The majority of women are unaware of their own mystique and sexual powers!  In fact most have barely experienced a glimpse of their orgasmic potential. We keep hearing that women are capable of being multi-orgasmic . Yet statistics show us that nearly 60% of women have difficulties achieving even one deeply satisfying orgasm!  Why is that?  What’s wrong with this picture!

It usually takes women longer to reach their pleasure peaks and so they often worry that their man won’t last long enough for them to be satisfied and reach a climax.  This compounds the problem and makes it all the more challenging, because stress and worry are orgasms worst enemy.  To make matters worse, men are hard-wired to come quickly to make sure that they sow their seeds in order to procreate the species.  They need to learn how to slow down and enjoy the journey more, so that women can too.

I can identify with this as I was one of the 60% of women who couldn’t reliably climax with a partner. I know the frustration, pressure and anxiety this can cause, which exasperates the situation. It burdens the relationship when women put this responsibility entirely on men. Yet it’s been a part of our cultural conditioning that men take the initiative in sex and when left to their own devices and instincts, men have not been very successful yet in finding the solution. Their sexual response comes rather spontaneously easy to rise and easy-to-fall into the abyss of bliss. This leaves a woman feeling unloved and incomplete.

It’s important for women to take matters into their own hands enough so that they can fully understand the pleasure potential that’s within her and how to access it.

Then she can educate her man, if he’s willing to take the adventure with her lead.  I can assure you it’s worth the journey even when it feels vulnerable and especially when it’s scary. That’s the greatest healing takes place.

I’d like to give you 3P’s to give a woman profound pleasure:  – Presence - Patience & Potency

Presence:  For most women erotic interest starts with the heart. She yearns to feel a connection that lets you know that she is loved, desired, seen  and really valued for all her wonderful characteristics. The more beautiful and cherished a woman feels with her man, the more likely she is to blossom fully in the warmth of his love. I’ve  experienced within myself that when I’m fully present and seen by my partner that intense excitement and incredible sensations can send a flood of warm tingling pleasure; sometimes without even touching!

The connection begins in the brain with the feeling of knowing that she is valued and loved completely which then allows her to easily surrender and let go totally. Total surrender allows her to open herself completely and receive your wildest passion. An artist of love can allure a woman to open and discover places neither she nor he knew existed!

When a man is off in his head fantasizing a scene he saw in a porn film somewhere… or thinking baseball scores to try and last long enough to satisfy her, the key element of connection is missing. Without connection it’s more like mutual masturbation which then reduces the experience to just trying to get off instead of celebrating a loving connection. When a woman feels like she’s just an object rather than a partner, she withholds her greatest treasures of pleasure.

Patience.  I encourage women to explore themselves and find their own rhythm and pace so that when met with their man, they can knowingly guide him to slow down enough so that she may tune-in to her pleasurable possibilities. This is especially important in the early stages of arousal when the desire is just beginning to stir and well before she begins to feel defeated. Frustration is toxic to an erotic environment. It comes off as needy, greedy and all about me.  A surefire passion killer.  I know I’ve been there too.

Start out slowly with the intention to build her desire arousing all of her erogenous zones and make an effort to explore more than the primaries. Delve deeply to discover exquisite pleasures that are possible yet dormant in her, yearning to be awakened. Women need to relax d-e-e-p-l-y and let their bodies feel and respond naturally to arousal. Breathe deep together and feel the sensations grow from subtle to sublime!

For women who don’t know what they like, want or need in the moment, as they’re always different… Don’t be afraid to explore. It’s fun to discover pleasure together and it empowers your man to be your Sex-God! A man who loves you is happiest when he can make you happy!   So don’t be shy or afraid to ask what your body needs. Learn to listen to your body and guide your partner to create a win-win.  He will thank you!   Men absolutely love to serve and please  their lovers… Right GUYS?

Making it an adventure to discover and explore and to numbness in the pleasure pain and sadness into joy together! And here’s how you can do it and make fun!  You’ll both enjoy it!

Important caveat: being with women who’ve been psychologically or physically abused sexually most likely requires some healing. This could be overwhelming for a partner to provide a container safe enough for her, without getting triggered. In those cases it’s helpful to find a coach or therapist who is qualified to guide the journey safely home.

