Foods and Natural Supplements to Help Master Your Mojo!

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Many people experience decreased libido at various points in their lifetime. While this can be triggered by stress, health conditions, or age, it is something that affects both men and women. Although it can be frustrating, dwindling desire doesn’t mean the end of magic between the sheets. There’s good news— there are many natural resources for refueling your drive, keeping the flames burning and upping the ante from there.

Decreased libido can be a sign of hormone imbalance, meaning your body isn’t producing adequate levels of testosterone for stamina and performance. Other signals of this imbalance include an overall feeling of sluggishness, fatigue, hair loss, and lack of energy. This can lead to a cycle of depression and disappointment, further exacerbating the issue. It may sound surprising, but the secret to restoring your bedroom bliss begins in the kitchen. Even some of the most common vegetables and other foods contain powerful aphrodisiacs that can maximize momentum and push your libido back up into the stratosphere of sexual energy.

Natural supplements to revive your sex-drive is important to many, especially with the harmful and costly pharmaceutical alternatives which don’t really support heightened pleasure or revitalizing the organs involved in sensual pleasure. However, many people do not realize that they are actually able to improve their libido by simply eating certain types of foods. Below is an extensive and growing list of the foods and supplements that you can add to your regime in order to improve your overall health including your libido.

Nutrients to seek out:
• Ashwagandha – is available in health food stores or online. It is a fantastic product that reduces stress, which can lead to the body producing testosterone better.
• Bee Pollen – can be purchased through health food stores or online and helps to balance hormone levels and increase testosterone.
• Cholesterol – It is helpful because it is a building block for testosterone. Consume by eating small amounts of dairy, raw eggs in smoothies, beef, lobster, chicken with skin and liver.
• D-Aspartic Acid – helps increase testosterone production by 33%. You can add it to your diet by eating asparagus, tilapia, seaweed and halibut.
• Fenugreek – a powder form is available online and in food stores. You use it to make a tincture to increase testosterone production by up to 26%.
• Garlic – Garlic can be added to any food that you like, but it is also found in most Italian food options.
• Ginger – you can find this in many grocery stores and can be incorporated into many recipes. It helps to improve testosterone production by 17%.
• Iodine – can be gained from scallops, shrimp, seaweed, cod, salmon, cow’s milk, tuna, eggs and supplements. It helps your thyroid produce testosterone.
• L-Taurine – found in seafood, meat and through a supplement. Helps increase testosterone in the body.
• Magnesium – this can be found in dark leafy greens, bananas, avocado, fish, nuts and seed and dark chocolate.
• Mucuna Pruriens – this is a powder that you can purchase online and through health food stores. It also helps increase testosterone levels.
• Omega-3 – you can get this from the foods that you eat: cauliflower, flax seed, Brussel sprouts, walnuts, beef and sardines. It helps to trigger testosterone production.
• Pine Pollen – available online and through health food stores. It helps to boost the level of testosterone.
• Reservatrol – this is found in berries, red wine and grapes. It helps to increase testosterone levels by 50%.
• Royal Jelly – is found in health food stores and online. It is used to boost the testosterone by around 20%.
• Selenium – you can get this by consuming certain types of fish, nuts and seed, chicken, beef and mushrooms.
• Shilajit (Authentic) – can be difficult to find, but there is some available online. It increases testosterone by 23.5% and is administered through an injection.
• Suma Root – This is available through health food stores and online and is helpful with the production of hormones and in support of the endocrine system.
• Tongkat Ali – This herb is created from a flowering plant that is found in Indonesia and Malaysia. It helps to reduce stress and reduce testosterone. It is available through a supplement.
• Vitamin A – is found in greens, winter squash, kale, carrots, and sweet potatoes. It will help to decrease estrogen production in order to increase testosterone.
• Vitamin D – along with sunlight, foods like mackerel, salmon and low fat milk will increase the amount of vitamin D in your body. Vitamin D is an important part of being healthy and can play a role in testosterone levels, fertility and muscle growth.
• Vitamin E – Found in greens, asparagus, sunflower seed, almonds and Swiss chard. You should eat this to help lower estrogen levels.
• Vitamin K2 – This is a naturally occurring vitamin that is found in cheese, eggs, meat, poultry and butter. It is also one of the most important vitamins.
• Zinc – enters the body from chicken, beans, mushrooms, seafood, beef, spinach, chocolate, pumpkin seeds and cashews. It encourages estrogen production so that testosterone levels are raised.
These foods are all extremely helpful when it comes to increasing your libido, so make sure that you are getting plenty of them on a daily basis. You will find that by incorporating these types of foods into your normal diet, you will have a higher level of testosterone and therefore a stronger libido.

