Mare Simone

San Diego City Beat Interviews Mare for The Sex Issue

maresimone — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 04:13:40 +0000

Mare Simone looks around the crowded Escondido café, her eyes searching for two seats in a quiet corner. It’s not that she’s ashamed of what she does for a living (quite the opposite, in fact); it’s that she knows most people would find her job description a bit, well, X-rated.“I do a lot of intimate things—very rarely is it intercourse,” she says, after snagging two chairs near the window, where the sounds of the barista’s espresso machine whir over her words. “Sometimes I do massage of genitals, also the anus, or what we call the sacred spot for the man— the perineum or prostate area…. I take someone’s hand and guide them toward their sexual awakening.”Simone is a certified sex surrogate. A day at work can mean Skyping with a 36-year-old virgin who has problems getting an erection, or heading into a bedroom with a couple whose sex life is lukewarm. Sometimes, penetrative sex is required, but the majority of the time, Simone’s just a coach or trainer who blends her tantric teachings with surrogacy techniques. Her goal is simply to produce better sexual partners. Her real bread-and-butter is helping men avoid premature ejaculation.

Sex “surrogacy” came about in the 1960s when the research team William H. Masters and Virginia E. Johnsonstarted seriously studying sex. Masters and Johnson developed the method of surrogacy specifically to help treat sexual dysfunctions. They found great success in pairing more traditional sex-therapy treatment with a much more intimate, hands-on approach.

A few documentaries and the occasional sex show like TLC’s Strange Sex have profiled the fascinating day-in-the-life of a sex surrogate. Simone’s been the subject of both, including a somewhat scathing article in the United Kingdom’s The Sun that ran under the headline “Meet the sexual healer who has slept with 1,500 men.” Yet even with the media attention, the field remains mostly in the shadows, lurking somewhere between acceptance and the idea that sex surrogacy is a form of prostitution.

“The most difficult thing is staying safe from the law,” Simone says. “I’m definitely working on a very fine line.”

Karen Gless, a licensed marriage-and-family therapist who specializes in couples and sex therapy, says that in some cases, surrogacy is the most effective treatment. She doesn’t recommend working with a sex surrogate without working with a therapist in tandem, but she defends the occupation as both professional (there’s even an association, the International Professional Surrogates Association) and pro-female, since surrogates most often train men to be better, more thoughtful partners for women.

“It’s a way of getting in touch with our bodies—getting present with our bodies and being able to be more touch- and sensory-based than just wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am,” she says. “And it’s not prostitution; it’s a therapeutic process. It isn’t about sexual gratification; it’s about learning how to be content with your own body and with your own understanding of sexual functioning in order to be successful.”

Gless, who’s been practicing in San Diego since 1985, says she used to refer some of her patients to sex surrogates but hasn’t come across a case for years that required it. Sex surrogacy is still relatively unknown—and shocking—to most people, she says, in part because sexuality continues to be such a taboo.

“It’s because we have a very Victorian society—that’s part of it,” she says. “Our society is so uptight that it’s kind of scary. And, in terms of us professionals, we have to worry about malpractice and all those kinds of things.”

A surrogate’s practice depends on referrals from licensed therapists, but the Internet has made it possible to survive without that dwindling support. Simone was trained in surrogacy in the ’80s before the rise of HIV and AIDS forced her profession even further to the fringes, but she evolved her practice to include the teaching of tantric-sex techniques, and these days, she says, a lot of her clients find her through her website,maresimone.com.

Simone was once a married, sexually frustrated woman. A history of abuse, rape and Christianity created a mental block, making her physically unable to enjoy sex.

“I knew that I was one of the statistics of women who wasn’t highly orgasmic,” she says. “I would read Taoist readings about seven levels of orgasms women could have, and I was fascinated. I wanted to know more about what wasn’t being told to me.”

A few decades of training and practice in surrogacy and Tantra have not only helped countless clients, Simone says, but, over the years, she’s also learned to help herself. Now divorced, Simone says she enjoys intimacy with a few different lovers and says she’s finally mastered female ejaculation.

“I think a lot of women have held back what’s a natural part of a woman’s orgasmic freedom,” she says. “When you have a female ejaculation, it just feels like a waterfall of light…. All the memories that were burdens come back to me, and it’s almost like I’m watching them spill out and go down the drain. Afterward, I feel so much lighter. It has a powerful impact.”

Simone wishes more women would take advantage of sex surrogacy and demand the experience of better, more powerful orgasms, but she finds that it’s mostly men who are out there Googling solutions to their own sexual dysfunctions.

“I think miracles can happen,” she says about her profession. “I’ve seen miracles happen…. It’s good stuff. You can tell I’m pretty passionate about it.”