You can learn techniques of sexual healing that you can use when trauma is activated.  This is discussed in-depth in another programs. Private coaching, Skype, Seminars all the way up to Certified Education at the Source School of Tantra.

2/10 women reportedly have been raped or sexually violated in ways it caused her to shut down. I believe many more than reported cases exists and that many women don’t report it because of shame and fear.

The emotional healing take some time and occurs in stages. For some it’s a  a short term glitch. Yet other times it a much deeper trauma that stirs up and unravels her family history of sexual abuse down to the cellular level…  as was the case in my experience.

I know, this is deep stuff! And it can get pretty scary sometimes. I caution you to get support when it’s overwhelming. But think of it as taking out the garbage. Or healing the wound of the past, with present, patient, prolonged pleasure.  No agenda but to help her blossom.

Women’s vaginas are like flowers! Before they blossom they need warmth and time to open naturally with desire !!

If there are glitches in her ability to feel fully responsive, which may be felt as pain or numbness instead of pleasure, know that those are wounds coming up from the past that can be healed in the power of the present.

In extremes or if she’s just been raped, read helpful guide: A Man’s Guide To Helping a Woman Who’s Been Raped by Matthew Atkinson, LCSW
Potency:  Here’s some powerful, wisdom about potency. You have a magic wand pulsing between your legs. It’s a wand that can light up your woman’s body and do amazing things to her which can make you light up even more. Also true for or a man if you happen to love men.

Men! Your penis is a wand of light and awesome power. Think of it as your teacher.  So study and learn from it well.

Here’s a tip to help you spread pleasure throughout your whole body.

Imagine that your erection is connected all the way down the base of your body to your tailbone and up your spine. Your body is designed so that it’s you can feel pleasure rise all the way up your spine. Orgasms can rise up your spine when your spine is properly awakened. This takes the practice of yoga and stretching, using your spine more fluidly to keep it open to receive this much pleasure. Most men/women have muscle memories that cause tension and stresses which prevent us from feeling full body pleasure. Through massage and active movement of the spine you can begins to raise your orgasmic ability.

My clients tell me that like having a full body erection! I like that image a lot because it gives you 6 feet instead of 6 inches to feel intensely aroused.  That gives you a lot more room for pleasure to expand.

So hold the vision of pleasure rising up your spine and when you feel arousal breathe it up your spine… while moving your spine so as to invite the sensation of pleasure inward and upward! The benefits of this are vast as it rises it nourishes the organs in your body. Ancient Taoists and Tantric’s and others have known this for ages.

It’s time we all awaken and discover the power of pleasure within our whole body.

See it in your minds eye rising up through your belly as you breathe deeply into your belly… expand it!  Allow pleasure to enter your belly and grow through you.… it starts in your brain. As your thoughts are your greatest erotic trigger. So if you’re good with fantasizing to get off, try this out instead. Visualize your erotic energy as healing light. Let it fill your belly.

Breathe deeply inviting pleasure’s to rise inward, opening yourself to be filled with rejuvenating life forces!

Try connecting arousal throughout your body [or to any part that ails you for healing energy can be delivered there.]You will find that your wand NOW has a wider range of sensations which helps you last longer.  And live longer with a whole lotta love and laughter!

So that’s my gift to you and I hope you find it valuable. I’d love to hear your thoughts about this in the comments section. If you’d like more guidance in this journey of awakening, I can be your orgasmic awakener and would love to support your quest!

Soon after Caroline published her memoirs, I was stoked to find a copy on the bed-side table of an apartment in Hong Kong where I was invited to stay while working abroad.   I remember clearly the impact she had on me upon meeting her at a tantra workshop that she and Charles led in LA 18 years before.  Her sparkling azure eyes and her deep belly laugh captivated me.  This was a woman who beautifully embodied love in ways I wanted to model.  I couldn’t wait to devour her book and recall some of my most cherished memories with her.

Witnessing her exuberant affection with Charles and others she fancied, helped me to realize the possibilities of unbridled passion in my life as well.   Reading her book made me appreciate the wisdom she taught by example.  Her commitment to nurture others into wholeness as she did with Paul and Eric is a sacred statement of dakini mastery.  I learned to value the profound powers of sexual healing through her.  I feel honored to have dotted the pages near the end of her book and couldn’t put it down until I relived the times where she marked my mind with her colorful radiance.