Libido Alive Diet – For a Luscious, Orgasmic Life-Style!

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Valentine’s Day is just around the corner ladies and gentlemen, and with this sweet and sexy holiday comes certain expectations. While most of us might look forward to spending the evening in with our lovers, some may feel unprepared and possibly even anxious about performing correctly on this most sensual holiday.

However, it may be easier than you think to enhance your libido, vamp up your sex-drive and get ready for a wild night with your lover. Interestingly, the foods we consume can directly affect our sex-drive, and either become aphrodisiacs or mood killers. For thousands of years human beings have known about the link between food and sex drive, but it wasn’t until science began researching these links that we’ve been able to prove that certain foods do hold power over our bodies. Now we know which foods boost or numb our reproductive organs. By paying attention to our diets and consuming the right nutrients, we can live a fabulous and orgasmic life-style.

To help you gain a better grasp on the right foods for your sex life, we have crafted a brief overview of libido improving aphrodisiacs that are guaranteed to make you ready for V-Day. Some of the items on our list might surprise you while others might not be so surprising, but come at each of them with an open mind and prepare yourself for a lustful experience with your lover after giving these scrumptious sex foods a go.


It doesn’t take a stretch of the imagination to realize that avocados look an awful lot like a pair of male testicles. The ancient Aztecs even named the avocado tree the “testicle tree”. Aside from there erotic shape, avocados also have been proven to vamp up the level of testosterone in those who consume them on a regular basis. This is excellent for both men and women as testosterone increases the libido and drives blood to the genitalia.

Ginger Root

This spicy root has a direct affect on the circulatory system. Although most people opt to consume ginger when they have a virus of some sort, it also has a powerful effect on blood flow to the vagina and the penis thereby directly increasing sex-drive.

Tip: Make some ginger root tea on the morning of Valentine’s Day to get yourself and your lover in the mood.


While it may not taste like something that will get you ready for action, arugula has a powerful effect on the body. Not only is this super food excellent for nearly all of our vital organs, but it also has a way of ridding our bodies of toxins that prevent arousal. You can easily add this spicy leafy green into a salad to gain the orgasmic affects later on.

Chili Peppers

Noting says sex quite like spicy food, and with good reason. Chili peppers are notorious for stimulating a certain tingle between the legs, and thanks to their power to help the brain release endorphins these spicy herbs made their way onto our libido foods list. You and your lover can either dare each other to chow down a bite of a chili pepper or you can simply add it to your favorite dish to literally “spice-things-up.”

Tip: To increase the effect of chili peppers/powder, add some to a batch of libido-enhancing avocado based guacamole to take things up a notch.


You’re probably thinking—Basil? But, this tasty little herb packs some serious orgasmic power. In fact, this sensual gift from the earth even has the power to trigger sexual urges and desires in otherwise flat libidos. Soups like tomato basil have an incredible ability to heat things up from the inside out. Don’t judge an herb by its reputation, instead add a little basil to your meal and discover a powerful orgasm in the aftershocks.

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Erotic, sensual and passionate strawberries are the perfect food to feed your partner to get things going and are one of the most common foods during Valentines. Heart shaped and rich in zinc (a well-known aphrodisiac), strawberries are a must eat to boost your sex-drive and increase your desire to please your lover.

Tip: Nearly all berries contain high levels of zinc and manganese which is crucial for blood flow, energy, and sexual arousal. Other excellent choices include raspberries and blueberries.


How could we leave this natural aphrodisiac off of our list of libido enhancing foods? Chocolate, primarily dark chocolate, is jammed full of caffeine which stimulates the heart and jump starts your circulatory system. Additionally, theobromine (the chemical that powers-up the heart) is alive and well in dark chocolate and will also make you more sensitive to your lover’s touch, making sex even more pleasurable.