San Diego City Beat, 02-08-2012 »THE SEX ISSUE By Kinsee Morlan

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Tantra Goddess’s Memoirs Revealed

maresimone — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 04:07:38 +0000

Soon after Caroline published her memoirs, I was stoked to find a copy on the bed-side table of an apartment in Hong Kong where I was invited to stay while working abroad. I remember clearly the impact she had on me upon meeting her at a tantra workshop that she and Charles led in LA 18 years before. Her sparkling azure eyes and her deep belly laugh captivated me. This was a woman who beautifully embodied love in ways I wanted to model. I couldn’t wait to devour her book and recall some of my most cherished memories with her.

Witnessing her exuberant affection with Charles and others she fancied, helped me to realize the possibilities of unbridled passion in my life as well. Reading her book made me appreciate the wisdom she taught by example. Her commitment to nurture others into wholeness as she did with Paul and Eric is a sacred statement of dakini mastery. I learned to value the profound powers of sexual healing through her. I feel honored to have dotted the pages near the end of her book and couldn’t put it down until I relived the times where she marked my mind with her colorful radiance.

Even though she struggled with sharing her beloveds, the times that she allowed her wild spirit to love freely empowers me to courageously open my heart with trust.

True to her title the Tantra Goddess reminds us to awaken joyful pleasure in our own lives. Her feminine wisdom continues to guide others through her book! I felt while reading it as though I was taken under her wing and shown the light and the darkness, the joy and the sorrow of opening to boundless love. In the end by being honest about her true nature she ultimately chose her happiness in a monogamous relationship. While reading her story I was reminded of the challenges in polyamory and it caused me to question my own views and values about monogamy versus the experience of limitless love.

Tantric Love in the Trees!

maresimone — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 07:58:20 +0000

Love is everywhere, we are, love.

Love is what created us.

It is the core of who we are.

Love connects us and pumps us up.

Re-Creates. Rejuvenates and Renews us

Love plugs us in to source

The force that creates all.

Revitalize and restore us…

Praise orgasms!

The big-bang that brings forth life.

Rejuvenating life force to all we touch.

Hear Healthy Sex Awareness with me & special guests on: Sex Talk Radio

maresimone — Fri, 25 Nov 2011 02:10:03 +0000

I’m excited to announce a new Internet radio net work that will illuminate, educate and enlighten the world about Sex! Spearheaded by the lovely, Veronica Monet, I am honored and inspired to be sharing my gifts among other luminaries of love such as Scott Catamas, Halley Elise, Francesca Gentille, Chrystal Bougon, Monika Thomas, Mysnikol Miller, Shama Helena, Anastas Harris and John Mariotti.

Our culture is so ready for the level of consciousness that this radio station will offer. We will turn heads and open up conversations that will enlighten and awaken the world about the healing, profound and pleasurable powers of sex.

Please join me for some evolved, healthy talks about sexuality and help us liberate the powers of pleasure. Help everyone realize that pleasure is what brought us to this planet! We each arrived on the peak of an orgasm :-)

Sex Talk Radio Network

The mission of SexTalkRadioNetwork.com is to provide a forum for experts and people in the know to share their experience and guidance to listeners on a global basis. Sex Talk Radio Network is the first of its kind. We want you to have fun with this. No other radio network offers you the variety, depth, and breadth of Sex Talk Radio Network. We are not shock radio. Unlike most sexually oriented networks and programs we are NOT one-dimensional or insulting. We ARE sexclectic! That means we take the holistic approach to real issues for real people highlighting sex’s connection to the rest of your life in an intelligent and empowering fashion so you will always feel uplifted, intrigued and inspired!

We’ll be launching soon… Stay tuned!

“Mare Simone is a mistress of the Tantric Arts. Intelligent and beautiful through and through, she is a True priestess and Dakini: a heavenly dancer of love personified.”

Charles Muir, director Source School of Tantra

Vacation

tantradmin — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 17:06:04 +0000

Join Charles Muir and staff for a seminar you will treasure for a lifetime. This relaxed seven-day honeymoon-style Vacation Workshop is for new students, people who have taken the weekend course and graduates who want to immerse themselves again in this extraordinary energy field of healing and awakening.

We cover all of our beginner weekend course information in greater depth, with many more experiential exercises and homeplay assignments. We also cover some profound new intermediate techniques. The Vacation Workshop schedule also incorporates plenty of time for sightseeing.

We will have highly trained and experienced associates available to assist you throughout the seminar with optional professional massages and private tantra healing sessions. Registration is limited to only 15 couples so sign up now to ensure your place and get the style of accommodation you wish. No explicit sexual activity takes place in class.

Come relax and regenerate in the best vacation of your life!

Learn Tantra at Home Multimedia Set

tantradmin — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 17:03:06 +0000

Guaranteed to work!