Even though she struggled with sharing her beloveds, the times that she allowed her wild spirit to love freely empowers me to courageously open my heart with trust.

True to her title the Tantra Goddess reminds us to awaken joyful pleasure in our own lives.  Her feminine wisdom continues to guide others through her book!  I felt while reading it as though I was taken under her wing and shown the light and the darkness, the joy and the sorrow of opening to boundless love.  In the end by being honest about her true nature she ultimately chose her happiness in a monogamous relationship. While reading her story I was reminded of the challenges in polyamory and it caused me to question my own views and values about monogamy versus the experience of limitless love.

I’m excited to announce a new Internet radio net work that will illuminate, educate and enlighten the world about Sex!  Spearheaded by the lovely, Veronica Monet, I am honored and inspired to be sharing my gifts among other luminaries of love  such as Scott Catamas, Halley Elise,  Francesca Gentille, Chrystal Bougon, Monika Thomas, Mysnikol Miller, Shama Helena, Anastas Harris and John Mariotti.

Our culture is so ready for the level of consciousness that this radio station will offer.  We will turn heads and open up conversations that will enlighten and awaken the world about the healing, profound and pleasurable powers of sex.

Please join me for some evolved, healthy talks about sexuality and help us liberate the powers of pleasure.  Help everyone realize that pleasure is what brought us to this planet!    We each arrived on the peak of an orgasm  :-)

Why would they target Temples devoted to love and pleasure and forcefully close them down?  What is wrong with our society that providing touch therapy and pleasure is under such strict scrutiny as if it were a crime?  While at the same time our TV, news and films are inundated with violent acts that condition us to become numb?  What’s wrong with this picture?

It was  September 6th, 2011;  for those who haven’t heard yet,  30 Priests and Priestesses from the Church of One, Phoenix Goddess Temple, and ISTA The International Institute of Temple Arts in Sedona, were indicted (more…)

Is your love life how you would like to be?  Do you want more love… greater intimacy?  Are you coachable?  Willing to be authentic and share your process for others to learn and grow from?  Would you like to be a success story and document the journey?

Yes!!? Register now to win up to a year of  free love and intimacy coaching with Mare Simone A,CTE  Advanced, Certified Tantra Educator and her associates.

We will be video and/or audio record at various times during and after sessions.   You can determine what to use and what you want to be private. The purpose is to to create real footage of real people having really profound breakthroughs in heart and body awareness.   All footage will be tastefully shot and edited to be sensually rich and educational. Your personal account of awakening love and pleasure to higher octaves, enlightens others who have similar issues [but who may not be as brave].  Others can learn vicariously through you, by witnessing and relating to you.

Take a quantum leap in your love and sex life, allow me to guide you into a luscious realm of the senses where your whole being will be renewed in the power of pure love and pleasure.

Contact Mare to apply.

Tell us why you should win this prize.  State what you want to explore and develop and how this may positively impact your life.  Please send some head-shots of you [and your partner, if you are in relationship].  This offer is open to men, women and couples.

Here’s a trailer of my work with a couple, on Strange-Sex – The Darlings see Sex Surrogate, Mare Simone. [sorry about the 30 sec ad at the start-up.]

Mare with The Darlings — On ‘Strange-Sex‘ – airs Apr 10,11

On The Learning Channel – TV, shot in Carlsbad CA  Jan/11

They did a lot of clearing and growing during those 3 days.  More footage has been shot since then and is being edited as we speak! STAY TUNED for continuing progress as it unfolds.

… Seeking a couple who want to learn to love and make love better… to JOIN me on British ITV

Making Love in full connection with hearts and bodies, is an expression of the divine. Soul is the offspring of such a complete and total union.  Sometimes this Soul creates a state of higher consciousness and clear thinking; which you can learn to channel! Or it becomes the miracle of creating another life! Brain child or baby it is a powerful time of creation.

Coming together heart, body and soul is a spiritual connection that makes love better and deeper than ever before.  It keeps it fresh, and true in new combinations.

Soulful sex is a direct connection and communion with the empowered part of one another.

WOW did they open!

Their love for one-another and their transparency to reveal their process of learning to love more is so authentically moving that they have been getting lot’s of supper support from friends and extended communities world-wide.