Tip: Opt for chocolate covered strawberries for a sensual treat you and your lover can share that is sure to increase your stamina and get your blood pumping.  

This year, discover the Libido Alive Diet and make this Valentine’s Day a day you and your lover won’t soon forget.

Sexual Healing : The Tantra Way (DVD)

Charles Muir, the originator of “Sacred Spot Massage”, shares from his 35 years of practice and mastery what it takes to be a successful sexual healer.  You will learn the 108 qualities that a Daka or Dakini (sexual high priest/priestess) must manifest within themselves to become a master.

Whole Body O’s

I’m fascinated and compelled by the knowledge that the energy of orgasm is a powerful creative life-force. That the very powers that creates life — when directed properly,love out loud can also positively impact our health and empower the overall quality-of-life.

Sexual energy is healing as the primordial energy that created all the cells in our bodies. Including the stem cells so orgasmic energy is thereby potentially more powerful than stem cells.

When used intelligently. Orgasmic energy has the potential power to heal our bodies. To energize and revitalize! This a powerful elixir of life.

People Who are active sexually have a 50% less chance of getting heart attacks, Alzheimer’s and other degenerative diseases are reversed or prevented. Both men and women who are sexually active live longer, stronger healthier lives.

I’ve seen some major transformations in my own life and the people around me. I know the wisdom within our bodies; that we access thru tantra and similar practices is much more powerful than most can imagine. Our ability to heal and transform ourselves and the world around us has barely begun to be tapped into.

In 27 years of practice I’ve experienced multitudes of people’s lives spontaneously heal as they realign with their source. Innate truth and purpose become crystal-clear in highly aroused orgasmic states. And great shifts and successes arise out of a state of peaceful pleasure. Athletes who ride the high waves the of orgasmic bliss without releasing their essence have been proven to have greater scores than those who did not practice high Tantric sex.

Omar Garrison in his book, “Tantra, the Yoga of Sex” sites research in this remarkable arena.

My point of view is a little less austere then Taoists and the classical tantra, which suggests that men should abstain from ejaculating, I believe that when a man experiences whole body orgasms that fill up his body and brain with tingling
sensations of energy… That even if there is an ejaculation occurring at the end of such a session, the loss of energy is much less than if the release occurred quickly in a fast and feverish blow.

In what we’re talking about is the alchemy of sex the transformation of orgasmic energy into other manifestations. The power to create can be harnessed and developed and used in many ways. This is a birthright for each and every one of us to gather and cultivate our own life forces and draw from them as we would invest our resources in valuable investments that grow with interest.

So wouldn’t it make sense to learn to harness the power of creative energy so that you can build your own reservoir that keeps you impassioned? Your pool of creative life forces can be used to invest in yourself and in your endeavors!

I have been teaching these skills to men and women on phone and Skype with great success for many years – in addition to teaching this in person.

Therefore I’m completely thrilled to announce that I will be providing teleseminar series where I will teach, coach, guide, and support a group of you to expand and explore your whole body orgasmic ability together… Alone! In the privacy of your own home that is but you won’t be alone because will all be coming together for these phenomenal events!

If you can’t make it, register and you will receive a free recording! You want this recording!

Sexy Kale Salad ~Yum ~

Here’s a great article I found in my research that sets a stage for strong, healthy sex with nutrition from one of my favorite vegetables, kale.  I have added my favorite recipe below.  I hope you try and enjoy.  For me it is a turn-on to prepare as well as to eat… especially when you use you hands and massage the kale with LOVE!

Kale Can Save Your Love-Life!

Has “Not tonight honey, I have a headache” become your old standby?
It might not be a headache killing your love life, it could be adrenal fatigue or low libido, which are easy to correct through diet. That’s why new research on supercharged foods like kale are being studied for their ability to titillate brain receptors and boost libido.
Think you might have adrenal fatigue?
Many people have adrenal fatigue and don’t know it. If you need caffeine or sugar to wake up on the morning, feel tired by 3pm, and then have trouble falling asleep at night, you might have adrenal fatigue.

