I feel blessed to be adept in both areas and am so happy that this service is finally coming out into the light with dignity and respect.,
Ben Lewin (screenplay)
The Sessions, a film by an Australian film-maker husband and wife duo, has taken $267,000 at the box office in its opening weekend.
Written and directed by Ben Lewin and produced by his wife Judi Levine, The Sessions is inspired by a true story and and follows man in an iron lung who wishes to lose his virginity to a professional sex surrogate.
The Fox-distributed film was awarded winner of the Audience Award at the Sundance Film Festival this year.
Soon after Caroline published her memoirs, I was stoked to find a copy on the bed-side table of an apartment in Hong Kong where I was invited to stay while working abroad. I remember clearly the impact she had on me upon meeting her at a tantra workshop that she and Charles led in LA 18 years before. Her sparkling azure eyes and her deep belly laugh captivated me. This was a woman who beautifully embodied love in ways I wanted to model. I couldn’t wait to devour her book and recall some of my most cherished memories with her.
Witnessing her exuberant affection with Charles and others she fancied, helped me to realize the possibilities of unbridled passion in my life as well. Reading her book made me appreciate the wisdom she taught by example. Her commitment to nurture others into wholeness as she did with Paul and Eric is a sacred statement of dakini mastery. I learned to value the profound powers of sexual healing through her. I feel honored to have dotted the pages near the end of her book and couldn’t put it down until I relived the times where she marked my mind with her colorful radiance.
Even though she struggled with sharing her beloveds,the times that she allowed her wild spirit to love freely empowers me to courageously open my heart with trust.
True to her title the Tantra Goddess reminds us to awaken joyful pleasure in our own lives. Her feminine wisdom continues to guide others through her book! I felt while reading it as though I was taken under her wing and shown the light and the darkness, the joy and the sorrow of opening to boundless love. In the end by being honest about her true nature she ultimately chose her happiness in a monogamous relationship. While reading her story I was reminded of the challenges in polyamory and it caused me to question my own views and values about monogamy versus the experience of limitless love.
Join Charles Muir and staff for a seminar you will treasure for a lifetime. This relaxed seven-day honeymoon-style Vacation Workshop is for new students, people who have taken the weekend course and graduates who want to immerse themselves again in this extraordinary energy field of healing and awakening.
We cover all of our beginner weekend course information in greater depth, with many more experiential exercises and homeplay assignments. We also cover some profound new intermediate techniques. The Vacation Workshop schedule also incorporates plenty of time for sightseeing.
We will have highly trained and experienced associates available to assist you throughout the seminar with optional professional massages and private tantra healing sessions. Registration is limited to only 15 couples so sign up now to ensure your place and get the style of accommodation you wish. No explicit sexual activity takes place in class.
Come relax and regenerate in the best vacation of your life!
Overnight account accommodations are conveniently available in the Boulder Creek golf resort just a few blocks away.
June 25-27 — Beginners TANTRA WORKSHOP w/ CHARLES MUIR & MARE SIMONE in Boulder Creek, Santa Cruz. CA
Originally carried in Penthouse Magazine (Mare is quoted near the end of the article)
by Russ Farrell
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