Learn Tantra at Home is the most comprehensive multimedia Tantra course available anywhere. The course includes 5 CDs and a 72-page illustrated booklet as follows:

Best-selling Secrets of Female Sexual Ecstasy DVD
Hardcover book Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving
Audio book Freeing The Female Orgasm, Awakening the Goddess
Plus Free Bonus: Muirs live presentation audio on CD, Introduction to Tantric Principles and Practices
Plus Free Bonus: Muirs live presentation audio on CD, Beyond Beginners Tantra

White Tantra Yoga Volumes 1-3 CD Collection

tantradmin — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 00:50:54 +0000

White Tantra Yoga (Laya Yoga) harnesses the power of your love, breath, and mind, directing it towards your chakras and body. It is a form of Kundalini Yoga which alternates the moving meditation of stretching with periods of profound sitting meditations.

Yogi Charles Muir, accompanied by award-winning New Age musicians, expertly guides you through this form of self love, self regeneration, and self realization. These productions are good for beginners and advanced Hatha Yoga students. They are a vital part of any Tantric practice.

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Tantra – Freeing the Female Orgasm

tantradmin — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 00:48:12 +0000

This audio course has helped thousands of women heal their physical, emotional and psychological wounds through therapeutic Sacred Spot massage. Now you can open your ability to have fast, powerful and extended orgasms. This audio course, which includes 3 CDs and a 72-page illustrated booklet, has helped thousands of women heal their physical, emotional and psychological wounds through therapeutic Sacred Spot massage. Now you can open your ability to have fast, powerful and extended orgasms. Not only that, you can be rejuvenated and awaken consciousness with these ancient magical Tantric yoga practices. This audio course will provide you with information and techniques so that couples can work as a team, clearing blocked and disorganized energy, thus opening the female to a new source of creative energy, fast, effortless orgasms and new levels of personal power and ecstatic pleasure.

“Powerful skills for intensifying our passion and prolonging your embrace. Sex can be an endless deepening into new levels of pleasure, connection and love.”
– Living Fit Magazine

Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving (20th Anniversary Edition)

tantradmin — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 00:46:50 +0000

A provocative and timely work, based on Charles and Caroline Muir’s popular Seminars, offers modern couples ancient Tantric secrets for deepening relationships, intimacy, and passion. Now in its 16th printing in 10 languages.

Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving hardcover book is arranged in two parts:

An initiation into Tantra, its goals and philosophy of life, the science upon which its practice is based, and how it works specifically for couples.
Sexual rituals, the Yoga or “union” couples practice, to achieve an ecstatic connection in loving.

This SPECIAL HARDCOVER 20TH ANNIVERSARY EDITION of the Muirs’ groundbreaking book on Tantra is an easy read, which will introduce you to all aspects of Tantra, from history to life-renewing practices.

If you are looking for a book that is just about the sex aspect, this is not it. This book is deep, and approaches intimacy from all perspectives, not just a purely sexual one. The thing that I like best about it is that it has enabled my husband and me to talk about things in our relationship in a non-confrontational way, and it gives us a vocabulary to discuss things that are sometimes hard to say. I think everyone can benefit from this perspective on learning to connect with another person, no matter what your relationship status or sexual preference. (Amazon Review)

Secrets of Female Sexual Ecstasy DVD

tantradmin — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 23:44:39 +0000

Educational, Erotic, and Visually Stunning!

This educational, erotic, and exceptionally-beautiful DVD from Charles and Caroline Muir will show you ways to more intimacy, passion, and emotional connection than you can now imagine. Explicit, yet not X-rated, sexual loving is depicted with an innocence, beauty, and wisdom that transforms sex into a new art form for the 21st century, with clear instructions to awaken and release unlimited orgasmic energy. You will banish boredom from your bedroom and significantly increase your lovemaking skills.

In this DVD you will learn:

Secrets of Erotic Kissing and Touch
Facts about Male Ejaculatory Choice, a Key to Creating Maximum Lovemaking Health, Creativity, and Power
Detailed Instructions for Female Sacred Spot (G-Spot) Massage
Female Ejaculation – The Truth about Amrita, the Divine Nectar

“Simply put, Secrets of Female Sexual Ecstasy is absolutely the best Tantra DVD ever made. It is filled with old wisdom, new practical instruction, and plenty of beautifully-filmed action that will set you on fire!”
– P.H. Birosik, Syndicated Reviewer

“This is a terrific video. The authenticity of the people and the bold beauty of your sharing is worthy of the deepest and highest honors. This movie is very rare as it speaks and shows the truth of sacred loving. Your presentation is remarkably beautiful and pure. The visionary artwork and the music that you selected are no less than perfect. Even the credits are fantastic! I actually watched them 3 times! Nice job from top to bottom, left to right, and through and through. I bow to you, and to all who helped in its creation and vision. Thank you for this honest and beautiful contribution to the upliftment of humankind.”
- T.L.

“The Muirs are leaders for a generation that desires a new form of relationship”
– Whole Life Times

“The ultimate result can be huge, powerful, wildly satisfying orgasms that seem to emulate from the depth of your soul!”
– Playgirl Magazine