The best way to create a long-lasting energy buzz is to incorporate superfoods like kale into your diet. These kinds of foods also help to stabilize blood sugar levels and have the added benefited of keeping you feeling fuller longer. Slow-release carbohydrates, like the kinds in kale, also stabilize blood sugar levels and keep you from feeling that afternoon lull that often results from eating processed carbs or sugary foods.
Aren’t in the mood for sex? 
Well, kale not only tastes great but it can boost your mood.
“I believe in eating your leafy greens rather than popping synthetic pills,” says Dr. Sara Gottfried, Harvard grad and board-certified OB/GYN, one of the leading experts on libido, who believes that diet plays a big role in s -x drive.
She isn’t the only MD who thinks that. My co-author of 50 Shades of Kale, Dr. Drew Ramsey, an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at Columbia University, and a leading expert on brains foods, says that kale contains a whole list of nutrient you need to maintain mood, such as Vitamin B6.
Gained a few pounds and not feeling sexy?  
Well, it’s time to get your greens on!
Leafy greens not only double your nutrient load, they also happen to be naturally low in calories, fats, and carbs. This means you can shed pounds without have to follow a complicated diet. Kale is one of the few vegetables which is also high in protein. If you crave salty chips, try crispy kale chips instead. Not only will you get over 100% of your needs for vitamin A (just to name one nutrient), you’ll cut way back on calories, saturated fat, and carbs.
Mare’s Kale Salad with Mushroom ‘Escargot’
Fresh kale  -1 bunch
Fresh Parsley – 1/2 bunch
Avocado – 1 ripe
Red Onion – 1/2 med
Black Olives – 6 ozs
Pine Nuts – 1 cup [optional] or Soaked Almonds or Slivered and or Walnuts are good variations
Marinade: [use seasonings to taste]
Olive Oil – 1/4 cup
Tamari or other soy sauce – 2 T
Cayenne pepper – 1/8 tsp
Chopped Garlic [or garlic powder] 3 cloves
Cumin seeds whole, ground or use both 1/4 tsp
Juice of 1/2 lemon
Braggs Amino Acid – splash
Sea salt to taste
Wash and shake or spin dry fresh kale and parsley.
Remove spines from kale and chop horizontally in 1/2″ slices. Put in a large bowl and pour a few tablespoons of olive oil onto the kale and massage it thoroughly with your hands. As you are massaging the leaves focus on positive, passionate loving thoughts and send them into the greens. If you and your partner massage the leaves together it’s fun and it increases the aphrodisiac powers. Massaging helps tenderize the texture, continue until all the leaves are oiled and shiny and the fiber appears softer by squeezing and massaging.

Mix together marinade ingredients. Prepare mushrooms for grilling cut off part of the stem and put in a lightly oiled baking pan upside down so that you can fill the mushroom with the marinade.. Lightly score the mushroom cup radiating out from the center being careful not to pierce through to the bottom so the marinade seeps in.

Sprinkle some pine nuts on top and set aside while you prepare the other ingredients.
Chop the red onions in slices along the grain in crescent moon shapes – about a 1/4 inch thick.

Bake mushrooms at 325° for about 20 minutes.  With cooking, less is more nutritious; which makes it a more potent aphrodisiac.

Raw foodies – Slice them in small escargot size and shapes, radiating out from the center.  Then mix the mushrooms and onions into the marinade sauce. Add the pine nuts [or other nuts]. Toss.  Allow the flavors to mingle a few hours up to overnight

Slice in half and score the avocado in a crisscross pattern into 1/2 inch size cubes. Spoon out of the shell unto the chopped greens.

Pour the marinated mushrooms, onions and pine nuts on the greens and stir well.  Add whole olives and chopped parsley and toss lightly,

Serve as a side dish or a light meal. This salad keeps well in the refrigerator for at least a few days… Making it a great travel food. With all the traveling I do I love my kale salad because it feels so wholesome and nourishing and gives me great energy, aids digestion and fuels my libido making me ready for love!  I hope you try it and please give me your feedback either way. Enjoy!