Monique’s blog exposes her exquisite way to process her feelings and awaken insights through journaling; which she and Nate express in a vivid, raw writing style that’s compelling to read.

I can’t wait to see the footage!

The Darlings are both brilliant in sharing their emotions, even the scary one’s as they are committed to being honest with courage. This is quite a gift she and Nate are providing, for those who can appreciate this level of intimacy and vulnerability.

Mare
xoxox

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Blog Samples:

… Monique: “Mare had Nate and I come sit back in the living room and wanted us to tell her more about what challenges came up in the home play(homework).

Nate: I had been unable to ask for anything.  To sit back and receive, what if I was putting undue pressure on Monique by asking for something she did not want to do?  What if I asked for something weird like kissing the back of my knees, and she judged me for it?  What if something I asked for triggered her?  What if my fingers reminded her of a penis, and brought back that trauma?”

(some of many) comments:

OL Your healing is healing the world. Namaste♥ LikeUnlike · 1 person

RB  Thank you Monique and Nate for paving the way to a liberated form of life. Dont we all wish we didnt have all these inhibitions which we are carrying lest we be judged and dammed. Kudos to all, Mare and all for their support on this. Aho UnlikeLike · 1 person

ML vow! what courage. what devotion. what commitment. what a journey!  Like

We’d love to see your comments too!

Read more here — it contains links to the Darlings BLOGS too.

If YOU want to be the NEXT COUPLE to with with Mare, + learn to love better…

FREE sessions if  willing to help document your progress for TV/DVD + web in the UK [or the US]

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After the onslaught of being a misquoted media darling last year [9/15/09] thanks to The Sun, I was relieved and honored to be interviewed, for another UK magazine called, “Love It”!

I will post a copy here ASAP!

If you have access to this article and can FAX or SEND it to me, I will give you a free 60 min consultation by phone, Skype or in person!!!

Although “Love It” it doesn’t get the same exposure as The Sun does,  because it is not an online publication; I was very happy for the opportunity to clarify and define the facts about my work and education as a Sex Surrogate/educator/activator.

The article was very favorable, though I haven’t seen a copy of it yet… the reporter read it to me over the phone. I was moved to tears of joy to hear her version of my story which was clearly respected and represented me in a light that made me feel validated and elated!

I love my work and the people that I am able to work with and so I cherish the opportunity to express and educate others about sexual enlightenment  in a way that gives them an accurate picture of what I offer and the types of conditions that I have been able to help people improve upon.

While I wait for the magazine to arrive at my doorstep, so that I can post it here on my blog; I invite you to view it on the magazine stands in the UK.

For the 1st 2 who FAX me a copy — you get a FREE 30 min phone or Skype session with me!

October was devoted to Breast Awareness.  Inspired by American Cancer Society’s “Breast Awareness Month” I decided to put a lot of loving attention and positive awareness on my breasts throughout the month.

I had the amazing opportunity to taste human mother’s milk for the first time when at Tantra Palooza – a 4-day workshop in San Diego.  She was lactating and her baby was not there to nurse so she offered me a taste.  I was so moved by that gesture that I asked her if I could share this precious nectar with the attendees of the class I was teaching that afternoon on Breast massage.  She was very willing to share and even spoke of her experiences with Orgasmic Birthing!!! [see the movie trailer here]

We were all blessed by this gift and some moved to tears.

This month was very significant for me in numerous profound and delicious ways.  (more…)

In the first year of my tantra training

I shared an intensive week with 30 others at a tantra boot camp in the magnetic red rocks of Sedona, Arizona.     We transformed  a former Chinese restaurant with crimson dragons that greet you, waterfalls and gardens to delight your senses… , into a luscious Tantra temple.    Together we did some life transforming work that week.

We were guided in many ‘clearing and reclaiming power’ exercises over the course of 7 days and nights.  Men were encouraged to exercise and nourish their libido by getting aroused and sustaining it for longer and longer periods of time; without ejaculating for the entire week.

Playing at the edge without going over, allowed men to expand their capacity and range for pleasure.  The sexual tension created so much testosterone I was dripping with excitement.

The Big O was an intense prolonged peak which filled me was so much energy it electrified me.

It not only gave us amazing, expanded orgasms together but it instilled an exuberance the continued on days later.  This kind of orgasm leaves a lasting impact of being recharged and reborn!  (more…)