3 Keys to Please a Woman – and a great tip for men to extend… !

The majority of women are unaware of their own mystique and sexual powers!  In fact most have barely experienced a glimpse of their orgasmic potential. We keep hearing that women are capable of being multi-orgasmic . Yet statistics show us that nearly 60% of women have difficulties achieving even one deeply satisfying orgasm!  Why is that?  What’s wrong with this picture!

It usually takes women longer to reach their pleasure peaks and so they often worry that their man won’t last long enough for them to be satisfied and reach a climax.  This compounds the problem and makes it all the more challenging, because stress and worry are orgasms worst enemy.  To make matters worse, men are hard-wired to come quickly to make sure that they sow their seeds in order to procreate the species.  They need to learn how to slow down and enjoy the journey more, so that women can too.

I can identify with this as I was one of the 60% of women who couldn’t reliably climax with a partner. I know the frustration, pressure and anxiety this can cause, which exasperates the situation. It burdens the relationship when women put this responsibility entirely on men. Yet it’s been a part of our cultural conditioning that men take the initiative in sex and when left to their own devices and instincts, men have not been very successful yet in finding the solution. Their sexual response comes rather spontaneously easy to rise and easy-to-fall into the abyss of bliss. This leaves a woman feeling unloved and incomplete.

It’s important for women to take matters into their own hands enough so that they can fully understand the pleasure potential that’s within her and how to access it.

Then she can educate her man, if he’s willing to take the adventure with her lead.  I can assure you it’s worth the journey even when it feels vulnerable and especially when it’s scary. That’s the greatest healing takes place.

I’d like to give you 3P’s to give a woman profound pleasure:  – Presence – Patience & Potency

Presence:  For most women erotic interest starts with the heart. She yearns to feel a connection that lets you know that she is loved, desired, seen  and really valued for all her wonderful characteristics. The more beautiful and cherished a woman feels with her man, the more likely she is to blossom fully in the warmth of his love. I’ve  experienced within myself that when I’m fully present and seen by my partner that intense excitement and incredible sensations can send a flood of warm tingling pleasure; sometimes without even touching!

The connection begins in the brain with the feeling of knowing that she is valued and loved completely which then allows her to easily surrender and let go totally. Total surrender allows her to open herself completely and receive your wildest passion. An artist of love can allure a woman to open and discover places neither she nor he knew existed!

When a man is off in his head fantasizing a scene he saw in a porn film somewhere… or thinking baseball scores to try and last long enough to satisfy her, the key element of connection is missing. Without connection it’s more like mutual masturbation which then reduces the experience to just trying to get off instead of celebrating a loving connection. When a woman feels like she’s just an object rather than a partner, she withholds her greatest treasures of pleasure.

Patience.  I encourage women to explore themselves and find their own rhythm and pace so that when met with their man, they can knowingly guide him to slow down enough so that she may tune-in to her pleasurable possibilities. This is especially important in the early stages of arousal when the desire is just beginning to stir and well before she begins to feel defeated. Frustration is toxic to an erotic environment. It comes off as needy, greedy and all about me.  A surefire passion killer.  I know I’ve been there too.

Start out slowly with the intention to build her desire arousing all of her erogenous zones and make an effort to explore more than the primaries. Delve deeply to discover exquisite pleasures that are possible yet dormant in her, yearning to be awakened. Women need to relax d-e-e-p-l-y and let their bodies feel and respond naturally to arousal. Breathe deep together and feel the sensations grow from subtle to sublime!

For women who don’t know what they like, want or need in the moment, as they’re always different… Don’t be afraid to explore. It’s fun to discover pleasure together and it empowers your man to be your Sex-God! A man who loves you is happiest when he can make you happy!   So don’t be shy or afraid to ask what your body needs. Learn to listen to your body and guide your partner to create a win-win.  He will thank you!   Men absolutely love to serve and please  their lovers… Right GUYS?

Making it an adventure to discover and explore and to numbness in the pleasure pain and sadness into joy together! And here’s how you can do it and make fun!  You’ll both enjoy it!

Important caveat: being with women who’ve been psychologically or physically abused sexually most likely requires some healing. This could be overwhelming for a partner to provide a container safe enough for her, without getting triggered. In those cases it’s helpful to find a coach or therapist who is qualified to guide the journey safely home.

You can learn techniques of sexual healing that you can use when trauma is activated.  This is discussed in-depth in another programs. Private coaching, Skype, Seminars all the way up to Certified Education at the Source School of Tantra.

2/10 women reportedly have been raped or sexually violated in ways it caused her to shut down. I believe many more than reported cases exists and that many women don’t report it because of shame and fear.

The emotional healing take some time and occurs in stages. For some it’s a  a short term glitch. Yet other times it a much deeper trauma that stirs up and unravels her family history of sexual abuse down to the cellular level…  as was the case in my experience.

I know, this is deep stuff! And it can get pretty scary sometimes. I caution you to get support when it’s overwhelming. But think of it as taking out the garbage. Or healing the wound of the past, with present, patient, prolonged pleasure.  No agenda but to help her blossom.

Women’s vaginas are like flowers! Before they blossom they need warmth and time to open naturally with desire !!

If there are glitches in her ability to feel fully responsive, which may be felt as pain or numbness instead of pleasure, know that those are wounds coming up from the past that can be healed in the power of the present.

In extremes or if she’s just been raped, read helpful guide: A Man’s Guide To Helping a Woman Who’s Been Raped by Matthew Atkinson, LCSW
Potency:  Here’s some powerful, wisdom about potency. You have a magic wand pulsing between your legs. It’s a wand that can light up your woman’s body and do amazing things to her which can make you light up even more. Also true for or a man if you happen to love men.

Men! Your penis is a wand of light and awesome power. Think of it as your teacher.  So study and learn from it well.

Here’s a tip to help you spread pleasure throughout your whole body.

Imagine that your erection is connected all the way down the base of your body to your tailbone and up your spine. Your body is designed so that it’s you can feel pleasure rise all the way up your spine. Orgasms can rise up your spine when your spine is properly awakened. This takes the practice of yoga and stretching, using your spine more fluidly to keep it open to receive this much pleasure. Most men/women have muscle memories that cause tension and stresses which prevent us from feeling full body pleasure. Through massage and active movement of the spine you can begins to raise your orgasmic ability.

My clients tell me that like having a full body erection! I like that image a lot because it gives you 6 feet instead of 6 inches to feel intensely aroused.  That gives you a lot more room for pleasure to expand.

So hold the vision of pleasure rising up your spine and when you feel arousal breathe it up your spine… while moving your spine so as to invite the sensation of pleasure inward and upward! The benefits of this are vast as it rises it nourishes the organs in your body. Ancient Taoists and Tantric’s and others have known this for ages.

It’s time we all awaken and discover the power of pleasure within our whole body.

See it in your minds eye rising up through your belly as you breathe deeply into your belly… expand it!  Allow pleasure to enter your belly and grow through you.… it starts in your brain. As your thoughts are your greatest erotic trigger. So if you’re good with fantasizing to get off, try this out instead. Visualize your erotic energy as healing light. Let it fill your belly.

Breathe deeply inviting pleasure’s to rise inward, opening yourself to be filled with rejuvenating life forces!

Try connecting arousal throughout your body [or to any part that ails you for healing energy can be delivered there.]You will find that your wand NOW has a wider range of sensations which helps you last longer.  And live longer with a whole lotta love and laughter!

So that’s my gift to you and I hope you find it valuable. I’d love to hear your thoughts about this in the comments section. If you’d like more guidance in this journey of awakening, I can be your orgasmic awakener and would love to support your quest!




How Long Will It Take to Become Tantric?

Because everyone is unique, each person learns at his or her own pace.

You can learn the foundations of these practices during your first session.  Then, your progress will depend upon your commitment to mastering the art of being both aroused and relaxed, at the same time. (more…)

I’m Worried about Getting and Maintaining My Erections. Can Tantra Help Me?

I frequently encounter clients who, as they mature and their hormone levels shift, they begin to lose faith in their own sexuality.

Men become victims of the myth of the Perpetual Erection.  It has always existed, but it’s become even more destructive because of the way in which the issue is treated in most pornography, which always features a purported Superman.   That’s not reality.  Often porn stars use Viagra or “fluffers”, women whose job it is to keep them aroused and hard for their performance. (more…)